Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

[ninah]

part 27? good god

yep spray tan!

how exciting, have a lovely time

though you may well end up with a bedroom tan of course which would solve any issues

oh wow lilac!

Twunt Lou.

POF is just taking the piss now. It has given me Carrot at the top of my list of matches! He's talking about backing out of the date (not because of that obv). I was very good and was about 70% on telling him he'd be fine etc. The other 30% did break through as I told him that I was fully in support of cancelling too.

Lilac, how lovely, hope you have a fantastic time - this man is ticking all the boxes!

Lou, your ex..... , what an arse

Aurora, hope all gets sorted with your housing

MZ, Sponge IKWYM re looks. I was a mess about that from early teens, turned to bulimia for years and years, never had any confidence, was always the frumpy friend, never the girlfriend. XH always left me with the feeling that I wasn't really his type and then confirmed it with the manner of his leaving. TLM compliments me all the time and finds me desirable in a way I have never experienced in my life - I struggle to believe in it tbh and am always worrying about my weight, grey hairs and wrinkles......then the Gruaniad-reading feminist in me surfaces and I strop about the place muttering about my right to hairy legs and no makeup.....Poor man, I confuse myself, never mind him!

Getting excited about the weekend. We are off into London tomorrow after XH picks up the girls. 2 nights at the RAF club and dinner at the Dover Street wine bar with live jazz - cannot wait

HI
Can i join this thread? didnt see it and made another one.

Ive a date on monday.

I joined match on boxing day after a snipping comment from my sister.

You know what its like, tons of emails, mostly from idiots.

One guy seemed really nice, he gave me his number after a few emails and its been a bit of a text a thon since. hes asked if he can call me, but i said im busy this evening and this weekend, which i am.

We are meeting for coffee monday.

Ive done online dating before, never had any sucess. But he does seem really nice, and we have tons in common too.

ok - so coffee date - what do i wear?
Skinny jeans, biker boots, was thinking thin, slightly see though black jumper, with a vest top under?

Hi tookool, come on in, the water's lovely

outfit sounds great, is it a daytime coffee or evening?

, not getting a whole lot of work done here I have to say......

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daytime.
The jumper isnt really that see though.. just very thin.

Fingers crossed. Though i dont think its ever flowed quite so easily before.( obvioulsy we have only texted though)

He might smell or something. or have bad shoes.

????

You should see the collywobbles I had in the run up to my 1st date with TLM (aka RAF) - there was a thread going elsewhere about worst things about blokes on dates and I was convinced TLM was going to have a pony tail, pick his teeth at the table and have one, odd, weird long fingernail......suffice to say none of this turned out to be the case

Sounds like there is a click already which bodes well. I had a thing about wanting to speak to TLM sooner rather than later as i think voices are important (imho) - wouldn't have bothered meeting him had he had David Beckham voice iykwim

Looking forward to hearing how it goes

ooooh, I hear the clank of the coffee pot in the kitchen, yay

better make like I am working and deserve coffee to be brought to me instead of faffing about on MN......

well, without getting ahead of myself, its the most 'click' ive had with anyone for about 2 years.

mily have a lovely time in London I went to Dover Street few times with ex it will be fun! and lilac, dubai, how exciting.
tookool your outfit sounds find, and have a good first date.
fwiw the people on the 'marital sofa' seemed to me to decide quite early on that things were good, and not have the doubts etc that pple like me have had (ie those of us on the bar stools)
eve i'd mention it about that chap as well, it is certainly weird to be using different names maybe he's some kind of scammer?

flame so what are your feelings about carrot atm?

and coffee has arrived......

hey Ninah

Eve, I agree re the guy with 3 names

Flame , do tell

lilac, how fab! . Hope you have a wonderful time.

And mily, high five from another grauniad reading feminist

I too used to hate my appearance and only became confident about my looks in my 30s.

I will actually have 10 DS-less days from NYE and feel a bit wobbly. What the effing jeff will I do? Although, am actually looking forward to NYE on my own. Got some money off my Dad for xmas so have bought in some luvverly food and some 'treats' for myself. Think being a bit hermitty might do me good!

Welcome tookool. And your date outfit sounds great to me :)

And of course I need to sort out some stuff in the house...

Sure I will find plenty to occupy me.

Hi All,

Im supposed to be working too MILY. Have just finished mucking out, walking dogs, nursing hangover from girls night out. Am on my own till after new year so trying to catch up on all the stuff I didnt do when mum was ill. Am getting there..

