Am I being too fussy?

[salizchap]

OK, after the passing of yet another waste of space relationship, I have put a new profile on POF in the ever unrealistic optimistic hope of atracting mr right.

Is it me? 4 men have contacted me recently. Although I specifically say on my profile that I only want to date locally, the first man lives 200 miles away. The second just looks miserable and doesn't smile in any of his 10 pics. The third is unattractive and only writes 2 lines in his profile. The fourth is ok in his pic but his ortography, spelling and punctuation is awful.

None has an interesting or well paid job (full time student, lorry driver, shop worker, unemployed). I would like, for a change, date a professional man who might be able to treat me occasionally, especially as a lone parent I struggle to make ends meet. I am fed up of landing blokes who are worse with finances than me and just make my life more complicated.

Am I expecting too much? Am I being a job snob?

Great idea bout the meet, boo!

No new prospects yet, Jaqui!

Nice, Loo! Good luck.

saliz, I GIVE UP.....FUCKWITS AND TIMEWASTERS..

hope things are going well for everyone else

luceeloo, skinnys and heels seem to be the way to go, hope you have fun, report back...it's the law you know .

Oh dear, Jaqui. What happened?

A couple of colleagues of mine are planning to go to a ´singles night´ in Torquay in December. I think I will tag along with them. I know it´s a while off, but I am looking forward to it already!

How was that date, loo?

Can I join in as another lost soul in Devon :) ?

I tried Guardian Soulmates and got 0 (zero, nada, zilch) replies. I like to think it's 'cos no-one wants a soon-to-be 45 year old with a toddler, but perhaps my photo made me look a complete minger! Any tips, ladies?

Saliz, had a complete and utter bulls**t message from someone who seemed really genuine, was pretty hacked off. Had a particularly bad start to the week but feel better now.

Loving the idea of the singles night, can we all come too.

Welcome Lurcio, of course you can join, more the merrier. No tips from me I'm afraid, Friday is here once again and I am dateless . I think we should have a Devon singles meet up, where are you Lurcio?

Hi Lurcio, welcome to the club!

The singles nite in torquay is on the 2nd and 3rd December, at teh riviera conference centre, if anyone is interested. The 2nd is for 35-55 yr olds, 3rd for 22-39 yr olds. We are going on the 2nd, even though I am 33, because all my colleaugues are older, plus I prefer meeting slightly older men, I really don´t need another immature 22 yr old!

here's a link

oooh that is so tempting saliz. Are you in Torquay or travelling there? We really should organise a meet up you know .

I am travelling there from kingsbridge. Where are you?

Saliz, I have PM'd you.

Well, I've just been asked on a date?!??!!? MrShyDIY guy has finally asked after emailing for a couple of weeks....faints.

I know of a singles event in Wellington if anyone is interested.

And where the heck is Boo? I need an update .

I'm here!
I met the friends on Thursday night, they were fabulous. I really felt so at ease, we got a takeaway in and watched a movie. I was mortified yesterday as he was letting me know their verdict, but the consensus is that I am a 'win'
Seeing him on Sunday night and trying to organise babysitter for next week so we can actually get out. The slowly slowly approach is working well still

Ooo and yay for the date! Don't leave it too long before meeting face to face

Boo, fantastic news, seems to be going really well. Have you sorted an outfit for the ball yet?

Where in Devon are you? DD looking to make some cash, would be perfect for babysitting (pm me if you don't want to post location).

I am meeting MrShyDIY guy tomorrow evening. Not holding out hopes as he emails a lot about his diy exploits with is a tad boring but sounds as though he has gutted and rebuilt his house so who knows. Am a little worried though as he has never heard of Razorlight, he is 39 btw, is that odd?

ooh!! I'm in Plymouth and doing dating websites. People keep messaging me from the other end of the country and I seem to get a lot of dorks too. I'm hoping if I wait long enough I'll find what I'm looking for.

pastyeater, let us know how you get on, any potentials?

I really think we need to organise a Devon speed dating evening (will exclude Boo though as she is well and truly sorted ).

Will do xxx

Ooh hello. Sorry to butt in but I'm internet dating too and it's great to find a thread about it. I'm on Match.com and Guardian Soulmates. Am chatting with a few people. Have a date tomorrow and one on Thursday.

I've been on a few dates now but not met anyone I really liked. One bloke I met started going on about how he thought he might book a hotel for the night as he was working in the same town the next day and did I know how much the Premier Inn over the road cost! Then he suddenly became all concerned about what a long drive home I had. When I said it was ok and that I liked driving, he started to steer the conversation back to the hotel again. At that point I made it clear that I was leaving. Alone. I couldn't believe the bloody cheek of the man!

Welcome MYODD, more the merrier. Good for you for leaving, what a chancer? What are your Monday and Thursday guys like?

I know! Cheeky git. I mean... a Premier Inn, for goodness sake ;-)

Am particularly looking forward to Thursdays date. I really like his photos and we've been texting quite a bit. Am more on the fence about tomorrow but we'll see... It's hard to tell whether you're attracted to someone until you meet face to face isn't it.

Oh and I've got a question here. Have any of you lot had any experience of men who just e-mail but don't ask you out? I'm really enjoying a particular e-mail conversation I'm having with this one bloke - we seem to have loads in common and I'd really like to meet up, but he's just not asking me out. It's really frustrating. How do I get him to hurry up? If he's not interested then I'd rather not waste my time e-mailing really. I know he's gone out on dates with other people so I'm not sure what gives.

How long have you been emailing? It took my guy about a week of lots of emails before asking me out iirc. Why don't you bite the bullet and ask him? I htink his email was phrased something liek 'I won't lie, I've really enjoyed talking to you, would you like to get together in the next few weeks?'
No pressure, very easy to reply to. Go on, do it tonight, you know you want to

Just checking in before my date .

I have had/am having the endless emailing, as you say, very frustrating. May take a leaf out of the gurus book and ask them .

Ooo date date!!! Is it tonight?
Am waitign in for my man, 10 minutes to go and I'm going to make him watch X Factor