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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

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lilacisinlove · 29/01/2011 20:54

Too good an opportunity to miss!

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passmyglassplease · 05/02/2011 04:30

Gosh its ages since I have been on here!

Tis lovely to see that the regulars are still around! Grin

PMG Waves to Sponge - hope you feel better soon, Ninah, abouteve and lou and hi to everyone else.

Think I may be joining you back on this thread Sad, hence my bout of insomnia.

Although I am so not interested in dating at the moment as am convinced that I am better off single!

Flame · 05/02/2011 09:07

i am lost.... kdk is mz??

BeauticianNotMagician · 05/02/2011 09:25

I wondered where kdk had been.

Well i survived the shred last night just about to complete day2.

Can't wait to see DG later.I hope we find a house soon as just seeing each other at weekends is a pain.

Flame · 05/02/2011 09:56

I have changed my POF profile to say I want someone with some spark. Someone who will argue that black is white if that is what they believe even if I say otherwise. Sick of meeting men who will just agree with me.

adamschic · 05/02/2011 13:03

Did anyone click on Totally Pleasure's link before it got deleted?

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe · 05/02/2011 15:25

Hi Flame - kdk is my original username on mn - mzd is my username on (many!) dating sites - sponge along with some other posters on this thread know me as kdk, newer posters as mzdemeanour or mzdemeanourunderhtemistletoe - though should change it back I suppose!

lilacisinlove · 05/02/2011 16:24

mzd/eve...have to agree that the physical 'spark' doesn't need to be there from the very beginning. I didn't look at TLOML and want to tear his clothes off, but I did go home from our first date and email my friend saying that whoever he ended up with would be very lucky to have him. Two months later, it's obvious to both him and me that we are made for each other.

I also felt a bit like 'here we go again' - he was married to someone who already had a daughter, then had a long term relationship with someone who had two daughters and they had a little girl of their own too. Now there's me, and my two girls! He hasn't met them yet, but I feel confident that they will get on really well together. We talk about anything and everything and about our relationship and how we feel about each other. He's very down to earth and no bullsh*tting, as well as being very open and honest. We've both been in abusive relationships in the past and respect is very important to us.

I was out at the shops with the DDs earlier and there was a couple arguing as they waited for the car park lift. They were yelling nasty things to each other and I said to my girls that if any boyfriend ever talks to them like that they must end it. I know I didn't take my own advice when I was married but I've learned from that now.

lou - congrats on the new hoover, can't believe that your DS wasn't already on the medical register at school.

sponge - hope you're feeling better today.

Wave to everyone else! Would love to have another meet up in the pipeline and hopefully I'll actually be able to make it this time.

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tookoolforskool · 05/02/2011 17:33

Sponge, how are you feeling?
Beautician,how was the shred today?

Hope you are all having good weekends. Mr ok Cupid who will now be known as Mr mi5 has asked me out for tomorrow, but I'm busy so have rearranged for next Sunday. He seems interesting, though I know nothing about him at all. But he's grabbed my interest in like 5 emails, so.....

Just need to not eat for a week to counteract this weeks stuff my face fest.

Lol.

And I still hate my new hair.

BeauticianNotMagician · 05/02/2011 18:23

Hi all

Lilac Your man sounds lovely.Glad things are going so well for you.Its funny what you said to your dds about ending things if being spoken to badly.I tell my ds's that if they ever experience that behaviour or are the cause of that behaviour either way they need to get out of the relationship as we don't speak to someone we love in that way.

Took I love your hair i think it looks fab.So jealous that you can also carry off red lipstick as its something i have never been able to do.

I really keep thinking about going dark but unsure it will suit me.Its more an expense thing as if i hate it i will want to go straight back to blonde.

Im aching soo bad from the shred today.I can hardly lift my arms.

Dg isn't coming over now as he is too tired as had to work this morning as well.I understand but am also a little disappointed.

lilacisinlove · 05/02/2011 18:47

beaut, that's a shame, it was obvious how much you were looking forward to seeing him. I've had an afternoon nap myself so I know how he feels...except I haven't been to work today! TLOML drove 65 miles to spend Thursday night here, and another 65 miles leaving at 6am Friday morning to go back to the training course he was running. It's not something I'd expect him to do but like you, I'd be disappointed if he didn't think it was worth making the effort.

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aurorastargazer · 05/02/2011 19:04

hi all

lou33 · 05/02/2011 19:07

Ooh did i spot pmg posting earlier?!

I have had a really lazy day today. Dp is on a rare lads night out so not seeing him. Dinner, slob in front of tv and early to bed for me.

aurorastargazer · 05/02/2011 19:15

hi lou Smile

pmg? hello stranger Grin

aurorastargazer · 05/02/2011 19:15
Flame · 05/02/2011 19:47

The physical spark didn't grow for bloody ages with Carrot. I was still very much 50/50 even when we started on the fwb set up if you remember.

