support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

Well have been very naughty this morning and had a bit of a doze while DD at nursery.

Just got to go and get her now

Meglet - i love being out in the snow too, but only if it's for fun, not to have to get somewhere for a certain time etc.

Gillybean - that does sound so stressful... is there any possibility of cutting hours back again if just is too much?

Potty training! am putting it off, but dd is 2.3 now, and likes sitting on it fully clothed and pretending to wipe her bottom, but if not wearing clothes just sits there for a moment, groans in a theatrical way and springs up joyfully saying i did it! but hasn;t done anything! I'm in no hurry to start esp with school runs etc don't fancy having to manage emergency al fresco toileting at this time of the year!

Think I'll have a harder time getting back into swing of school - no more lazing around in our pjs... I was getting a lift to school last few weeks from another mum because of the snow and the difficulty of managing buggy on the snow & ice. But think need to go back to walking as need to walk off all the home baking we've been doing

Am feeling gloomy today as ex's mum & sister turned up an hour late to pick up kids meaning i couldn't go meet a friend for lunch. I hardly have time to myself so feel let down. It was a sort of date too, and he'll be getting fed up of my lack of availability at this rate. It's not anything serious, just fun and friendship - just not ready to even think about more after all the hassle.

No, I have no intention of sending it, its like a mini essay of everything he did, it helps me to stay away and to know i would be wrong to be with him.

Scorps - Have you thought of writing a journal? Might help you to stay strong iyswim

Hello, is it too late for me to join? Id love to be in touch with some other lone parents! Ive been on my own a while now, i have 4 young children, ds1 is 10, ds2 is almost 8, dd1 is 5 and dd2 11 months. I love them all SO much, but its so hard sometimes

Never too late to join in. I don't think there'll ever not be anyone here to vent cry laugh moan about ex chat with!

4 must have you constantly on the go. am worn out with just one (though of course with only 1 he is always lookig to me to chat to and entertain him!) Is very different and I actually find it easier when he has a friend over to keep him entertained. Not sure how easy 4 would be though!

Oh its really hard work, though your right when i just had the one, he was always looking to me for entertainment, so i quickly supplied him with a little brother to play with so they are the 10 and almost 8yo, my dd1 is 5 and because the boys are always playing together she at abit of a loose end, so i think she's eagerly waiting til dd2 is big enough to play proper games with! I dont ever feel i cant cope but sometimes i feel really low, lonely, tired of everything being my job, but i guess all lone parents have these same problems! I bet it helps to talk with others in the same situation?

Hello Charlotte and Gilly.

Did your older DCs go back to school today?Was it a bit of a relief?

Hi Charlotte

Yes it has been much better since DS went back to school on tuesday although he is suffering from tiredness and he did not want to do PE today because he very self conscious about the CP scars

I have been busy playing with my new toy!! My kindle arrived today finally so am busy downloading books to read etc

Got very important pead allergy appt for DD tom so that won't be much fun Lots of skin prick tests etc But it has to be done!!

Ouch re.allergy appt. but yes it does have to be done!

DS2 has consultant appt. for Osgood schlatters in his knee.
I have appt. with head senco.to kick her arse re. DS, again..
also appt with biomechanic podiatrist re. his hypermobility and specialist insoles..
in the next 2 weeks.

Waiting rooms are so boring,and they always seem to leave you sitting there for at least 40 mins.-sometimes i think they're hoping you'll give up and go home!

DS back to school tom.-oversleeping is a distinct possibility!

jellykat - DD is hypermobile too. And although is not too bad at her walking now (she did not walk till she was 22mths) she still can't come downstairs without sliding down on her bum iyswim.

She had 6mths physio but has been discharged now.

What annoyd me re her hypermobility is that they were very specific about what type of shoes she needs ie ankle supported etc but she does not qualify for them free Her shoes cost me £40

The waiting room at the hosp tomorrow is not too bad tbh as its full of toys and even has a full size slide in it, the trouble starts when her name is called and we have to leave the toys

Can you not take in one of the toys? it won't be for long..

