Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

why no bold??

All of him is

He is just telling me that he is off sex until he is in a relationship with a nice girl. Damn shame.

big head?

aye

When is DA due Mily? (I know you probably said upthread). I can't see TLM bypassing VD without a grand gesture

BOA - I didn't realise you were Flame until I saw Carrot's name!

I always forget to mention who I am

Brackets is coming for a dvd on Friday. I am still a bit meh about him. Thinking quiet setting should help me know one way or the other.

Monty, I can apply from 24th Feb onwards and I gather it only takes a few days . Need the sealed consent order back from the court too though, settle the financial side once and for all......then i can relax
tbh we have agreed not to mark 14th Feb, TLM will be away (penultimate week of the residential course he is on, yay) and is a bag of over-hyped nonsense isn't it? He's very much the buy flowers type, but not into VD at all, for which I thank goodness as I always thought it was rubbish TBH

How are you finding being back in the mix again dating?

Flame, is Brain in BoA Brackets?

Yup.

Although I should probably change to just Brain now I guess since Matt is on no sex until he is in a relationship, and he doesn't want my kids as much as I don't want his drugs.

Mily - OIC. No, VD is rubbish. I might have a date tho lol. But I'm not sure if I cba and not convinced its not flaky. We were trying to work out a night to go for a bite to eat and it turned out to be next Monday then we both realised it was VD but wondered if that might be highly amusing to carry on and go anyway.

Monday is a rubbish night to be out, DD works Mondays and I usually pick her up from the station etc. Also I don't fancy leaving ds here. He is 15, too old for a babysitter but extremely norty irresponsible grrrr. I'll see if I can farm him out to his df's if the date is happening.

Anyway, to answer your question, if it happened it would be lovely but I don't hold out much hope tbh but that's fine. Ask me again in 6 months . It's been a while now already, singledom, I finished it in August, he followed me to that wedding, then we went on holiday but by end October it was unfixable. We have only had text contact since about practical things ie belongings etc. I'm ok if a bit vexed that I gave it so many tries and invested so much time. Oh well. Worse things happen at sea.

Why can't I get my head round Brackets?

We talk online and it seems to work, but then in person it is awkward, but that could be the Aspergers. Or it could just be that there is no spark on my side. He def has spark for me

see how quick on the uptake I am Flame?

Monty, tough one, ref xp I mean. Glad you are ok and lol re possible VD date. In a funny way could take the pressure right off and make it a real gas, taking the piss out of all the loved up couples around you. Saying that, I recall one vd dinner where the couple at the next table didn't say 1 word to each other the entire way through the meal, just talked to the waiter. And they had crammed extra tables in to fleece accommodate more customers so they were sitting right next to us and we couldn't gossip properly, put a bit of a crimp on the evening.. And you will of course pay over the odds for dreadful 'romantic' food.... but apart from that, great idea

no spark is no spark
Forget the aspergers, you either click or not imo

evening!

BoA excellent new name (I only cottoned on though when I saw ref to Carrot, mind you I didn't pick up on adamschic either til someone mentioned it! My mental acuity is not what it was....)

Monty, good to see you :) re valentines date. might be good fun, think you should go if you can make arrangements for DS!

Mily :( re nanny. I know what you mean about there being times when you have to work. It is good though that DD is with friends, I never had anyone to leave the boys with in an emergency other than Xmil, and she works so could only have them in school hols. Just v v lucky that my childminders were almost never ill otherwise would have been difficult at times.

I took your advice re list by the way - well, I started writing it, room by room, jobs to be completed, got to end of second page and gave up. but at least I have part of a list which is more than yesterday

Have been thinking that I'm not sure I will ever find a man - online seems too much like hard work, and in RL I probably dont go to the right places, whatever they may be :) Multiple cat ownership is beckoning!

Hi Sponge :)

Will keep my ear to the ground for a builder, I do know some excellent ones, but don't know if they'd be free/how expensive they are etc, I need one myself at the minute but jobs so small I don't want to bother them. But I will email you.

