Am I being too fussy?

[salizchap]

OK, after the passing of yet another waste of space relationship, I have put a new profile on POF in the ever unrealistic optimistic hope of atracting mr right.

Is it me? 4 men have contacted me recently. Although I specifically say on my profile that I only want to date locally, the first man lives 200 miles away. The second just looks miserable and doesn't smile in any of his 10 pics. The third is unattractive and only writes 2 lines in his profile. The fourth is ok in his pic but his ortography, spelling and punctuation is awful.

None has an interesting or well paid job (full time student, lorry driver, shop worker, unemployed). I would like, for a change, date a professional man who might be able to treat me occasionally, especially as a lone parent I struggle to make ends meet. I am fed up of landing blokes who are worse with finances than me and just make my life more complicated.

Am I expecting too much? Am I being a job snob?

forgive my self-indulgent posts but feel quite overwhelmed by this guy.....ahem 40 minute phone call today .

That's great though Jaqui, that's the whole point, you are enjoying yourself and maybe even feelign a bit in lust
I am more of a texter than a phone call girl, but 40 minutes is very impressive
Just make sure you do all the usual things, tell someone where you're going, stay in public, and get someone to be your 'emergency' phone call about 30 minutes in!

Thanks Boo, yep all things in place. I was surprised about the phone call, don't really do long chats but this just happened.

Yes I am going to the singles night in Torquay.

Have exchanged texts with plymouth navy boy... oooh the nerves!!!

Texts, texts!! you got onto texts and we know nothing about him....c'mon, spill!

I am nodding my approval at the turn this thread has taken. I need DETAILS.
Babysitter has let me down for tonight so he's bringing me Mcdonalds over, the big romantic
If any of you are about next weekend, we'll be having a night out in Exeter on Saturday, my friend is tagging along with a group of his friends in the hope of hooking up with one of them. God help them all

Well if tonight is a washout then I may just come along Boo .

What time are you off Jaqui??

6.30

and yes, I promise to report in when I'm back!

Weeeellll....

He is 23, in the navy, based in Plymouth... quite sporty...

Not much more to say yet...

and......how long have you been texting? meet up arranged? C'mon Saliz, stop being cagey .

Well obviously I am back...feel a little , not nearly as lovely as his picture,shallow, me, yep, he was however very attentive, funny, pretty entertaining to be honest. Never been on a date before where I could tell if a guy was keen, but this one is keen. If I went with my gut feeling I would say he was an honest, decent guy, didn't feel a spark, not sure if that will come later. I sort of have a mental tick list - could I see you again, could I snog you, could I have sex with you, would I be happy for you to meet my children. He only ticks the could I see you again at the moment, not sure if I should persue this one. Shame, I fancied the pants off his photo, again, shallow, me, yep. Am off PoF now til perhaps new year, really just can't be bothered.

I'm all for giving a second date a whirl if in doubt. Our first date went so well, the time flew by, lots to talk and laugh about but a part of me was still unsure. I went on a second date and I was even more unsure. I knew I liked him, enjiyed spending time with him, but I didn't know if I wanted him as a partner. I'm so glad I persevered. I think a lot of it, consciously or not, is (in my case at least) trying to protect yourself and finding little things that niggle. I had been badly hurt by my ex, who just buggered off when I was pregnant after a solid 4 years together, so that had left me with issues, and tbh I was (still am) terrified of gettign involved with someone and learnign to trust them.
He's just slept over for the third time, still no full on action, but I really like that we are both on the same page, takign it very slow. If I had let my fears stop me seeign him again I'd never have got to this stage :)
Havign said that, if you're not into him then you're not into him. I'd at least try and give it another date though.

Thanks for the sermon Boo . Glad things are going well for you, sounds lovely. Guess I have nothing to lose by a second date...sigh.

I should add as well, it can be majorly offputting knowing that someone is way more into you than you are them. Hard to explain, you should be flattered, but it can look like they are a bit desperate. You obviously made a good impression on him though

he has text asking if I want to meet this weekend? should I?

Yep

Well have agreed to dinner on Sunday evening. He obviously made a mental note that it took a lot longer for me to get home that it was for him so he has suggested somewhere closer to me, he is VERY polite.

Well that sounds promising :)

he has text this evening to ask if I have snow yet, he is very attentive although not pushy...not sure what I feel about it all really.

Boo, have you found something for the big do yet?

Good luck for tonight saliz, don't forget to report back.

Ooo it's all happening here. Yes, I have a full lnegth black Coast dress that I got unbelievably cheap. It looks gorgeous on. Only 2 weeks til we go, I'm fretting thatmy friend will let me down for babysitting last minute, she's done it a couple of times recently when it didn't really matter, but this does matter.

Saliz, ignore me, realised it's next weekend!

Glad you've got the frock sorted, sounds great. Can you get a stand by babysitter Boo?

Gawd...me again.....what do you make of this....last text was 1.30 yesterday afternoon, had told him during the week I had busy weekend but didn't specify what I was doing but Sunday evening was ok to meet up. I am so rock n roll that at 10.20, when I'm in bed, my mobile rings and it's him (felt annoyed), leave it to voice mail and he says he tried to message me but wouldn't go through (not had problems during the day) just wanted to know if tonight was still ok and if I had snow etc. Now, he has no idea if I am seeing anyone else at the moment, I could have been on a date (I wish) or anything. So, is he being attentive or needy or what .

oh and he left message on msn and now has just text .