Our podiatrist is fantastic (referred by gp)she is so precise re. tendons,ligaments, bones and general movements in DSs legs/ankles.. Does your DD have over pronounced feet due to flat footedness?.. That's how we got referred..and have insoles made up every 6 months in their lab. on NHS.

Re ankle supports he wears 'high tops'-cool!

no she was referred because she kept falling over and was double jointed in ankles, hips and knees.

She fell down some steps at a friends house once (only 4 steps outside onto decking) and I thought she had broken her leg, thought I would throw up tbh at the angle her leg was, then she got up and was fine

Unfortunately she would like to take the slide in with her to appt tom

Oh well, bribe of food works pretty well with her

at the slide!

Yes I, and both DSs are double jointed..We are a 'bendy' bunch! DS2 is the one that has the most problems..being dyspraxic too-so falling over/up and down everything going is a regular occurrence!

Yes the very first time I left DD and went away for the w/end (she was exactly 2 and I went to visit my kid brother at uni in Leicester)

I had a phone call to say she had fallen over in the park and split her head open and my mum spent 2hrs with her in A&E while she was stitched/glued together Blood all over her new coat

I fully sympathize! my DC have many 'distinguished' scars..

Good luck tomorrow, hope it doesn't all take too long..

I am having a crummy week again - I have bronchitis and am really knocked off with it so went to docs and he said he couldn't give me anything as i was breastfeeding . The fact that DD2 is currently on antibiotics as she also has bronchitis apparantly is different - surely getting the drugs through my milk is going to be easier than syringing down her neck three times a day. And the icing on the cake is that my X has cancelled his custodoy visit on Sat as there are disruptions on the train line and he would have 30 mins extra travel each way and he 'can't be bothered dealing with it'. He hasn't seen the kids since before xmas and my DD1 is so exciting about Sat - I don't know whether to lie now and say Daddy has to work or wait till Sat and tell her Daddy is ill. Im so sad for her and i hate having to cover for him.

Hannis - have a big ((hug))

I know what you mean about protecting the DC from their fuck wit fathers. I now never tell DS when their dad is supposed to call just incase he doesn't

Hello: May I join you? I'm a single mum to my DS (13) and DD (3). I've just survived Xmas with the 'flu' (but the kids said it was the best Xmas they've ever had)

I'm back at work now and it's a bit depressing leaving home in the dark and getting back in the dark....

Hi all new ones :) I'm a mother of 4 too . Boys back to school today so getting back to normal. Got a new hoover, having so much fun hoovering everything!

My sister came over last night so that was nice. Lacey's CP clearing right up, so not too much going on here really.

Hannispan, have you been on mn for a while? i think i recognise your 'name'?

Bookmarking..

Nothing interesting to report. Back at work and the dc's back at nursery. Just counting the hours 'til spring really.

The allergy talk has reminded me that DS (4) has a peanut challenge at the hospital in a couple of weeks, must do some research before we get there.

Hannispan I usually tell my DS2 slowly, i.e Dad might have a bit of a problem getting here on Saturday..a kind of warning.Then maybe tom. say it looks like he can't make it.. if you leave it till Sat. there's another 2 days excitement/build up for DD1 to be let down on..

Your poor DD1!It's so cruel- Why do they do that? and leave us to pick up the pieces?..

You should take lots of vit.C,if they won't give you antibiotics..

Congratulations on your new hoover Scorps

Hello Meg and Lemon

Hi lemony

Scorps - do you want to come and hoover mine??

My paprents gave me some cash for Xmas and I have ordered a tumble drier (never had one before) and is being delivered next week. I am pathetically excited

DD's first peadiatric allergist appt at 3pm today...

Wise choice-a tumble dryer!!! Never had one.. but,Oh Yes! No wet washing adorning the house..Bliss..

especially with 2 small kittens who keep knocking over the clothes horse