Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

Snape i dont think he likes me, maybe its my confidance thing i dont know. I tend to beat myself up due to the confidance knock my ex gave me and continues to give me.

I have seen him again today with his family and friends he put his hand up as in today hello i did the same back

You really need to say Hi, and smile see what he does back. I have high hopes that he replys with a smile

He didnt have to take that seat he could have looked around for another

Forgot to add Mily i hope you have lovely weekend even though its going to be a busy one x

hello everyone hope you're all having fab weekends :)

one of the girls at work has persuaded me to go on POF (she has had 5 dates in 2 weeks so I thought it might be worth a try) so did my profile last night. Have thus far had 5 messages telling me how gorgeous I am, and one saying I am hotter than a glamour model . Its all total bs of course but quite flattering in a way :)

Obviously if they could see me as I am now (no makeup, hair like a birds nest, wearing scruffy housework clothes) I expect they would all think rather differently!

Sponge, I thought you were on POF already.

Still sat here in PJ's although I have been out for petrol, coffee and sausage bab, but put a long coat over my them.

Went for a run last night, still off the cigs, nearly through 'heck week' so it's supposed to be just a case of resisting temptation in weak moments to have cracked the habit.

After some text tennis yesterday with EV. I suggested he rang me in the evening which he did, just need to try and fix up another date as his plans are up in the air atm.

Right must get on shower, hairwash and housework.

no, have never tried it before but as its free thought it might be worth a go and provide a bit of entertainment :)

sounding good re EV, hopefully you can arrange another date soon.

I need to get on with housework too, rather than sitting here cosily on sofa with coffee and laptop. DS1 is normally quite good at nagging me to do stuff but he has gone to a footy match so its just me and DS2 who is happy to live in mess!

right 5 more minutes and I'll make a start.....

just before I go, have to share this gem from someone's profile:

'Im currently writing a book and hopfully thats going to be my new proffeson, so if you are intelectuall, message me'.

If you want someone intellectual, I think it helps if you know how to spell it. Alternatively use the word clever.

Am tempted to message him and ask about the book heis writing!

With POF you do get some nohopers so best to ignore most and get a nice surprise when someone decent pops up.

Still here as I missed the Brits so watching it. Plan B on.

ha - sponge - have fun on there.. bet you have a date within a week.

snape - you HAVE to talk to him, please :) make some comment about it being monday again... then that can lead into was it a good weekend... other weekend plans.. and you might even have a date next weekend.

Beautician - hope you are doing ok.

I am having a miserable day. DD is with her dad for the first time in a month because he has been away, and my planned lovely weekend of un interputed bliss is not so great.
Am feeling rather sorry for myself and sort of fed up of being on my own. Been planning things for the summer, and i know it will be excellent, but id kind of like someone to share it all with.

Plus i went to the solicitors thur to start the actual divorce off ( its just been one of those things that didnt seem that important) and though of course i cant wait to be actually divorced and have no feelings for the fucker ( cant actually believe i was married to him) its just kind of made me realise i have been on my own for over 2 years. which is rather a long time.

Then ( and i know this makes me seem very very jealous) but that damn ' boss asked me out on a date' thread in chat.. why dont things like that happen to me?

Plus the policeman ( before i blocked him) asked how come i am STILL single as i shouldnt have a problem finding a man. I of course replied with something cutting and witty... but then the last few days have been wondering if my standards are now too high... Ive got such a huge list of deal breakers that maybe im waiting for someone who is very unlikely to exist.

I took DD to the cinema last week too. I usually walk about feeling quite young and reasonably attractive. I felt fecking old in the cinema. It was saturday afternoon and packed full of teenagers looking all thin and trendy and made me feel like a frumpy mum and tbh though i might pretend to be cool and carefree... i am in fact a sometimes frumpy mum.. which might not be a very attractive prospect to men.

meh.
need a slap round the face and some cheering up.

adamschic, well done on the ciggie-front. it's been a week for me!

