Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

Ha, ha, at threatening to put them on fb.

Why do men think these things are welcome, different if you have met and are planning to have sex with them. It's worth knowing if it's worth it.

No idea. I have also been told they dont usually behave like that but just happened to have prepared one earlier on their phone .....

Lou we can always rely on you.

I'm at work too and just looking in, its mad busy here.

Still haven't heard from 'NEXT!' although I haven't looked today yet.

Beaut - I know it hurts, but its better you find this out in the early days.

I wasted many years on Al.

Welcome Yummy.

Sparkly - you've now got a sparkly office too

Hi to everyone else.

yes, there was a smile from me, i think i scared him with teeth and eye contact, but dashed past before he had a chance to reciprocate. I am clearly going to have to say hello tomorrow. this fills me with dread. poor train guy, every movement - dissected by the vipers!

:)

ahh i remember unsolicited cck pics. I don't even get those* these days!

yummy - ask him if he knows such and such a pub/cafe/restarant/ has seen such a such a film - you were thinking of checking it out...

or a simple - 'what are you up to this weekend then?'

then he either gets the massive hint and asks you out - or doesn't. :)

mily, mmmmmhyacinths! ther are some on my walk to work, I always stop to smell the flowers :)

Snape, You very much remind me of myself, I started off not even being able to even look at him when he clearly was looking at me, I started off trying to get over my shyness with a simple smile that progressed to an Hi then to a Hi you ok?

Lol at brushing your teeth ready for that pearly white smile

Also i like your idea of what you up to this weekend, When i see him alone and we say Hi i will try and get that question in there, But only if his family or friends arnt around i dont want to make a fool out of myself

lou33 i love your idea of the cock shots going on fb, They wouldnt dream of doing that again plus it may be the wake up call they need, Not by putting them on fb but simply saying you would if he ever sends one again, May make him think twice

aahh, my 'shyness' is all bound up with the things my ex said when he left, which although i know were rubbish, still niggle away at moments of low confidence. :) I do lack confidence with men. no-one i have ever had butterflies over has liked me back, I didn't really like the kids dad that much, I was overwhelmed by the romance of the situation - my last bloke was short, hairy and gnome like - i think i'd reasonned that that was all i deserved - but I wasn't that bothered when he screwed around on me, because it meant i could dump him.

now, men i like, i can't flirt with. i blush a little and stammer. men i'm not all that bothered with get the full 100% dazzle, because i know it's highly unlikely I'd ever stoop low enough to 'date' them (...) what i probably need to do is a (very quick!) 24 hour confidence build and tell myself I'm not all that bothered about train guy ( he probably has a very effeminate voice, or funny toes, or an incredibly tiny tadger...)at which point I will be able to actually stop talking about it to you lovely, supportive ladies and actually do something...

...or not! :)

My ex who left me for OW while i was pregnant has said some vile things to me aswell, Mainly about my weight. I am not huge but im not skinny like OW so maybe thats why he digs at me so i know how you sort of feel.

I go red and stutter, I spoke to the guy i like the weekend just gone to say i hadnt seen him in a while and was he ok, I just couldnt get many words out, it was dark so couldnt see how red i went lol I should have asked him in for a cuppa but didnt want him to think im trying to hard or something

I over think things alot too, Which is one of my downfalls if im honest.

talk me up ladies! i am eating crisps and drinking and indulging in reckless train guy fantasies. :)

what will the 7.49 bring? please be crowded!

ooh tell us your fantasies snape!

Oh Snape do tell

oh ladies! i'm not sure you're ready for that! !

Lol maybe your right

I need to stay positive to try and talk to this guy i like, I hope to see him alone very soon.
I would want the ground to open up if he says no thanks!

I bet its nice knowing he`s going to be on that train tomorrow morning bright and early

joining in in time for some juicy Snape fantasies if I may :-)

snape, good luck on the train tomorrow

Yay Eve, on your date

Well done, snape, it's definitely a start... enjoy the fantasies!

Good luck Yummy, he sounds like he could be interested, but every bit as shy as you are.

Good luck with the job elasta, even if it's not necessarily what you want, it's still a good ego boost.

It's his loss, Monty... Next!

Beaut, it's a horrible situation, but you've handled it really well, I hope it all works out for the best. If it doesn't work out with DG, it's because there's someone more suitable that you just haven't met yet, who will accept your situation without question.

Hello to everyone else

This week is going from bad to worse... Poor little DD has been throwing up since 3am, so we will not be going to the funeral tomorrow as I need to be at home with her. DS is (thankfully) ok with us not going. We are going to plant something in the garden as a memorial and will go and visit his grave at some point, when we get the chance.
DD won't be going away as I don't think she'll be well enough, but hopefully Ex will look after her for a bit over the weekend and DS and I can still have some time to ourselves... and I thought it would be nice to have half term at home for a change.

