Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

Stella are you 100% sure he is single. You won't be the only mum single or otherwise that has a crush on one of the DC's teachers.

However, if he has given you any indication that it's reciprocated then you need to go to a school social, join the PTA, chat and wait for him to ask you out. If he doesn't I would leave it tbh. Don't take any notice of posters on general mumsnet threads that tell you to ask him out, they are nuts and just wanted you to fall and report back .

I would stay away from my kids teachers as a matter of principle - cant think of anything worse from my kids perspective than me dating one of their teachers

Hi abouteve, thank you for the advice. I have no idea whether he's available or not. There were a couple of occasions when I thought his reaction was a bit odd but I didn't think much of it. Then I suddenly started to pay more attention until ds came home the other day saying that mr ? had asked him (in the middle of a conversation) whether I was his mum followed by "she's a very nice lady". DS was very surprised by this to the extent that he thought he would tell me. And no, there is no way I'd ask him out and I can't actually remember the last time I did such a thing... maybe never?!?! I have pretty old fashioned values when it comes to these things :) But seeing that I am way out of practice, I thought I'd ask for some tips. However no. 1 priority is the fact that ds is absolutely loving his new (senior) school and so am I, and I wouldn't dream of doing something impulsive which could jeopardise this in any way!
I know what you mean elastamum but there all sorts of scenarios out there including parents that teach their own children, etc. I think I can trust my own ability not to turn things into a soap opera, dragging ds into it along the way.

That comment sounds very odd coming from a teacher so I can understand that it appears to be a green light. Anything coming up, e.g cheese and wine, raffle night? You need to attend.

I often do the rugby pick up on Thursdays and take ds to fixtures on Saturdays. However, I would feel too self conscious if I was to look for excuses to hang around (again, desperate single mother YUK!!!) and he's obviously busy with his team during the match. He has stopped over to chat afterwards a couple of times even though he doesn't coach ds' team and there was the occasion when he thanked me profuselly for coming to the game with handshake and all which took me by surprise but... I saw him yesterday when I went in for a meeting with another teacher and again he stopped to chat. He did however get my surname mixed up with someone else's to which he apologised profusely. Overall, just his usual friendly self but then he did have two people waiting for him and he was obviously on his way to class - he did make a point of chatting to me so this much isn't a fruit of my imagination whereas if it had been left to me, I'd have just greeted him briefly. DS has only been there since September so to be honest I'm just pretty pleased that he's obviously a great teacher (ds and friends speak very highly of him) and that he clearly knows who ds is and seems to have taken a keen interest in how he is doing. My problem is that I'm finding myself seriously tongue-tide and which I can only put down to me feeling defensive and worrying about coming across as desperate. I've spent enough time among the rugby parents to hear the things people say and I'd be mortified if I was to suddenly become the joke in the teachers' staff room or similar - ok, slight overreaction

Could you mention a local bar or something that has just opened up, or do you have a night out planned coming up whereby you could see if he is also out and then say 'ok I might bump into you then'

I have been getting a few texts/phone calls from an internet guy but he is now asking for me to send him pictures even though I already have some on my profile, and that he won't mind if they are naughty ones!! Another on ebites the dust maybe.

afternoon everyone,

i've just joined a dating site where you have to pay to send messages, but you can wink, flirt etc. So how do you actually send a message without subscribing. A bloke and I keep flirting with each other but we can't get any further! Ta

I used to belong to a dating site like that.

I was very creative in how I uut my email address into my profile blurb.

The bonus is you get the cleverer bloke who figures it out. The downside is sometimes the person vetting profile might be just as clever and asterisk it out.

I've been single for almost ten years now, with the odd seeing someone but nothing serious. Had no luck on dating sites. I think I'm too fussy.

I've spent the last two nights up til the early hours talking to Download on msn. Been talking the big stuff and the pointless. I really hope we click in person.

Hope it goes well flame. was it friday you were meeting?

Dogman text me this morning :) just a general, hi, how are you, thing. Which is really nice i think. Shows hes thinking about me??
Good sign??

Im really looking forward to tomorrow. On the downside ive a bloody stye in my eye so look/feel very unattractive.