Yes, me and potential date agreed it would be a gas to go out on a date on VD, and I agree it would take the pessure off and could be real fun. :)

If it happens. He's abroad atm but still messaging :) He makes me larf.

Ok, I haven't sussed adamschic

I don't know if there is no spark though iyswim. So far we have met twice, both with loads of background activity that he doesn't cope with very well. I guess I will know by the end of Friday.

Weirdly there was more spark with Download even though he was less attractive. We were discussing earlier that we messed things up by going with hormones rather than brains.

Sponge, great news re list, god the satisfaction I get ticking stuff off lists

d'you know, I looked back on an old thread earlier and I was resolving last august that I would get my ass in gear and get a proper job (i.e. one that I vaguely enjoy...) - gah! So my list of one thing and I have failed spectacularly to do it....grrrr

to be fair, I have had a few other things going on but, but still

Maybe men needs to be something you stop thinking about for a bit, focus on you (house, weight loss goals, new job, not much going on then, eh?) and then it'll creep up on you by surprise?

love your fb pic btw

Lol love the fb pic too

Mily - you are pressurising yourself because you're already under pressure iyswim, with nanny and tlm stuff this week.

flame, adamschic is eve, yes?

remind what happened with download?

Mily - and I hope dd is ok too :(

Hi All, Have just got in from dinner at brothers then chat / drinks with gf who lives near mum. Have just been having a read and catching up.

Could use some thoughts as to whats best to do on Sat with Prof - who my gf has renamed mr global warming as its sort of relevant to what he does and hopefully he might warm me up sometime

Could do lunch date near his, but I would have to drive.

Country walk and nice pub lunch near mine - but dont really want him at my house just yet - so would have to resist temptation to invite him over for coffee after, although he has said he is happy to travel.

Or even walking in the peaks - but probably a bit of an all day hike for a 2nd date. As he lives a fair way away am going to do lunchtime rather than evening as it means there is no pressure to stay the night.

so FAI ladies, what should I do with him!!!??

Mily at not much going on for me, this is true. but it would be nice to have someone even just to lust after from afar in the meantime :)

Monty, I would be ever so grateful for any possible builders, am getting to the stage where I don't even care what it costs (within reason of course) but I definitely cant go through another 6 months with no doors to any of the rooms and no shower.

Ooooooooh right I get it!!!

We went out for coffee, had a really easy afternoon together.

He came round for a dvd that evening... we saw about 30 mins max .

He came round late a couple of days later with no real pretence of dvd.

I had a mix of PMT and a fear that I might actually quite like him so did a classic move of laying into him on msn on the Monday night . He decided that I wasn't up for a relationship and we should just chat. Which we have done most nights since then. He is half talking about getting back together with his ex but I get the feeling that is because a) she is hot (showed me a pic) and b) he is lonely.

We have half joked about meeting up just for that again, but have never gone through with it. I invited him over the other day (just for company) but he said no as he didn't think we'd leave it as that . He was having a bad night last night, very very low, and suddenly went offline, so I was v worried. When he came back online this afternoon I told him not to do that again as I had been worried sick all day, and he said in a jokey way about not knowing I cared. I snapped that of course I bloody care, and I had explained in the beginning that one of the reasons for laying into him was as a defence - he said he didn't realise that I did still like him. We both agreed that we started things off all wrong. The conversation then moved on though.

That was longer than I realised by way of explanation. Sorry.

I really do complicate all these bloody dates.

country walk and nice pub lunch gets my vote elasta. How far has he got to come?

Monty, dd2 seems ok tx for asking, sound asleep again having had 3+hrs this afternoon/early evening, doesn't seem too hot and breathing more easily after a dose of medised which seems to have dried out some of the snot (nice)

Sponge, lol at lusting from afar, just read in the guardian g2 (dedicated to divorce today would you belive?) that 'every opportunity is a dating opportunity' , sorry cba to find the online bit and link to it but it did make me smile...

right, am turning in, need some sleep and hope I am in a better mood tmrw

nn