flame!! was he fixing your pipes? 
i'm on fb, but under my real name, would love to add you all, but don't want to out myself on mumsnet (so i can bitch about constructively discuss my ex) and no bloody CAT. :(
you would think, as it's my birthday, that he would oblige! (clearly i do not think one's sexuality can be switched on and off on a whim, but it's my birthday and my fantasy, so 'indulge' me (please Derren!!)