Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

MzD, send him a text - it's only a text, not a marriage proposal!

Lou, so sorry to hear about the horrible things happening to others around you.

sponge, I can't imagine what a stress willy looks like. Is it labelled as such, or are you jumping to conclusions and it's actually a dildo?

Hi elasta, have a lovely day full of happy memories and remember that your mum is at peace and would want you and the DC to enjoy yourselves.

So mily and everyone else who wants an update on my night of luxury (and debauchery )...it was just amazing! The hotel, the room, the bathroom, the service, the maid who came and turned the bed down (have to admit we had used it already and hurriedly reconstructed it before going out to dinner), the dinner at Cipriani's, holding hands walking back to the hotel afterwards, the room service breakfast...but most of all, the lovely man I spent the last 24 hours with. Budge up those of you on the loved-up sofa, is there room for one more?

Finally got everything but I am a bit lite on the dcs stockings this year.

Just how it has turned out.

Tomorrow I will drop dcs at 11 and they will be dropped back to me at about 6. DS1 does not want to go and ds2 is ok with it but not for that period of time. Usually I have them on Xmas Day but this year because new p want to go to see some of her family on Boxing Day then we have swapped. She is very family orientated which is fine but when exh was with me he used to say he hated families, typical parent types and so on ad nauseum. So he must be really faking it bigtime. That sticks in the craw (?) a bit. And dcs see right through it and challenge him on it.

We will then have our Xmas lunch on Boxing Day.

I intend to do a bit of tidying up then put my feet up with a drink and watch what I want on TV.

by the way has anyone tried the LIDL version of Baileys - bought a bottle today and hoping its ok otherwise Ill be out to the shop to buy the real thing.

wishing a very merry christmas to one and all and hoping for a very happy 2011 I have a feeling that its going to be a good year and thank god we're not going to be thrown out of our house until 2012.

Lilac - am jealous - though not sure whether of the post hotel or the impending seat on the sofa!

And Sin, I sincerely hope so too. Enjoy the (barely?) Baileys - and for gods sake forget the tidying - it's Christmas woman!

posh not post!

ooh lilac night at Dorchester sounds absolutely fantastic - Im envious.

Erm Sponge what size is the stress willy (snigger emoticon)?

Not sure how Id feel if a colleague gave me one - though I bought a friend a vibrator for her birthday the other year. Was that so wrong? Now netthinks - also asked her a few weeks later if shed tried it.

methinks (doh)

if you really want to see

voila

I experienced slight sense of humour failure. My colleagues presents were more along the lines of wine, toiletries, chocolate...apart that is from the poor girl who got the only present worse than mine, a set of cock trumps

I did think now I'm one of the more senior people that might be reflected in my present....

anyway

lilac - wow re hotel, and sofa joining :)

mz - have you sent that text yet? you could be the next one on the sofa at this rate!

scl - enjoy the non baileys, hope you've stopped tidying and are now sitting down with a glass and lots of ice.

So, not much on the men front here. Was going to text WM about his job to say congrats etc but havent. I think if I did and he didnt reply I'd feel a bit down, and if he did reply I'd get my hopes up again. So have left it alone. am emailing someone from match but think he's maybe a bit too normal for me :)

Have decided am probably going to be single for the foreseeable so have bought myself a nice new TV for my bedroom, am not expecting to have anything to do in bed other than watch TV for a long time!

DS1 is a bit poorly so having a sleep. Ds2 is with my Ex. Will share this text exchange with the Ex from earlier:

Me: Could you let me know what time you're bringing DS2 home tonight please?
(sent this same text 3 times during the day before getting a reply at 4pm)

Ex: Will I get to see DS2 on Christmas Day?

Me: Yes, I suggest we keep to what we've done the last two years [ boys here Xmas Eve night, he picks them up mid morning and then brings them back late afternoon] so they get to spend time with both of us

Ex: Yes I agree

Me: So what time is DS2 coming home then?

silence........

am hoping DS2 turns up tonight at some point.

happy christmas everyonexx

hi everyone

finally i have sat down though dinner isnt ready yet, but at least i dont have to go anywhere or do anything

dp managed to get off work an hour early so we can finally start to enjoy xmas

hope you all have a lovely lovely break x x

Hi all,

Thanks for all your good wishes.

Am slowly getting ready for christmas. Presents all wrapped. Table all decorated for tomorrow. Have a huge dining table that I bought with my ex and never use. It looks fab. I think it is only the 3rd time we have sat round it in 3 years! I dont really entertain much anymore and always eat in the kitchen.

