Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

aw.
Yeah. I wasted 18 months thinking that though.
18 months of thinking it would eventually sort its self out.
I could quite easily waste another 18 doing the same thing.

The thing is, and i have said the same to him.
If he REALLY wanted to be with me, and i REALLY wanted to be with him, then we would.
There are things, and we both are fully aware of what they are, that stop either one of us actually doing anything about it. However, neither of us can deny there is a very very strong, if misplaced connection there, that doesnt go away ( and i suspect that never will)

but, and here is the thing. I want to be with someone who cant wait to see me. someone who enjoys my company, someone i can rely on to be there, someone to trust.Someone who will lend me a hand, or just be there. That isnt him. Hes lots of things i do want, but also lots of things i dont.

I cant wait for him to be these things, he is never going to be. So, as much as we have this thing ( and its not one sided ) i have to move on. SO i am.

I am genuinelly very interested/excited/lusting after dogman. Which is quite a turn up as i wasnt expecting that at all. We shall see what happens there. But, if we do end up seeing each other , i have no idea what im going to say to the other man. He can already tell im hiding something ( god knows how) and it will break his heart, which i dont want to do, and i cant imagine him not being in my life... but this sillyness cant keep happening.

That probably makes total sense.
so - i know where you are coming from, and feel for you.

hi all, have just been catching up. Great TK!

Flame, know how you feel

Well, I didnt go out with radioman tonight, I cancelled as couldnt be bothered as I have a rotten cold.

Now supposed to be seeing him now nxt week, although he did txt and say he completely understood if I would rather not. Havent made up my mind whether to go or not.

Am feeling a bit done over by him, as he messed me around at a time when my mum was dying and I really needed support. If I am being cynical I think he has been biding his time to give me the big I dont have time for a relationship talk, as he didnt want to do it when he knew I was really down about mum - so he has waited until I am feeling a bit better - charming

The vital thing missing with me & Carrot is that feeling that you just want to phone them to hear their voice iyswim. We miss each other, want to see each other, but not enough.

i get actual withdrawl symptoms. or did. or do. or did. or do.

It hurts, painfully so to not talk to him for more than a day. and he is the same.
There have been plenty of occassions where ive gone into a bit of a panic becuse ive not spoken to him, and cant get hold of him and the same the other way round.
its obsessive and silly and neither grown up or what i want. Im not really sure how it ended up like it has really.

But it still doesnt change anything.

heres hoping someone wonderful comes along and sweeps you off your feet so you forgett all about him :)

Texting we both get twitchy, but not the hearing the voice thing. Each time I have decided I need to pull away and stop texting, he starts it again. He's gone quiet since I said I have a date tomorrow. Which makes no sense if you go with the whole him not wanting me theory.

It is hard Took and Flame when you want someone but don't necessarily want to be with them. I have been like that for the last year with my XP. Am trying to avoid his phone calls at the moment as he knows my weaknesses and always manages to persuade me to meet up with him again, then I see him and remember how much I love him and then he will do something that will remind me what a t**t he really is.

Got another strange message from POF (I always attract the weirdos) with a poem with my name in it, all about a woman with the same name as mine who 'put it about a bit' - stangely enough I haven't felt the need to reply/meet up with him.

hi, i've decided to put teacher aside (wisely!) on the basis that if he's interested, he will find a way of speaking to me again - whether I can stop myself from talking absolute nonsense (or falling over) it's another story though!
in the meantime, i feel i need to get out there and have date, even if it's just for practice :) what are the things i should watch out for when it comes to filtering out the married ones playing away and toxic waste? assuming that the creeps are easy to spot... amazing how men seem to totally lack self-awareness, isn't it? i mean, i'm not saying i'm a beauty contest winner but some of the guys that have replied - eeew!

Good luck for the lunch date flame..
zanywany - yeah, it is abit of oa weird situation really. Thats an odd poem too.Post it!! lol

Stella, the quality of men can be dire, i got a message from a 72 year old the other day.
i think go with your gut instinct, if you think something doesnt sound right, then it probablby isnt. Also, you dont have to give everyone who messages you a chance, if you dont like them, or you have been talking to them for a while, then suddenly decide you dont like then, thats fine.

Am looking forward to later. Got a bit of the butterflies about it, which is very unusual for me.
Only thing is, and i think i probably sound very paraniod at this point, but how do you know if they ( the man) is just being lovely and nice to get into your pants, or how can you tell if hes just being lvoely and nice, becuase he is lovely and nice?

We havent had any sexual flirting, no innuendous, or smutty comments. No stupid sex questions or anything like that. So i dont think hes like that ( as much as you can tell from one date) But, at least from my side, and i expect from his too, there is a definate sexual attraction.

last question: is POF any worse than other dating sites? Just thinking with it being free... I've created profiles on other sites before but never felt enthusiastic enough to go ahead and join but had plenty of messages for obvious weirdos! thank you x

its awful.
but to be honest. not that much worse than the others.
I think its all very much down to luck. But maybe on a paid site they are a little bit more serious.
( a little bit)

I have only recently found out that POF has 'added' my profile to loads of other sites. Not sure I want my profile to be on so many think I will have to have a clear out or I will look desperate. Been chatting to a guy who seemed to have potential, he asked if I wanted to meet up so I replied yes and suggested coffee/drink. Now not heard anything back! WTF

Here's my poem Took

My nickname is Suzy on the website

Here's my story, its sad but true
It's about a girl that I once knew
She took my love then ran around
With every single guy in town

Ah, I should have known it from the very
start
This girl will leave me with a broken heart
Now listen people what I'm telling you
A-keep away from-a Runaround Sue

Zany, it's not a poem these are lyrics from a song called runaround Sue!

thats a song called runaround sue by dion

early 60's i think it was out

X post Lou. I'm came home from work today with awful sinus pain, had sore throat etc for over a week but just had to get some sinutab as it was sooooo uncomfortable. Looks like a quiet weekend for me.

Ahh he was probably trying to be clever then sending a poem/song with my name in it, pity he didn't look at the words properly.

Does it help to get a bowl of hot water and let the steam from it help your sinus Eve - I know I have done that in the past

Will try that thanks, Zany, the sinutab has paracetamol in it and its stopped the throbbing for now.

Woohoo! Great date. So easy. Cute in a sort of geeky student way. Some sort of spark. Goodbye peck did good tingly things. He's text asking if i fancy meeting again soon.

fantastic. Glad it went well.
:)
So, your going to see him again?

Im really nervous about mine later. i wasnt that bothered by the first date, but im a bit all over the place about this one.

Probably tomorrow. He was meant to be going to Oxford but apparently girls are better than mate

you'll be fine

Hi everyone, nowt happening on man front, just plodding along in usual cheery and slightly disorganised fashion. Very happy to have DS back!

Also, for anyone on POF - friend sent me an email to advise that Zammo from Grange Hill is any there (remember him, anyone).

For those that do, Just Say NO.

Kind of, what's his/her user name?

Erm...can't remember. I forgot to forward my friends email!

But she assures me its definitely there.