Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

Stardust just left. Muffins were lush. His own recipe.. with my fav chocolate in. Just chatted and drank wine. He is fab company.. I really like talking to him. No snogging... which is a bit disappointing... I think Hd wanted to, but didn't know how too. I wasn't going to make the first move as I think maybe he is not that forward... small kiss on the Lips as he left... and there is a spark.. Damn well wanted to jump him.

Normally I tend to go for much more of an alpha male type... as you can prob see from the pics I Sent.. but maybe this is nice?????

I think I'd like to see him again.

Haha. He just text to ask when I'm next free. So..... 3rd date.

Yay tookool, sounds like a lovely eve and nothing wrong with slow-burn especially if the spark is definitely there

Struggled out of bed this morn, just can't get motivated for work atm, is totally pants and I need to get off my ass and get a new job.....

difficult to get up this morning, seeing as i was still awake at 2.
meh.

it was a lovely evening. He said when he text the time just vanished which it did. Hes fab company... we ended up playing guess who!!! Then we played celebrity guess who. And then, who would we shag guess who. and who would we like to be guess who.
lol.

Im not used to this slow burn thing, not since i was about 17 and i fancied this boy for ages and ages before i finally got a snog. I want a snog. gggggggrrrrrrrr. How mean was that to kiss give me a really nice slow kiss on the lips and then leave.
mean!!

Plus, i must have somehow missed his arms on the first date. they are nice. He has nice hair ( even if it is blonde) and nice arms.

I WANT A SNOG!!!!!

why do you want a new job?

He sounds fab

Because I have been doing this for 2 yrs and it has become groundhog day
I have lost faith in some of the board where I am, my enthusiasm to be driving a real change and improvement here has withered in the face of the 'not invented here culture' in vast swathes of the organisatio.
Have been in the Group for 11+ years and previously each new role has been a sufficiently interesting intellectual challenge but, if I am honest I have never felt passionate about the purpose of the business I am in. Fantastic employer in many ways esp for mat leave/working parent but may well be time to fly the nest altogether before I become totally institutionalised.

Have always been the main breadwinnerand pretty averse to risk. One of the exciting things with TLM is him encouraging me to broaden my horizons and consider him as the safe pair of hands behind the scenes

So we shall see

I've got a couple of chats lined up in the next couple of weeks to start testing the waters.....

He sounds fab

Because I have been doing this for 2 yrs and it has become groundhog day
I have lost faith in some of the board where I am, my enthusiasm to be driving a real change and improvement here has withered in the face of the 'not invented here culture' in vast swathes of the organisatio.
Have been in the Group for 11+ years and previously each new role has been a sufficiently interesting intellectual challenge but, if I am honest I have never felt passionate about the purpose of the business I am in. Fantastic employer in many ways esp for mat leave/working parent but may well be time to fly the nest altogether before I become totally institutionalised.

Have always been the main breadwinnerand pretty averse to risk. One of the exciting things with TLM is him encouraging me to broaden my horizons and consider him as the safe pair of hands behind the scenes

So we shall see

I've got a couple of chats lined up in the next couple of weeks to start testing the waters.....

Sorry about the double post, blackberry on the train with dodgy signal....

oh, my excitment of having pulled on a Monday morning quickly diminished last night... 'Date to be' and I exchange a few nice texts and he eventually said he'd really like to take me out. But then text agreeing date & time was followed by another asking whether we should go out or stay in! WTF!!! I feel so, so low... the fact that this supposedly nice / normal / highly thought of guy had asked me out etc gave me a nice confidence lift and made me think that maybe (just maybe) I can attract non-freaky types every so often. But then it all came down crashing. Who on earth would think that of suggesting a night in as a first date?!?! he must think that (a) I am desperate and will say yes to anything; (b) I am not worth any effort whatsoever! The guy did all the leg work, arranged coffee, made contact, etc. Anyway, I replied with a 'huh?' to which he came back saying that he was crap at texting, would pick me up on agreed day & time. But by then the damage had already been done... iyswim? I didn't reply to 1/2 hour later he called me and we had a really nice chat but I now just want to cancel the date. I want somebody who wants me (at least enough to take me out on a first date!) and I don't want somebody who needs to be managed / can't be bothered... Amd I overreacting? What would you do?
I feel really low...