I'm in a good mood today, date from Wednesday night has text this morning. I thought he would as he asked if we will see each other again before we said goodnight on Wednesday, but you can never tell with these dates can you?

That's good Eve :)

Snape, we're waiting for an update!

FLF, hope DD feels better soon.

Hi All

Welcome Yummy

Elasta Ooh good news on the date.Fingers crossed for you.

Eve Your date sounded great glad you had a good time.Typical to bump into 3 men all at once though haha.

Sponge Gosh i hate mice have had them in two previous homes.I found those plug ins that send out a sound to the mice really helped in the end think that was what got rid of them.I hope you are referring to an actual mouse and that it isn't code for one of your dates

Snape Hahahaha at speaking to train guy.At least a whole word left your lips though and you didn't stumble over it.I love hearing about it all though so you must try harder just for me hahaha.

Flf Aww so sorry you can't get to the funeral.Is a lovely idea to plant something in your own garden though.I hope DD feels better soon.

Sorry to anyone i've missed.Thank you to everyone with your kind words re DG.

I am trying to remain strong is so hard to not communicate with someone when you have previously every day.I keep looking at my phone.I'm tryhing to keep busy though and am having a much needed night out tomorrow.I'm quite poor so shouldn't really but the bills will have to wait i need to let my hair down.

FLF - do hope your DD is feeling better. I agree - lovely to plant something in memory -how about rosemary - for rememberance - or lavendar or honeysuckle, so when you get the scent, it reminds you as well as being a visual thing :)

Beaut. you're doing really really well. keep it up.

train guy? i got there first again this morning, platform really crowded and train late - he eventually arrived and was at other side of huge bunch of folk - then he turned and went upstairs (!) train arrived. I'd missed the announcement that next train was on different platform (silly ipod!) so went to different platform - stood vaguely near him - train arrived and he stood behind me to get on train (I'm a mum. obviously I have eyes in the back of my head ) i got a seat - he got one on the next bank of seats, sitting opposite me, so we could see each other if we needed to - but not too close.

this could go on for weeks. I've decided he is incredibly handsome. I can hardly look at him. ity's like staring at the sun. I could easily dispense with my usual sensible 'get to know someone first' rule. He is just beautiful. sigh!

and now we all have to wait a long weekend for an update - still platonic man is coming for dinner tomorrow. There will be very very much wine. :)

FLF i hope your DD is better soon, Nothing worse then having a sick child. My DS picks up anything going which is a nightmare.

adams, Sounds like he would like another date by the sounds of it as he wouldnt have bothered to text if he didnt have a great tim with you

Hi Beaut, And thank you

Update on the guy i like, Well this morning after taking some extra time to get ready, I bumped into him alone I then sat for a while in the car while warming it up thinking just speak to him, if you dont then you will regret it!

I say morning, He smiles says morning and walks over to my car. (i went bright red and couldnt keep my eyes on him as not only was i bright red i kind of got a huge smile on my face too ) We spoke for a good 10minutes about ourselves

I STILL didnt ask him to meet up the weekend, Didnt want to push things iyswim.

I do feel he should ask me really, but i know thats just old fashioned. I do really like him and i hope he likes me too. I would love to get to know him a bit more, Maybe it will happen ay who knows.

I havent removed this grin from my face all day

Yummy! :) :) :) :) :)

next time! you don't actually have to say, 'so! fancy a coffe?' you can let him think it's his idea to ask you, if you're feeling a little old fashioned about it!

snap i was so tempted to offer him out for a drink but i just went totally shy about the whole situation. He`s really lovely, Told me a bit about himself how hes moving into a place nearer me and that he will be house sharing.

I feel so happy i actually bit the bullet and spoke to him, I was rather shocked he came over to make converstation, He didnt have to did he. I was expecting the whole morning you ok and nothing more

I hope you get into a stage where train man talks to you, He may be sussing you out since he sat so close to you, Maybe looking for a ring to make sure your not taken?

helloooo, 2 mins before dashing to get DDs, quick Hi

yummy, go on go on go on, ask him for a coffee

eve, yay re dates text

snape, go on go on go on, moinday you have to smile and chat [smile}

Beaut, you are holding up so well, you definitely deserve to let your hair down

FLF, (((()))), love the idea of planting something to remeber him

gotta run now and may not get chance to post over the weekend as will be all over the place

xxxxx

yummy! you have to! he's absolutely interested in you!

right. you lot talk me up over the weekend and i will clearly HAVE to talk to him on monday. am now fantasizing about bumping into him in waitrose. clearly he would be with his gf i tend to think he sat 'so close' as it was the only seat left! ;)

oh, but he. is. FINE!