PM over for tea/booze tonight, he'd texted me that he has a spare small flat screen telly for Ds1, if that's OK with me, but didn't want DS2 to feel left out, so what should he get him? suggested thathe buy him some seeds to plant in the grow-bags i just lugged home. really, things would be much,much easier for me on the platonic front if he could maybe not be quite so bloody wonderful.

tookool, sorry you're feeling low ( we x posted..) I really do think it's OK to have high standards. the last guy i went out with was actually physically repulsive. seriously. the worst teeth i have ever seen, short, tubby, awful personal hygiene - and I went out with him for SIX YEARS because my self esteem was SO low and i was THAT desperate. you hang in there, seriously. please don't sell yourself short. :(

I'll write more later - DS1 was sick and has now taken to my bed for a sleep and I'm trying to charge my laptop in my bedroom (and type quietly!) take heart and don't give up. I promise i will try to talk to train guy on monday if you promise to try to cheer up a little! ;)

hmmm. i will try and cheer up after you have spoken to him! lol

thats doesnt sound good id you say he was physically repulsive.. why did you go out with him if you felt that way? esp for 6 whole years?

Im just kind of feeling that maybe im not quite such a good a catch myself and am maybe setting my standards too high. but then i think back to last weekend and the god awful QM and dear god i couldnt touch him with a barge pole.
Then mr policeman asked me out, and i said yes, but within an hour or two his bloody constant texting and 'hehe' and overuse of bloody exclamination marks and lols and hun and babe was so bad that setting my feet on fire would have been preferable.

PLus we have a charity fundrasing thing at work ina few weeks. one of my collegues was moaning that she might have to go on her own as her parnter might be working late. I said that i was going on my own, and she replied that it was ok for me as i was used to it.

AND iv got a ton of work that needs doing in the garden, stuff that i cant do. so rather than having a nice afternoon in the garden with my boyfriend. digging, wine, lots of flirting, ending up with bed or in the shower ( as what happens in my head) i have to pay £30 for the gardener, who is good looking but bloody married to come sort it for me.

AND i want to paint, but again, rather that doing it a nice way with someone i have to beg family to come help me. ( and as my mum says... we will help you because you are on your own... yes. because i need reminding of that dont i mother!!!! )

Have a date on thur. probably. But no time or location has been set and the last i heard from him was on thursday.

Meant to have another date on tuesday, but same thing. no time of location... last heard from him wednesday. So unlikely to happen.

AND im pissed off. because how can my ex husband - the lying, cheating, thick, bald headed, unfashionable, rather a lot overweight and all round git be in a long term relationship and doing all the nice family things that he would never do with me.

and me, whos lovely, ( and everyone said when i kicked him out that i woiuld find someone as lovely as me) is bloody single.
and the only person i find in a whole 2 years, is mr big. the most unsutiable man on the planet ( and who is not as lovely as me at all)

AND, im getting abit pissed off with trying to look interesting. I do do things. i go out, but on the whole i work, look after DD and the dog and the house and then im stuck in in the evenings. Chatting to people on bloody dating sites is shit sometimes. They ask what you are up to, and basically, if its a weekday... it will be work and thats it ( or couse i lie and say soemthing else)
The only times i do things is when DD is with her dad, other than that its family type things with her... which i love. but doesnt seem that exciting.. or interesting.

POliceman asked what i did... and he said he lived for his job. I said i worked part time for a charity, and it was ok. He asked if it was ok, why didnt i do soemthign else ( QM also looked down his nose at me for my part time working) But i dont wan tto do anything else. im happy with it. I dont want ( i ahve had but it was awful) a career, high stress job. I want a non stress, go to work ,come home and forget about it, low responsibilty job. and thats what ive got. Not becase im stupid, far from it, ive had some very very good jobs in my time.. but because this is what works for me at this stage in my life.

ah bum. i need to go eat some chocolate or something and get a grip dont i.
bloody self indulgent whine.

physically repulsive but the sex was amazing! although i always had to be drunk to do it. :(

still, that is (mercifully) in the past.