Ah - i know where you are coming from. very much so.
Sorry.

You want someone who is interested in you, not someone who just wants a shag.

But lets turn this round for a second - how about seeing it as he though you were so stunning and attractive and sexy that he just wanted to ravish you? ( and thats fine, and a good thing, just not what you are looking for just now??)

if you dont want to go, then dont go.

3rd date with stardust is arranged for monday, i said i was free then, or the following weekend and he said then :) Hes very nice, very thoughtful, like he had already opened the red wine he brought round to let it breath before he came round. he was also lovely and very affectionate with my dog, and talked to him and played with him, which might not sound important, but it is to me. My big baulks at the idea of dog lick or dog hairs.

Smilymily - sounds like you are a lucky lukcy girl. tlm sounds lovely.

Hmm, not sure about him not wanting to take you out. could be just playing games. Had that with radioman. few lovely dates, seemed very keen, then invited me over and cooked dinner for me in his flat After that heard very little from him. He is still on line hunting down his next conquest looking for the girl of his dreams..

ha - thats what dogman did. invited me to his for dinner on the second date. I was a bit unsure and thought that maybe he was just after a shag. I reckon he was. Glad i didnt.

Hmm, Not sure you can always spot in coming. Had been on 4 dates, including a whole afternoon out walking the dogs - now he wants to be my friend stay in touch in case nothing better turns up!! Ha

spot them coming - poor choice of words I know...

Still not all bad. Have been swapping lots of messages with sailor2. Blue eyes seems to have vanished into thin air though.

tookool - stardust sounds like a real gem! enjoy it

elasta - that's the thing, I'd rather not have a date than waste time with somebody that plays games. no just that but we haven't even had a bloody date yet! he knows he got it wrong hence the phone... i think for my own self-esteem, i need to cancel the date or i will just go feeling cheap and undervalued - great start, huh? if he likes me (and he knows me enough to have an idea of the sort of person i am), he will try again. if not, his loss.

it's just disappointing and again not having faith of ever having somebody normal / decent wanting me. no problem if it doesn't work out, no compatibility, no spark - those things happen. it'd be good to know that i don't only attract freaks, that's what it comes down to.

ha - if we are going for freak stories, i have rather a lot, and i bet i could win :)

thb - id cancel the date, but then again, im the queen of cancelling dates. BUT, i kind of think, if they have done something to annoy you before you have even met them, then there isnt much point going.

easier said that done, i know, but dont let his crapness make you feel bad. Its him, not you.

social suicide: invite teacher to school valentine's ball. i know, i know... he's on this high pedestal (i've put him there) and he's perfect! not a big of this word but he's LUSH!!!

meant to write 'fan of this word'
ps. sod the date

OMG - you invited him?
what did he say?

no, i meant if i was to commit 'social suicide'! honest, there is absolute no danger of me ever making the first move!!! i think i like him on his pedestal...just need some pictures of him doing some press-ups or running around in his little shorts

Just place marking.

TKFS a friend of mine made a good point to me the other day. She said 'remember that these men will be on their best behaviour early on, so if its not all that good then, just think what they will be like once they get to know you' She was referring to radiomans flakyness. She has a point

Blue eyes has annoyed me by asking for when I might be available to meet then dissapearing. Def one for the bin IMO - shame as he is georgous looking

she has a good point.
I agree.

hence my high date cancellation ratio to actual dates i go on ( although it seems like ive been on lots this month)

I wish i had been given that advice about 12 years ago though.. might have stood me in better stead!!!

Monday is def on with stardust. Do you think its ok third date etiquette to handcuff him to my bed? .... or is that a bit forward

feeling a little bit happy about it though, 3rd date... wow. AND he said it was really really nice to see me again.
AND i have a spare malteaser and white choclate muffin for my lunch, made for me by a MAN!!!

but dont you find that the best looking ones also tend to be the biggest cocks?

or that is mostly true.

i think i might be learning a lesson: ' dont date a man who is either better looking, or has a bigger ego, than me.

lol

and lol, but true