Yup. tomorrow lunchtime.

Dogman sounds enthused... def a good sign.

let us know how you get on. what you wearing?

You think thats a good sign?

Well I thought I was picky but I have just come across a guys profile that says 'If any of the following rules apply to you then move on and don't message me' -
No chipped nail varnish
No white shoes
No baggage (don't look to me to sort out any ex issues you may have)
Must own your own house
Must have your own car
Must have hobbies

Can't remember the rest

Definately a good sign Took if he is texting you between dates

oh good :)

Sorry for asking so many questions, its just been so long since ive dated. In fact, i dont think it even was dating when i was about 19. You just kind of got a bit drunk in a pub, snogged and then met up for more of the same, or not.

Its just seems like its a whole different ball game now. I dont know if thats because times have changed, or because im older really????

So, basically, i have no idea what im doing, and need help!! hence the 20 questions.

i am the same really. First real date was with carrot. unfortunately he set the bar high!

Lol @ list man. he should add "must be looking for a twat "

wearing vest, slouchy jumper thing, teeny skirt, purple tights and boots. the jumper and tights counteract the skirt length. It is one of my confident outfits.

Going for coffee and crazy golf in rain. unless i am half dead from pole dancing.

am i allowed to ask about the carrot date?
or not really?

Sounds like a nice outfit btw :) hope it goes well.

Lol it wasn't anything special. Just a pub and fruit theft but instant connection. Sat talking til midnight and only really went home through coldness. Damn him.

evening everyone [smi;e] i'm place marking again

we found out yesterday that dp's ds mother has booked to go on holiday and has told dp at very short notice, expecting him as normal to look after ds - which we love doing, we just very strongly disagree with her methods of upping sticks and going without any thought for her son

arrrrrrrrgghhh
sorry for the rant
am just angry for dp's ds

evening

thought i would share my latest message from a certain dating site ...
'looking to see, you from paul
I, shall be glad to acquaintance
to you! I to not hope that who that to answer me, because
I for the first time to get acquainted thus, but nevertheless
i like it pieces the you're out fix
i has seen the Pictures you this is your entertained a Queen
you r! takes care of themselves had you ? in the looks beauty is
good so take it soul you think what i wants from you????
relaxed ok kiss you many options. In any case,
I wish you good luck and as always a good mood. The mood
is the key to our success, is not it?'

understanding i not is, confused am I.

You got a message from Yoda!!!!

Sometimes better life couldnt' just get ....

oh dear.

that is truely awful.

lol.

You need to reply back with some kind of yoda inspired comment ' not able to read your message, was i'
or something like that.

flame - yeah. i understand that. Just had a quick read back. totally understand your situation. I kind of have/had ( not sure which tense to use really) this thing with someone ( maybe, in all honestly, why my dates havent worked out)Its fireworks, but for so many reasons it wont and never will work out. Doesnt stop either one of us chasing the other though. One chases, one pulls back, and so it goes on, for a year and half so far. I gave up any hope of anything actually working out just before the end of december, and registered with match.
I stupidly picked up the phone when he called yesterday, big mistake. He wants to give things a go. A part of me wants to say yes, but i also know its pointless as a month later it will all be off again.
Plus, its not really the relationship i want to be in. I do know this, doesnt/didnt stop me wanting it though.

However, second date with a very keen, and very hot dogman tomorrow. And i shall see how that goes :)

I dont want to get re involved with the other man again. Its hard, but i am done with it. ( even though i expect ill always want him) does any of that make sense?

Anyway - dogman and i were texting, on and off most of the day. Not constant, becuase that would be annoying, but every hour or so.
Im really looking forward to tomorrow.

Unfortunately it makes perfect sense. :(

He asked last night how i picture myself in a year's time and the picture was of me with Carrot. Obv didn't say that but it did make me wonder how I can expect this to work. But at the same time I can't move on as I am.

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe - don't listen to them ... their just jealous of you and your new rich Nigerian Prince. But I'm guessing your gonna be too busy to bother with MN, now your urgently sending him monies so you two can share his farthers kingdom.