Bloody shame it kicked in later Hmm

Still undecided on Brackets. He pissed me off last night by wanting to change to tonight "so going home time wasn't an issue". I had specifically arranged for a child night so he DID have a home time. I don't like this assumption regardless of what he says. I have agreed to do it next weekend - have kids all weekend Wink.

Mattsarse is eerily silent today. A bit worried about him. He text yesterday morning to check I was ok after slight text hysterical break down the night before. Not heard anything back since, and his fb statuses were a series of low ones, and now nothing since yesterday afternoon. My mothering instinct kicks in with him!

StellaBrillante · 05/02/2011 21:25

hi all,

i'm back to my 'really no dates' status and feeling rather despondent... still feel i did the right think when cancelled date with 'now-not-so-nice-guy' following his suggestion to go to grotty pub for drinks. i can't help thinking that there's something seriously wrong with me that i can't get taken somewhere reasonably nice, just for drinks, on a first date... anyway, he suggested doing something early next week and sent me a couple of texts on thursday but nothing since so i reckon it's just fizzled out.

thinking i should put my guard down with 'toxic waste' and just treat him as a friend. we didn't part in bad terms and a nice friendship may come out of it. close friend said today how he always speaks to her when he sees her so he may be toxic for dating but a guy with a good heart all around. his last email was really nice and friendly. it doesn't help with my 'desperate need a snog' situation though!

argh!!! i don't even want to re-marry and get a dog anymore. i just want to be treated (nicely ) like a woman for a few hours!!!

ps. have given up on POF...again! too paranoid of someone coming across my profile or god forbid teacher sees it - eeew!!!!

StellaBrillante · 05/02/2011 21:26

'thing' not 'think' Blush

cousinsandra · 05/02/2011 21:39

Hello! I have been lurking here for a while (hope you don't mind!). Divorce came through beginning of Jan and have had a couple of dates. God, but it's a minefield!

I remember before I split up with XH talking with friends about the horror of dating again - and now I'm doing it! One of the guys I met was lovely and asked 'so what are you actually looking for?'. That's what we have to ask ourselves! I'm sure I don't want a boyfriend, but something between that and an FB would be ideal! I love and hate dating in equal measure, but tragically love the attention! It's so interesting to see you others out there... Good luck to us all Wine!!

Flame · 06/02/2011 15:06

I hear you Stella.

Mattarse is ok :) He says he is trying to get himself sorted. (My hormones kicked in a bit and I invited him over to be a bad idea Blush, but got rejected).

Mates are dragging me through life tbh. XH has managed to help a bit with money so it isn't as dire as it was. Still not entirely sure how we're getting through the month, but we will somehow iyswim.

I have to get my life on track. Right now only the knowledge that I don't want my DC being raised by XH 100% of the time is all that is keeping me around. I can't keep living like this. I need to start loving myself again. Carrot has knocked me far more than I realised. Now probably Mattarse too tbh - as much as I was the one who told him that he was my worst idea ever and it would never work (Blush for his self esteem after that), I still don't want him agreeing with me iyswim.

ninah · 06/02/2011 15:11

hi pmg! Smile
and kdk I hadn't a clue you were mz Confused

ninah · 06/02/2011 15:12

oh, and welcome cousinsandra
waves to everyone else

Hatesponge · 06/02/2011 15:20

mz, please excuse my name error Blush, was not at all deliberate - I think the stress of friday's events somewhat addled my brain. Will try to be more careful with what I post!

Seem to be ok after Friday's drama. Though do feel a bit tired/worn out generally. Am tempted not to go to work tomorrow, never usually have time off but we are moving offices tomorrow and it will be chaos. Will see how I feel later and play it by ear I think....

Zanywany · 06/02/2011 19:16

Hi everyone

Are you OK Flame you seem down.

I have a date lined up for Wednesday with a guy from POF, will see how it goes, not amazing looking but you don't always fancy the best looking ones and he may look better in the flesh - god that sounds vain. lol

elastamum · 06/02/2011 19:45

hi all!

Sponge, hope you're feeling better. Sounds rally scary. similar happened to me when i got hospitalised for food poisoning. It is Sad when you dont know what to put for next of kin.

MILY might be able to do 18th / 19th but might have to stay with friend in Herts who can look after DS2 as he will be with me.

Have just got back from date with Prof (not your one MILY I hope) He was lovely!! We just had a cup of tea in a garden centre just off the M1 and chatted for a couple of hours. He is really interesting, nice looking and def a spark there. But suspect its not going to happen as we live a couple of hours apart. He did say to keep in touch and we should try to meet again, but dont have much expectation that it will actually happen. but he did make me feel good in a positve way that there are still some nice, bright, fit and interesting men out there. Smile

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe · 06/02/2011 20:17

Hi Sponge - hope you're okay - take a day off for ffs - sounds like it will be a nightmare anyway! And no problem with the nickname thing - didn't realise it had confused people!

And anytime for a meet sounds good to me - if that weekend is a problem maybe we could try for another date? Maybe if those who are interested indicate they are and what days/dates are best for them we can take it from there ...

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