TK, you know, i think we all feel like that sometimes. really, you're not alone in this. it is difficult - I'm not going to fib about that, but i think it's just a wee dip and you'll naturally come out of the otherside when you're ready. i suggest giving yourself a treat night, avoiding any telly/dvds that might be even slightly romantic (slasher/zombie films are advised!) lots of yo('ll feel better soon - and we're all here and on fb etc for you to w(h)ine at. :)

ill be fine tomorrow. i know :)
im just feeling a bit sorry for myself and can see that im probably going to be single for a while longer.

I think ive even forgotten how to be in a relationship anyway ( because, lets face it, The ex husband was hardly ever around anyway, and when he was he was being vile to me)

What i need is a good night out. The ellusive good night out in a pub. I wish i could find someone to come with me. Everyone is in bloody couples. the women dont want to come, or want to stay in and be with their partners. I literallty no not one single person, or have no partner in crime for going out with. it is poo.

Tookool, not caught up properly as I need to get on, been slobbed out all blooming day and the house is a tip, but whispers do you really believe the boss thread? I'm a bit it sounds too scripted. Been lurking on it and wanted to ask her if the film was any good as I'm seeing it tomorrow.

no. i bloody well dont.
It doesnt happen like that for anyone ive ever known in real life ever.

You dont go on one date and then plan to whisk someone away for the weekend and ask them to be your girfriend after one date.
it just doenst work like that.
i fecking wish it did.

Oh and she doesn't like the car it's too flashy being a jag, and that fact that the batchelor pad is a bit big, I would dump the bastard on these points alone. Oh and the clothes. PMSL. Anyway very bad form to discuss other threads. OK for some people it might happen, after all there are good looking wealthy men asking out stunners somewhere in the world but!! Going back for a lurk.

shes not got any children either.. so not all that sure what shes doing ( or how she even found) mumset.

i dont give a shite if its bad form or not.
it cant possibly be real, and doesnt todays lunch all sound a bit 'sex and the city' to you.

good looking wealthy men do exist and ask out normal people. ( mr big) however.. there is normally a reason that they are single........

( dear lord. i sound like a miserable, bitter old hag!)

Yes so a single, childless woman, who may or may not have her boobs done just joins mumsnet and suddenly this fantastic story unfolds, pull the other one! Right better stop this now.

Oh no rumbled. Will correct my post and say I am an ugly hag.

fwiw, I had a similar view re that thread. and as someone who - in her distant youth- did date her boss and got taken on weekends away (before he cruelly dumped me suggesting I should find someone my own age....he was 20 years my senior!) it's all a bit unlikely.

no doubt this will make it back to the thread in question too - is it just me who thought no-one but 'us' read our thread?

tookool, we do all feel a bit meh about the whole dating/single thing sometimes, snape is absolutely right. I try not to think about it too much tbh because if i do start thinking about it I feel :(, but I also get the 'you're used to being on your own' comments. Or another favourite - 'oh you cope with it so well' like I have some serious illness or something!

re the night out, it may be a way off but if you're free do come to our next London meet (when we get round to arranging it that is!)we are all very nice in RL honest! and you're more than welcome to a bed here for the night as well, if you can excuse the half finished state of my house that is :)

No dates yet from POF just lots of messages from men with no shirts, holding their stomachs in........

ha. sponge - just you wait, the cock pictures will soon be flooding in!! lol

i would love to come to the london meet. and i dont mind crashing wherever ( but may have to prewarn that i look very scary without makeup!)
lol at the ' you cope so well comment' typical isnt it. and a bit shite.
least i know its not be that feels this way sometimes, and i feel abit better already.

i didnt think anyone else read this thread either... adn it was very quickly reported from one thread to the other huh. lol
ive been very firlmly told i am wrong.
so.
lol

planning on growing my hair really long and hanging it out of my bedroom window in the hope that some prince charming may climb up it.. becuase it seems, fairytales do exist!

:) :) :) :)

and anyway snapes train man story is far more interesting and romantic than the other thread.
if we were voting x factor style.. snape, you would be going to the final!

lol

i read it. & Very tempted to do similar thread, get everyone whipped up and then relate that object of affections had tint, tiny cock.

wish PM would hurry up. have cracked open the and listening to Tom Waits.