support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

Scorps - stay strong

I have been busy reading my new kindle

Booked DD's 3rd birthday party today so that is one less thing to worry about

And for once I have plans tomorrow

I do find the w/ends the toughest tbh as most of my friends are with their husbands doing family stuff

But we have all been invited to lunch at a friends house (her DC are the same age as mine) so should be good.

Then my dad is babysitting while I go out with the girls for a bit

How is everyone???

Hope everyone worrying about their jobs are ok...

Simpson- So pleased to hear you're going out tomorrow!

Yes, agree weekends are the worse, used to rack my brains as to what to do with the DCS on Sundays...and bank hols.Much easier now DS2 is older!

I've sorted DS2s birthday too(next week)and his pressy has 'been dispatched',so hope it arrives before Weds.

Have a great time tomorrow!

Hi Sjm123
I think you were posting the other night? You said you were off work at the mo and feeling bit isolated? Am I right or mixing you up?
Just wanted to say hi - at least it's a bit of virtual contact on here.
Have you thought about any ways of getting out there a bit more?
Hi Exo sorry to hear of your job worries.

Hi everyone, just checking back in.

My DCs are away this week and the house feels very quiet. Of course, I'm now just beginning to get into the hang of it and they'll be back tomorrow and we'll have the panic of finding everything ready for school on Monday.

I struggle with meeting people too - once you're out of the playgroup thing it does seem to get much harder. Now I'm working too, I don't have time to meet other mums during the day and they're all coupled up in the evenings/weekends (though maybe that's more my stuff!).

Pushed myself at New Year and invited some people over and it was hard work but everyone had a good time. However, I did the same last year and it really hasn't led anywhere. Not sure how much energy I have to keep making the effort when it's not reciprocated iykwim.

Hoping I'll hear about my new house next week (keep your fingers crossed). Was supposed to be in before Christmas and now looking at half term. Have been trying to move for over a year and have got really ground down with it all but think it'll really happen now so beginning to get quite excited.

Aaah that's nice- just had neighbour pop in for a natter.. sunny day,and most people pass our house to get to the bridal path.. i wonder if living rurally has it's advantages,as it seems much more community spirited.

Mind you i have always found neighbours a good possibility friendwise,especially if they have DC the same age, still keep in touch with a couple i lived next door to 10 years ago!

School gates i have always found too 'political' and cliquey to start up hearty conversations...

We'll have our fingers crossed secretskills for exciting house news!!

Hi pickgo, yeah that's me. I had an old friend over last night which has perked me up a lot and I have planned a few things to do over the next few weeks. Whether I actually manage to get out and do them remains to be seen!

I have been getting texts from my ex all day today trying to make me change my mind about something that's not really anything to do with him. I'm becoming really bored with the emotional manipulation and such now. If I wasn't already depressed I'm sure he'd have made me that way with his recent behaviour. I've booked to go to a festival in July and he seems to think it's ok to threaten to not have the kids that weekend if I won't do what he wants. Stupid man.

I've been really lazy today, still in my pj's and I'm feeling really guilty about it now too :S

sjm, don't give in, have a plan B if you can, re. childcare for the festi weekend!Then he can try and manipulate all he likes!

n.b i think i posted on your thread too

Hi, yeah you did Jellykat :)

The old friend I saw last night has offered to have them so that I can still get to Sonisphere and catch up with some friends (and music) if he keeps messing about.

I have told him today that if he keeps up his nonsense he's going to miss out on seeing my kids at all. I don't really want to do that but I can't handle the petty silliness any longer, I have been advised by my therapist that I should cut contact with him entirely at least for a while but it would upset the kids so that's a last resort as far as I'm concerned.

I'm sure all this will settle down soon and I'm hoping then it'll get a bit easier!

Well he can't keep it up forever surely,silly man needs to get a grip!

Well done on Plan B..

Thanks :D

It's really nice to have something to look forward to anyway, Slayer, Metallica, Megadeth and Anthrax all in one day sounds like exactly what I need to cheer me up too :D

sjm - well done Sounds like you will have a fab time away

Went to a friends house today and DD drove me up the wall

Even my friend (whose DC are the same age) said to DD "you never leave your poor mummy alone"

I have never known a child to talk all the time It drives me mad

Oh well, on my way out now for a few drinks with the girls to de-stress

Have one for me!

sjm - Metallica i could do, not sure about all 4.. It'll blast you to into oblivion!probably a great place to be tho'

Yes, having something to look forward to is essential, i need to get me some plans...

simpson - your dd sounds like mine. I do wish she came with a mute button at times

What I need to do is try and get a bit involved with some of the school stuff I think. I will feel self-conscious and do tend to feel a bit uncomfortable with it all but am going to (really try and make myself) give it a try.

The festival weekend in July is lovely to have to look forward to and I will enjoy seeing all of the people that I haven't seen in ages and a bit of "me" time, but there's a reason I haven't seen them in ages. It's because they're all living the nightclubs, gigs and bar life that is fine and great fun when you don't have kids but not for me.