No dates on the horizon apart from radioman after new yr when he is back but I think he has lost interest as I hardly ever hear from him. Guess he is not the one!

Anyone out there ever tried e harmony? Thinking of giving it a go, oe of my friends up here has used it a bit. Am a bit bored with the folks on GSM

outfit sounds great.

Feelings for Carrot... in love with him. He has become my closest friend and at the moment the good parts of that outweigh the hurt. If I can't handle a girlfriend I will have to walk away, I know that. It frustrates me that he clearly has feelings for me too but until he has the guts to admit that there is nothing I can do. He only seems to be going out on this date because she asked.

We're in our comfortable bubble that isn't reality. We know we need to break out of it.

I am not waiting around for him. I am talking to a few people on POF. I have nights out with single mate planned for the new year so real life interacting can happen.

Ohh flame.. really feel for you, that must be so hard. Tis very difficult to try to move on when you have met someone you really like.

oh Flame, that's hard. TBH I have lost in the mists of time why you guys can't just be a straightforward couple and go for it? Was it the thing about him wanting to start a family with someone from scratch?

Janos, don't fill all that lovely free time with chores whatever you do! Maybe a trip to the library and/or charity shop bookshelf for tonnes of reading - I am at the thought of hermit time with books...

Elasta, your morning of work sounds great . I tried e-Harmony but they wouldn't let me on as I was 'only' separated at the time . I do seem to recall a few people saying the matching is pretty accurate

Car in for MOT and £350 bill , not what I need at this time of year...........

this is prob not the thread fro it but, any NY resolutions to share?

I am going to start making time for reading again - haven't done so the last few months and I really miss it. Am going to take my own advice from the previous post and stock up on good books. TLM away druing the week in Jan and Feb on a course so 4 nights a week on my own which I am determined not to fill with work as I did back in the summer (you might see me on here a bit more too of course )

Not really a resolution but I am going to sort out the dds' rooms (inc TLM DD) with dejunking, the right furniture (e.g. DD2 out of cotbed, DD1 into high-bed with pull-out desk etc) and clean up the decoration

Nope. Thought that was it but it wasn't. I haven't a clue now tbh. I think pretty much fear. Fear of him getting hurt, of him hurting me, of losing what we have by it all going wrong and him turning into boyfriend man (he's convinced boyfriend him is horrible thanks to some delightful exes).

I am of the opinion that it could potentially be good enough to take the leap, but he is too scared. Hence the bubble where nothing is real so nothing can go wrong. We've both proved time again that we can't walk away.

It'll either happen or I will move on.

Flame, you never know, it might just work out in the long run.

NY resolutions. I am going to make a bit more time for me. Be kinder to myself and also try to get fit again. Havent ridden my horse since mum got ill so am going to try to do some of the things I love doing and stop obsessing about random men. Will still go out dating but am not going to focus my energy on it

While looking after mum, I decided that if I was looking for happiness it probably wasnt going to be found on an internet dating site

2011 is the year that I give up smoking for good. Not sure when I will start but I have to do it. Also want to get away on holiday towards my birthday as we didn't go this year and I missed it. Might be the last one with DD as she is turning 17 and wants to do a gap year when she is 18, then I reckon I'm on my own.

NY plans sound good for some, Lilac [jealous]. Mily have a good time.

Lou, I would be giving up on him by now, poor DD2!

Still haven't decided what to do tomorrow night. Not sure I can face it on my own, I find NYE a bit depressing although I'm happy to say gooodbye to 2010, been a horrible year for me. At least everyone is still healthy so should be thankful for that.

It's 2 years since this thread started and I haven't met anyone FI&A in all this time, met a load of wrong uns and met a couple of boy mates, also made a few friends on here.

Hark at me being all philosophical. Can feel the NY blues washing over me already.

Elasta, that sounds spot on - I always think resolutions that are about nice things stand a much better chance of succeeding! Years ago I used to do the classic of I will give up smoking, lose 2 stone and stop drinking, all in the first week of the year and guess what, by Jan 4th I was a miserable grouch

As it was, I gradually gave up smoking anyway, stopped worrying about my weight and didn't drink that much anyway (ok, I am lying about the last one....)

I think you never know where happiness will strike, since it is all about chance and serendipity (sp?). Enjoying yourself and being kinder is a good start