Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

How is his wrist?

I've been keeping busy with friends during the day, but then at night I am back in my house with sleeping children, and all my friends are with their partners or doing family things :(

I think its killing him to be honest but he says 'its fine'.

I usually stick my excercise dvd on when the kids are in bed.Would that be an option?I hate the thought of doing it but once im done i feel soo much better.Excercise is proven to help depression.My gp has always recommended it.

Aww a trooper then :)

I should do exercise. I know logically it would help. At that level of not being able to though

Thanks all, never thought of eharmony, might check it out. I know they sometimes do those 'contact your matches for free' weekends, so might look out for the next one. I've had some total freaks contact me via POF, including a man who kept a spreadsheet of all his dates (where they went, marks out of ten etc) and a different bloke who told me to fuck off just because I didn't respond to his message within the first nanosecond. So understandably I'm reluctant to go back on there.

I'm in Yorkshire, so London-based sites aren't relevant for me. Think I'll stick to the national ones.

I've had a go on paid sites. And free ones. I don't actually think there is much difference between the two.maybe it depends on the area you live In?

Am feeling really good. Had a super productive day. Done loads of washing, cleaned the bathroom, hovered and mopped the whole house. Brought and built a bookcase ( with a little help from my dad) gutted dds room. Walked the dog. Haggled a petshop owner down on a rabbit hutch in the style of some apprentice challenge. Been to work for a meeting and emptied all the bins. Cooked a homemade tea and washed up. Have done home work, and child is in veg and I've even done tomorrows packed lunches. Go me!!!!

Flame. Sorry you feel bad.

Snape. Why haven you had any messages???? I don't understand that at all. Have you sent Any?

Elasat, sorry about the date... maybe he thought it was just a casual drink and natter thing? Rather than a date,date ifswim??

yeah, i do occasionally - and i normally get a nice reply - it's just a natural lull i think...thats OK - gives me an opportunity to eat potato wedges and listen to some podcasts (how alluring am i!?) ;)

About as alluring as I am. In my mismatch pj combo watching come dine with me... tis a rock and roll life I lead :)

it's ok. am pretty certain we scrub up equally well.

CubaCat - I've tried POF a couple of times now but I'm 'out in the sticks' and last time ended up being found by somebody I know and also came across a work colleague who's actually living with somebody at the moment... each one to their own! Anyway, small place here and all the freaks seem to be on POF (myself included albeit for a few days only?!?!)

Tookool: when he first suggested going out, he specifically asked when he could take me out so no, I don't think there's any misunderstanding there... Just that he couldn't be bothered / didn't think i was worth anything better than the crappy pub. Even 'toxic waste' showed more effort when we first went out! I'm in a dark mood atm... :( Moving on, how is the new hair? And well done for high productivity & dates - the only way is up!!! When is the next one then? :)

Flame: I've gone from doing a Divina dvd to going swimming as I find it very soothing. Have you got a leisure centre nearby that you could go to? Some of them have got a nice little spa area too...

Shall I re-join POF for the 4th time?!?!

Gypsy weddings on... DS down here with me.

"When can I see you get married?"
"Um... I need a boyfriend first..."
"I know! Carrot!" (obv his actual name...)
"No. Not him. He is just a friend"
"But you like him...."

Obvious to a bloody 4 yr old!

You know, I actually cried in the car on the way back home. I had a really tense day and I feel so, so low... I just want to be loved and hugged! I work so bloody hard, I look after myself and am told that I am good looking (albeit intimidating), have hobbies & interests, am raising ds on my own, live in a nice house. I know that overall I have got a lot to be proud of. But then why is it I can't even meet somebody who thinks that I'm worth a nice drink at the nice country pub nearby?!?!

Because boys suck.

Aww Matt is texting to ask what is up. That has brightened my evening, having someone who knows me in rl care.

lol flame
stella have a look on the relationships thread and be glad to be a single with all your advantages, rather than in a miserable marriage
fwiw if you'd been really into that bloke you'd have happily met him in your local, and it would have seemed amazing just because of the company

right... on line dating...i am sure you have posted links many time but could do again... please?
if you cant write it on here even a msg would be great

what do you do girls? if you like s/o do you check on here if somebody has already had a date with them? OOOh so mean I know, just being practical really

you're right ninah but the part of the problem is that i was taken for granted by my parisite exh and then had a long-term relationship with another blood-sucker! It'd be nice to be appreciated as woman for a change and I think the choice of venue comes with it. Not just that but before he postponed the first date, the original arrangement was actually for us to go to a nice country pub (my suggestion) which was why I was even more miffed when he suggested the crappy one around the corner!

too right Stella
minimum effort (so he can chat right up 10 minutes before and go back as soon as you part)

hi just for this one. Dont worry about us all dating the same man - the odds on that are pretty low as we are spread all over the country. you can always post a link to someones on line profile if you spot a particularly good - or bad profile

Thought you ladies might like to know that on eharmony it's currently free communication fortnight, until 15th Feb. Just filling in their psychological profile thingy while watching Big Fat Gypsy Weddings. Yep, I know how to live, me.

Ela... I was thinking more along these lines
a newcomer may bump straight away into idiots and left overs , good to check if you had already vetted them off... silly me... I know is a vast pool.... still my target market is quite restricted (by AGE)

cannot register on eharmony
next...

Thanks for tip off cuba, thought I'd give it a go. Spent ages answering q's ...

Unfortunately, based on responses to our questionnaire, we occasionally find situations where our matching system cannot identify high quality compatible matches, and this has happened in your case. ..
We apologise and regret our inability to find good matches for you. ...
We wish you all the best in your search for that special someone.

Computer says NO! now I feel really cr+p!

Just, did you get that too?
shall I try again saying I am 22 and tactile lol

I haven't even got to the end of the questions yet! How many???!!!

exactly, bloody thousands
feel really rejected now

i've got no matches at all! also went through the whole thing... thanks for the tip though, cuba!

just: did you ask me about some nice farmers around here? they're kept under lock by the nice wives ;)