Decided that as I am doing christmas, we will be doing it properly, even if we all feel a bit crap. Tomorrow morning after we have unwrapped our presents me and the boys are are GOING SKIING!!! on the hill behind the house. Hope this isnt followed by a trip to casulty

Christmas wishes to you all xx

elasta that sounds great, will keep my fingers crossed for safe ski-ing for all of you

Ds1 is still asleep and snoring :) Ds2 came back at 8. At 8.30 Ex text me and asked if Ds2 was still here

Is he really completely mad Sponge - or is he just trying hard because it's Christmas?

Sponge, what does he mean by that? Sounds like a dig, not good on Christmas eve.

DD's half DB's & DSis brought her a present round tonight. Which is about as good as it gets but she was pleased to see them.

I have had a couple of drinks tonight after my dry night out last night, DN's weren't impressed

Not cooking dinner tomorrow as I'm a guest. I felt a bit lonely earlier on as I would have loved a kiss under the mistletoe, just not sure who off. I haven't met him yet. I feel OK now.

Logging off the internet for a couple of days, DD and I have this tradition of keeping off it over Christmas.

I ve now been 'told' that I have to collect dcs tomorrow. Its not a biggie but the principle of it really.

I know I pissed off exh's p with the email but surely she could have dropped them off!!

merry xmas ladies. hope you're surrounded by those you love. i have my three DCs all day for the first time since their dad sodded off,so am really looking forwards to it - thinking of those of you who are dashing around a bit and delivering or picking up DCs. x x

Merry Christmas everyone! Woke up alone and don't care. Spoke to lovely new man and miss him loads but my life is better for having him in it. Kids will be here in about 15 mins and I might even get up then

Hope you all have a lovely day x

well my dcs are back and I feel happier. I couldn't really relax when they had gone (for six hours) as I had to go and pick them up despite exh saying they would be dropped off.

They didn't seem to enjoy themselves much and exh growled at me as he brought them over to the car and said that that didn't go very well !! Grumpy old git!

Ds1 said that new p still makes snide remarks about me. Have no idea why - I have no axe to grind with her - other than she makes snide remarks.

I have always tried to encourage them in their new situation vis a vis exh meeting someone new and having dts. The dt part actually does work well - it seems the prob is how they get on with p and that they see a big difference in the way exh acts in her presence and how he acts with them when they are alone and how he talks to me.

scl glad you have them back home and can relax and enjoy Xmas now :)

Both DSs went to Ex's parents (where he's living) earlier to get their presents etc - DS2 wanted to stay so is coming back tomorrow, but DS1 said he's prefer to be here. We normally have our Xmas dinner at dinnertime (7ish) on Xmas day, but as DS2 isnt here, DS1 and I have decided to postpone it til tomorrow.

You might remember me saying a few weeks ago Exh was pleading poverty, no job, no money etc....notwithstanding, he bought the boys a Kinect thing for Xbox and Ipod touch each

hmm sponge that must have cost alot!!

we ll be having our Xmas lunch tomorrow too.

Nothing like guilt presents!

Yesterday was good. Dd1 didn't cope with the change overly well and cried when i left her at xh's :( Got back and went with drowning sorrows as the house was far too empty for xmas night. Carrot appeared for a bit, is due back now. Going to xh's for roast in a couple of hours and his dad announced yesterday that he is coming today!

?ow bought me Christmas presents - Wtf is that about??! It was things we'd had half a chat about before all this kicked off, so not just random things grabbed from the first shop iyswim.

@ flame - how very odd - what do you think her game was?

Had a chat with Mrbetterbeworthit ... he told me I was cute(???), clever and sexy ... but too far .... but I think he's still going to try to come down to London so will have to wait and see. F*cking typical of my life - that at long last I can answer the above question - and for me the answer is bloody Manchester - and for me that might as well be Mars!

Not a bloody clue. Every time I am absolutely convinced she was on a mission to have whichever man she wanted regardless of the consequences she does random crap like this and I go back to that teeny grain of trust I have always had. They both know I would NEVER give my blessing regardless of how much time has passed, if I am seeing someone etc so buttering me up is no use. XH seemed as baffled as me.

:( for Manchester.

No Carrot this morning - various reasons. Told him i would suggest going to him but that that would involve him admitting i exist outside of our bubble we have. He's coming for the evening instead.

so much for a New year and sanity starting!

good afternoon everyone

happy birthday me!

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday ASOB - have messaged you on FB.

Stupidly went through my old emails today and found a message from Mrbetterbeworth it - dated august 2007 - looking back on it, I feel I've possibly wasted three years(!!) with someone because I was worried he had been too open about claiming to feel some connection between us.

I think I was initially mistrustful because I thought he was after too much too soon - now with hindsight, just feel he was being incredibly honest and open.

Not sure what to say or do really - but feeling strangely low and like I could or should kick myself.

anyone got any useful advice, please feel free to comment.

No experience is wasted. You will be a different woman now to who you were three years ago. Maybe last time he was right guy wrong time.