Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

BNM - that is a very measured and thoughtful response - i think it's a wise course of action. hope you're feeling better soon.

FLF - how very sad.:(

Lou, sorry i missed youon fb last night - wasn't being rude! just didn't see you. :)

no train man today- but boys not in school tomorrow, so will get the right train. :) not sure note dropping a good move when i can't even smile at him yet. BIG conspiratorial smile is the way forwards i think :)

packed DD back off north today. really really miss her. :( i know it's just until exams are done, but she was here for a week and it was heaven! had a big talk about how she was a year or so ago (hormone driven nightmare child!) & I'm so proud of how she has calmed down and grown up. She was saying she hated being awful, and knew she was, but hit out because she was stressed - she knew i still loved her and that kind of helped her feel better. she's very sensible and lovely and I miss her tons. I made a good peoples! :)

FLF really sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you

Beaut - it is really hard for you I know - but if it is right it will work out for you.

Had a call from mr global warming this eve. We are planning to meet next week and have date in diary for week after as well. He is lovely! So fingers crossed

Beaut, sounds like the right course of action, I really admire your attitude. And is not self-indulgent of you to come and talk about this stuff here.

Flame, fingers crossed

Snape, your DD sounds so lovely and you made her

Elasta, sounding good

i'm so mighty confused... ok, i was never THAT sure about 'vng' but not only did he cancel date yesterday (tried to move it to tonight), he's now sent me a text saying that he's had some very bad news / family stuff and has to be away all weekend. right, so we've had friend in need, work commitment and now family crisis. no new date or real apology. i don't understand the guy... he asked me out, he seemed keen, he bought valentine's card & chocolates...am i missing something here? i sent what i thought was a nice reply and ignored the lack of kisses at end of his text and added one to end of mine which seemed to soften him up a bit. i can't believe this guy is a player but then what is his problem? or does he think i really don't care? anyway, he ended by saying "we will speak soon x x x" . any suggestions? :(

Can someone catch me up please?

I think I am finally done dealing with Brackets. He is picking up his soddin dvd from mate's shop on Saturday so I don't have to deal with him.

Have taken my profile off POF and OKC. I can't be doing with another nutter. Still talking to Smurf a lot but even him I am wary of now. Download told me to keep trying and not give up hope etc.

Had a card reading last night (switch off now anyone who is anti-things like that) which was interesting. Pretty much telling me to carry on enjoying myself and to stop feeling guilty about not doing the housework etc in "my" time. To realise my strength and when I crumble look back to where I was 6 months ago etc. Romance was pretty much a hang on in there thing, 4 months. Loved though that the card that I pulled for romance was called Twin Flames :)

thanks mz - this guy has given her pictures in his uniform. Says he lives in US but had an English mother.

And an eight year old daughter, divorced but exw is dead.

His profile was a bit cryptic apparently and also he was a bit cagey when answering questions - doesn't sound brilliant does it.

have just been cheering on arsenal with DS1 :)

need to catch up with thread but just to say SCL one of my RL friends (who is on various sites, or was, she has met someone now) was messaging a guy with a v similar situation a couple of years ago. He claimed to be from US but family were UK originally, widower with an 8 year old daughter. He told her he was in the US army serving in Afghanistan.

It rang alarm bells with me from the start, although she thought it was on the level. However then he started saying something about his daughter being in Australia and needing money for her airfare to uk, and my friend blocked him. He'd sent her photos allegedly of him, but as he was serving in Afghan couldn't ever meet or call her (conveniently)

Back from a date tonight. I chose a pub about 5 miles from my town, quite a way from his and met 3 different men who I know and wanted to chat about family, old times etc, bit weired but fine.

Really nice blind date. Both driving so had a meal, a drink etc. He's a bit posh, looks younger than he is and hopefully see him again. Will call him EV. Won't be serious as he might have to move on job wise but you know a bit of a vibe!

i've missed loads....

Beaut, so sorry about you and DG. I can't add much to all the excellent advice you have already had, but I do know where you're coming from with the Exp situation, and I know contact order or not, mine will only do what suits him and/or what inconveniences me. I think leaving it a couple of weeks before any discussion is so the right thing to do, rather than getting into it now while emotions are running high.

FLF, also really :( to hear of your friend, esp as it has affected your DS as well, hugs to both of you, hopefully some time just the two of you at the weekend will help him a little.

Lou - hope DS1 is feeling better today

Flame - fingers crossed brackets is sorted now, what a nightmare. Can understand you wanting a break from POF and OKC.

Snape, agree your DD sounds lovely. And am getting caught up in train man excitement - you have to at least smile at him tomorrow, note would be good, but I know I would never be able to do it, so won't insist you should :)

elasta re mr global warming, all sounds good

monty - any news from your valentines date?

not much to report other than that our mouse is back. bloody thing has more lives than a cat!

teeth done, big smile at the ready as i set off early for the 'appropriate train'.

