Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

tookool, I wrote a whole long post about mr big but it sounded really wanky so have deleted it and spared you all! basically i think you have to trust your gut instinct, and continue the search. if its meant to be with big then it may happen. but dont wait around for it

have been out this evening at SW. Bit of a reality check. Am much fatter than I have admitted to myself (or indeed than I look...I know I'm a long way from a size 0 but all the same). Turns out I have about 7.5 stone (or in other terms, the smallest member of my team at work) to lose. Is scary and a bit :(

sponge- thanks for saving me the wanky post! lol. I have trusted my gut instinct so far. It is very difficult though. But i know that what im after is someone who will come camping with DD and i in my super large tent, or walk the dog with us. Or come to a festival with me, or go see a band. Or will cook or take out the bins... and doesnt want to go out thew whole time.. im tired... i like staying in sometimes. Or doesnt get annoyed when i want to go off on a whim and do stupid things with my DD. ( because we like doing things like that) and who i can wear my very attractive owl fleece pjs with, and who wont bat an eye when dd and i do the fleece pj dance.
While drinking champers in wankky bars wearing sunglasses is fine and dandy, is not all my life is about, you know.

So... Stardust is round later. With his baked goods and wine. I need to tidy up the house a bit ( or at least the kitchen) cant be arsed though.

morning all - rushes off to fb to find new friends and see Mr Big - my initials are cc in case anyone thinks they have a stalker.

I had two really weird fb friends requests over the last week - one from ds1's tutor (completely inappropriate - hoping it's from auto friend finder) and another from a relative of a friend - they are prob trying to matchmake me with them - not being friends with either.

Sponge - are you sure that's correct re SW - that seems too much. Not just saying that either!! I could do with losing 3 but suspect they would say 4.

Im doing Paul McKenna atm.

tk think I have found you but can't find Persephone

scl- thanks but I think I am just heavier than I look! Will just have to plug away at it I guess. The lady who runs the group has lost 7 stone (the first 5 of it in 6 months) so it can be done.....

Hi :) sometimes I lurk on here, you do all inspire me to get back out there - I wanted to ask about internet dating. Have been talking to local man on there, he has started saying about meeting up, but we haven't talked on the phone yet or anything, how does this thing work? I was thinking first meeting in a coffee shop, seperate modes of transport etc? He knows i have dc, he's intelligent, picture is nice, and he's a little older than me too. Advice?

sincity - yep. you found me. pics on their way... and of brand too.

scorps. yep. public place, arrive on your own. do try and tell someone where you are going. and if you can get someone to call you after about 30 mins, in case its awdul and you want to leave.. then thats fab.

Thanks. Do you talk on the phone first, or is email deemed sufficent? How long between first meeting on email and meeting, do you think? God I'm so new at this.

He can spell properly and everything . He knows I want light male company, iyswim, a few dates etc.

ive only spoken to someone on the phone before once. I think its a bit odd to talk to someone you havent even met. However, that may have saved me from one awful ( and my first ever internet date) who sounded like a chipmunk.

Depends on how quiick you want to meet. I have met people the next day, or spoken for a bit first. ( maybe up to a month) the downside with chatting for ages and ages is that its very easy to build it up into something that its not. Or develop feelings, and that can all come crashing down when you meet.

ah ok, I see what you mean. It's a little bit scary!

Ooooh shite, a week Saturday, coffee date.

sincity - I'm in tookools pals - initials DL, glasses, arty-farty sepia toned profile pic.

Scorps, you go! :)

bloody flatmate has given his notice. :( now need to let room in 'quirky' family home to complete stranger by mid-march. even worse, he's moving in with his gf he's known for 2 months. bloody smarmy happy couples.

I am very cautious and scared though - H left Xmas 2009, no dates since, just no-one i've liked. But i do need to get back out there, and i guess you never know.

Hi Scorps,

I usually try to talk on the phone as if I dont find them interesting on the phone I know it wont get any better. But I am an ex sales director so can happily talk to anyone. I would just go for it and meet somewhere public, own transport, no drinking for first date.

Odds on you wont meet the man of your dreams on the first date. Dont take it too seriously and have a good time

Going for coffee date, late afternoon, will make my own way there and back. He knows I have dc, but hasn't asked how many i have.

Hey perse do you live in london? Just I might know someone who's looking...

if anyone wants to add me from here on fb search for me by email address, it is morticiatsf at googlemail dot com

can you tell me who you are if you do request me though please!

Scorps... did you have various threads at the time of your split? I remember someone a few months ahead of me but could never remember username to find out how they are now :)

I have a phonecall phobia so no calls first for me. I am happier now meeting fairly soon as the physicist was great in email but so so dull in rl.

I am in bed with a stomach bug. Absolutely horrendous. Mum came to sort kids for school, i told XH i needed him to leave work for dd2. Mum freaked about the state of the house... no heating means i have done absolutely nothing bar was bottles for a week. She called psychomum who pointed out WHY it was so bad, but stayed the entire morning fixing it and then took piles of washing . Mum decided to stay so XH could go back to work... turned out he walked out during a big department meeting with management about absence! He stood up for me with the state of the house too.

FBS text in the middle of the night whining i had taken him off fb so clearly didn't want to stay friends... never said i did.

Hi Flame, yes I did. I'm doing quite well now.

hiya did someone from this thread accept a friend request from me on fb? I sent out a batch ages ago based on guesswork but am now stumped! lots of mutual friends from this thread and a recent status change - sound familiar?
haven't been posting a lot. I did SEE a man today but he was balding with long unbrushed hair and covered in mud and had a goat on a lead. Still, you never know ...

that's good to hear Scorps. It was one of those situations where I kept reading but my own stuff went on and i couldn't keep up anymore Iyswim.

I ache all over. dehydration i guess. we do have heat though.

mum still here. said she will feed bath and bed and leave me to sleep/rest ready to be human tomorrow. Her, XH and psychomum have set up a system for keeping me on top of housework. i need a wife.

beingsetup - yes, lovely Bromley 20 minute walk to the station and then 16 minutes to victoria - double fully furnished room in top 3 bed flat of converted late victorian mansion, huge communal living room, giant kitchen, dishwasher, etc, super duper broadband, virgin package for telly, roof terrace! me and my boys aged 11 and 12and occasional visits from 15 year old DD, with her planning to move here permanently in late summer. new co tenant should preferably look like david tennant and enjoy walking from his room to the shower wearing a towel, but the last point neghotiable! do send me a message if that sounds possible. :)

scorps, it's just being brave...one little first step :)

i got a lovely text today from single parent friend who split up with her ex exactly 6 months ago. she was absolutely devastated at the time and now thinks it's oneof the best things that ever happened to her. she's dating furiously and having the absolute time of her life. :) really proud of her - she's come through it a better, happier person...andif she can do it...

poor flame! hopeyou feel better soon!

Good tenant requests!

Yes Snape. I was absolutely devastated. I still mourn the life I imagined but tbh that was fictional too. I am so much happier now. House was always a tip but not I am not giving half the responsibility away. I miss arms to snuggle in, but ME is someone i like.