Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

Flame, tosser.....married men on the pull always make me think of Lou's thing of asking for the wife's phone number to check if it's ok to date

Took, Mr Big looks lovely

agreed! is it the done-thing to go , 'phoooooooaaaaawwwwr' at someone elses paramour?

phoooooooaaaaawwwwrrrr!!!

ref Mr Big?

not my type I can safely say but I can admire from afar

Lol. It's fine. He's not mine.
I just love him.

I think the same anyway.. part of the problem I think, quite impossible to find anyone to measure up to that!! Though, really, hes way out of my.league

snape I've added you (hopefully)...I'm the cake

tookool, am not sure who you are to add you...but am v keen to see these photos of Mr Big esp after the other's comments!

cancel that I think I have worked it out

cake gratefully friended :)

you have to see mr. Big. :)

tookool, theres a nice cake-lady in my new friends,

hatesponge - look for a stunning redhead in my fb friends with big eyes. :)

incidentally - lovely birthday phone call and amazon voucher from exes parents, they couldn't be better outlaws and i adore them :) - not even a text/call from ex. you arse!

Sponge, did someone bake that cake for you?

haha - stunning, lol. actually lol.
or not stunning at all.

sponge, i have added you. i think.
I shall email you mr big.

Russel brand is now also on my facebook. initials JS.

stardust text me AGAIN. I hope he isnt going to turn into one of those text you all the time ones... because that, combined with the blonde hair, means hes out.

:)

Took, ok I am safe from Russell Brand, he's all yours

I am so sad, I look at that pic of TLM and me on my FB priofile and I just melt, he is sooooooo lovely, am completely smitten. Can't believe how lucky I am, I have to pinch myself

By the way Took, we know why (sorta) Flame can't be with carrot ... but you are I am afraid going to have to give a little more on why you can't be with Mr Big or we are never gonna understand and this will become a repeat theme here on in

off for a swath at brand...

*swatch

'swatch' makes more sense?

evening, what have i missed?!

Lol @ shaking head in bewilderment.

From what I can gather with Took - she is being Carrot.

Lou - you missed Mily discussing marriage , me dealing with FBS, getting hit on by a married plumber via text, Snape's birthday, and um, someone getting asked out before lunchtime...

hmmm. well quickly, ill list a few, but not the most important things.

1. Hes, er, quite well off, and lives a very different lifesytle to me. You wouldnt think that makes a difference, but actually, it can make things quite difficult.

2. Hes 34 ( on sunday) and hasnt really had a long term relationship since his mid 20's. He is the most selffish, self absorbed man on the planet ( which is not helped by the money thing). He fully admitts this, i tell him this, its just the way he is.

3. he lives too far away, we speak all the time about one of us moving, neither of us will. I wont move as ive spent the last 10 years doing so, and its better for DD to stay in one place for a while and family are here. He wont move, because he just wont, and his family are there.

4. He lives what some might call a ' different' lifestyle. While i can be a bit alternative and free, hes much more to an extream level, and im not sure thats what i want for my DD at such a young age.

5. hes awfully demanding. Again, nothing he doesnt admitt, or we dont speak about. He has said he wishes we met before i had such responsibilities ( such as child and dog) and i can understand what hes saying, but we are a package, and come as a whole and he needs to understand that.

6. other than that. nothing!!! lol
   Basically, on the surface that reads awfully. Hes lovely really, and if it were me, on my own. i wouldnt hesitate. But its not, DD is my priority, and i can see that if i did end up with him ( which is something we talk about all the time, and both assume that is the case) then i just worry that its not right, not what i want for her.

Does any of that make anysense at all>

the brand pic is lame. cant see anything... i do have privy to his pics..... ohhhh. is it totally illegal to copy and paste???

makes total sense and I can see why is hard

think you need to stick with the programme of getting out there and finding someone else. I am sure he is lovely but point 2 and 5 are the dealbreakers really aren't they?

totally. which is why im not with him.

I might love him and he might love me. But thats not the only thing thats important. It might be if your carefree and 21. But sadly im not.

So i have to make decisions that are the best for 'us' ( ie me, DD and dog) not just best for me.

But of course its damn hard. Because, and i did not believe in such bollocky crapness as 'the one' but its quite possible he might have been. Just totally wrong timing.

Either way, it cant happen as much as i would like it to sometimes.

So.... Kind of no choice to make at least some kind of effort to get out there ( and hopefully stick to that as well)

so you were right all along and i promise not to say 'why don't you just get together with mr. big?' every other post

marriage?!!!

definitely use my line about asking his wife if he minds taking you out, flame

it worked for me

yes. right all along.

still pants though, because he is a little bit beautiful.

and while that should be a non issue. My ego likes it.

and er, so do my hormones.

lol

not spoken to him for the grand total of two days either.. which is quite good going id say.

I will also stop asking the same question :o

I should list Carrot's bad points...

erm....

Psycho is coming to be with me when the plumber is here

Gah. I really am attracted to stupid ideas of men.

Brackets - intelligent, sensible, fairly attractive

Yet I am talking to Matt about his drug issues (Friday was a f*ck up in his words and he is pissed off that he is back to square one with recovery), and I prefer him