I spoke to train guy! I spoke to train guy! I spoke to train guy!!!

Would anyone care to guess what devastatingly flirtatious bon mot dropped from my highly kissable lips?

'thanks' as he let me go first in the queue off of the train.

I shall kick myself repeatedly in the arse to save you all the bother.

Still, I got to the station before him, on time, my hair was nice and 'flicky' and he stood next to me on the platform. I curse ipods. They are conversation killers.

snape yay

was it 'thanks' and smile? Eye contatc? Lingering?

Snape!!!! At least its a start, now you can start making conversation with him when you see him next

If it makes you feel any better I ended up having a conversation about potato growing with mr global warming last night (actually very interesting , but I'm not much good at flirting am I)

so far this morning I have:
hoovered my office, chucked out a load of papers, emptied the bin, brought in some scented flowers....generally made it less of a pit

hoping that making the environement in which I work at home a bit more pleasant will lead to a more productive time....

Hey MILY want to do mine too. My home office is a pit. There is still stuff from christmas lying around. Am doing some research on the internet ATM as I have a job interview this afternoon!! Have been approached for a commercial directors job. Its another step back towards what I used to do before it all went wrong between me and exh. But it would mean we would have to move so am not sure what I think of that. Still, worth a discussion

SNAPE!!!
well done. next time make general chit chat about weather/train being late/it being near the end of the week/it being awful its the beginning of the week/the fact you want to rip his clothes off.
lol
well done.

I am decidley grumpy today. I have got my period and therefore feel unattractive and yuk.
Plus im pissed off. Dec 2009 i chatted for a short while, online only to this guy. we will call him mr policeman. I think i chatted with him on webcam once. I decided he wasnt for me. too many texts and too many huns and babes. yuk. So declined when he asked me out. Every few ( maybr 4 to 6) i get a random text from him. But i deleted his number so i never know its him. ANyway. He started texting me last night. i responded a few times then i started getting, guess what........ you are right. cock pictures.
wonderful
or not.

then he asks me out.
idiot

that would be a no.

and then come and do my study too... its been renamed as room of doom. Seriously, its embarassing.
tis my job for the weekend.
exciting huh

Snape A step in the right direction.

Still waiting to hear from EV from last night. And hey why is everyone ignoring the fact that I went on a POF date? (shameless attention seeking) My profile is hidden now as I don't want to internet date anymore, but he got in touch a while ago so had my mobile number.

Hi ladies just stumbled across your thread and saw the title, Which got me thinking where are the interesting single guys gone??!

Im interested in someone who`s family lives close to me, Im to shy to grab him and snog his face off make a move on him

I live in hope to land a nice guy one day!

Hi Yummy, Welcome to the thread. There are quite a few of us on here with mixed success at MILY Enjoy!

Thanks elestamum

I have been trying to read all this thread while DS sleeps, Make take me a while lol

I came across this after over thinking everything this guy does which confuses me, Need to get a hobby i think!

Hi Yummy, do you know this guy? Time to drop subtle hints.

Just had a catch up, work getting in the way .

Beaut, you are doing exactly the right thing. Use these 2 weeks to try and get out and treat yourself and the DC's. When you meet you will have had chance to take a step back. You cannot make changes to such an extent with someone who is unsure and he needs to understand this. You come as a package.

SCL, think the US serviceman thing is a well known scam.

I know his name and also that he is single but thats all i know about him as im to shy to try and get to know him more :(

His family (mom dad etc) live close to me so see him more or less everyday.

When i arrive home, Same time on most days he usually appears from no where, Smiles say hi you ok...

I do try and spark up a conversation but as i have my DCs with me i dont like standing around trying to chat as the DCs want to go inside and get warm etc

Havent got a clue how i could drop one massive hint

Eve, big appols for not commenting on your date - sounds good - work keeps distracting me from MN so I don't read the thread properly

Elasta, yay for job interview would the move be down south by any chance?

Took, at cock pictures, why oh why oh why would anyone ever think that would ever do it for anyone??? Premiership footballers and Tiger Woods have a helluva lot to answer for imho

ref tidy office, in my dreams there is a future where I have at least 3 pas who skip out my office daily, do the filing, recycling, shredding and collect all the coffee cups.....sadly never will come to pass

I do at least have lovely smell hyacinths from TLM making the room smell delicious - highly recommended

Welcome yummy.

Wrt unsolicited cock shots, i choose the root of telling them if they ever do it again i will put it on fb and name and shame

Worked so far.

Of course if it was requested then thats a different matter