I need to do something about day-to-day life and not let myself get too stuck in being isolated. It's hard to keep chirpy for the kids when I don't ever see or talk to anyone but them!

Hi everyone, it is good to have personal plans, in March im going to go to leeds and see my sister for 4 childfree days!

I want to start a little hobby, club, but don't know what. Hopefully something with men there! I think i need an extra little hting to do, just for me. Will learn to drive asap too.

Had more texts from H last night.

DS said today he wants to see his daddy again

Soooo plan is I am going to mention to him about coming over for 2 days at Easter and we will see how it goes.

If he does come over I will have 3 days kid free

Also my youngest brother has gone to italy for 1yr so am planning a visit around May time hopefully to visit him.

Oh blimey, still haven't managed to think of anything plan-wise for this year, but still have 51 weeks to go!

Simpson-oooh Italy!Wonderful!-only been to Rome,and drove through to get to Sicily, but that's exciting..

Scorps- Sorry to read your Sat. night was tainted with more texts,please please don't reply, unless it's completely to do with DC. The longer you engage, the longer they'll keep on coming.

Jelly - It's stuff i kinda can't ignore and i think he knows that, he asks questions like 'Will it ever be ok?' and saying things like we will never share chips on the prom (a private old persons joke), etc. I reinforced it was his decision to leave & I have told him i think he's depressed and needs the doctors, i kept saying that and things like yes of course it will be ok and then just left it. He actually talked about dying, and how.... i just gave him the samiritans number and told him to see GP or even to go to A&E. If he says it again I'm telling his mum who can sort it out. He needs ADs I'm sure of it. But I've done all i can about that, i feel.

Anyway - (!) i have booked my eye test, asked a friend for a number of an instructor and have found some boxing classes i'd like to do, and maybe a Zumba one. Spoke to Dad last night and he's going to give me some money towards my first car when i pass . Now i just have to find the courage to ring the gym.......

Simpson - what will you do with your 3 days? I have been thinking of a spa day with my sister soon.

Scorps - all sounds very positive (the driving lessons & gym, not H's texts obviously)

Don't know what I will do yet....I will definately be out with the girls on the sat night, might suggest a spa day to some of them.

I just want to do stuff that I can't when kids are around iyswim. Even if its just going round the shops and maybe a bit of lunch out.

DS not well today so is off school again

Luckily does not seem to be anything major just a bit of a temp etc but am totally sick of them being ill now

Zumba is great fun! Just don't stand behind a size 8, big boobed, small waisted girl like I did last time.

We did a Banghra style dance at the last one I went to so I entertained the DC's doing it in front of Zingzillas.

It's OK if i do, as I'm a size 6/8 and 5'9, lol. Although very small boobs. chicken fillets really help

Afternoon All!

This weekend was mostly spent swimming, doing the housework and ironing and walking in the woods. "Me time" is a non-existent thing in my house.

I work full-time, so when I get home, both the DCs are blasting me, trying to be heard. Nice, but it does my head in. I literally can't thing straight

sjm hope that Plan B works if Plan A doesn't.... Honestly, some men...

scorps not good. Emotional blackmail is very wearing....

So today i did a brilliant impression of a drowned rat, 4x times as car is broken... Raining non stop from 6a.m.. Blinking blinking..

And DS2 moaning on and on about there's nothing to eat, having just consumed an entire packet of biccys(did he save one for mum ready for her return from dog walking..nnnooo!)If i had a pound for everytime my DC stood with their heads in the fridge i could take us on a cruise!.. Munchkins that's what they are!

Scorps Apologies,didn't realize the texts were that 'heavy',I think talking to his mum is a good idea, that's too much for you to cope with, and why should you?

Well I have made a rice pudding for DD today which is soya/dairy free which is totally boaksome I am not a good cook

Although DD seemed to like it Although she will eat anything!!

Jellykat - hope car is ok...The law of sod says this will always happen when its raining

Scorps - do you get on with his parents?

If you do it might be worth saying something to his mum....

Hello, anyone about?

I've had a really quite good day today. Tax credits people have sent me an emergency payment to get me through until they process my new single claim (so far 5 and a half weeks and counting) so I have been able to get some food shopping in (and some cigarettes, which I was gagging for) :)

I also have a job interview on Friday, for a bookkeeper/office manager's job!!!

I had a telephone interview today, and while they advertised that they want someone to work 9 to 4 Monday to Friday, they have said if I got the job I could work 9.30 to 4.30. That would mean that my youngest would only have to go to after school club and not breakfast club. That would save me £30+ per week, which I wouldn't get help with on Tax Credits because it's run by someone different to the after school club at the same school and wouldn't work out enough hours to get help with (had to just fork it out before). It pays quite a bit more than my last job, is really close to youngest's school so would just be great all round and would mean that I could finish off my AAT because it's a bit finance related. Fingers crossed, I really, really need it!

Oooh SJM fingers X for the job, it sounds ideal