Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

I hate it when coke explodes.

Carrot has just gone. Weirdest set up in the world but so comfortable now we're set. He's got six years to find true love (as have I). He was up for only three years.

So. Back on POF and OKC. Had a couple of messages last night :)

Lol he's just added me as a fave on POF.

DD1 told XH about me sending the parents evening text to Carrot .

So. I am v good friends with XH. I am match making for the man I am sleeping with. And I am talking to Curly on OKC (name based on hair seems simple enough).

As I explained to Carrot this morning... this is only weird if you compare it to sane people.

Just sent a message to ManA on fb. I've spoken to various people online, and except for Carrot - he has been the one it just all came easily with. Told him I can't guarantee to be The One or that it won't all end in heartbreak, but if he fancies a drink some time to let me know.

:) eve. Was that your great neice? Saw your FB post. There is no WAY you are old enough to have a great neice - no way!

WW - your love life sounds very complicated.

Oh and that date I went on...would it be dreadfully immature to say SCORE?!

:o DETAILS!

Nah, v simple. I met the right man at the wrong time, I am therefore using him for what I can, whilst I can, whilst trying to find the right man at the right time

That sounds a little like me WW :)

Well, tbh I was thinking today I felt a little tired and might cancel as I just had a couple of hours anyway. Then I walked into the pub where he was, thought mmm, very nice - and his face lit up when he saw me. Very flattering!

Things developed from there, chat flowed easily, we had a good laugh and we will both meet again asap.

Things with PMM taking an interesting turn. He sending friendly messages, asking to chat and wanting my opinion on all sorts of things. Could develop into a friendship, maybe? I would like to think so, you can never have too many friends.

Hello all

Just dropped DD1 back to boarding school so only me and the little one again, therefore much less arguing :)

Not much time to myself this week really, it's parents evening til 8pm Tuesday and 6pm Thursday, but have managed to arrange for solider to pop round tomorrow evening while DD2 is at Guides

Good luck in your hunt, flame - give the veggies a wide berth this time!

evening all

we officially had our first proper row today, but its all ok now

i felt better after pouring his fry up on the floor in front of him

lou, I am APPALLED by that behaviour.

Really, really shocked.

What a waste of good food!

it's ok it wasnt mine :)

Hmmmm...did you at least get to eat yours?

yes of course

the dogs enjoyed dp's too

Lou - at fry. Don't mess with the Lou

Janos - sounds vee promising

Eve - it's lovely having a baby around, I've been spent some time with my great nephew last week. He's gorgeous. :)

WW - so, you and carrot are now fwb?? As long as you're cool with that??

SCL - sounds like a nice evening :)

Hi to everyone :)

lou - that's all right then!

Hi Monty, yes...fingers crossed. I had good vibes :)

i thought i was very restrained, i almost went and emptied it in the bath with him

Janos - woohoo!

Lou - lol, did you make him another one?

I know someone who threw a pan of spaghetti bolognese at their partner, and then stood and cooked another one lol. (No, it certainly wasn't me).

Ooh Janos sounds good!

Lou what was it about??? To waste fry up it had to be BIG imo.

Yup, fwb, sort of... it is more than friends tbh... more heart to hearts tonight. The marriage and kids is more the thing than the magic. We both ended up v tearful . He was asking why I was so wing womanish, and I said that I knew that he wanted the marriage/children with someone who was starting it all too, experiencing it all together for the first time, and that if it wasn't for that then I would be making a fight for him, but as I am not that person and nothing can rewrite the past, I want to see him with that right person. He agreed that if he had already done that stage, that the magic wouldn't be a big enough issue to stop us.

Being grown up is hard. But it is right. I wouldn't want to stop him having that for anything in the world. He has 3 years. If he hits 35 and isn't there, then we go for it. It is worrying how much of a firm plan that is sounding rather than just the normal "if you're single when we're 40, I'll marry you" kind of deal .

This saga is far from over is it?

probably not flame :)

tbh it shouldnt have been as big an issue as it turned out to be, but it just evolved

and had he not said he wanted a fry up before the niggle started, and i had let the niggle go and cooked a fry up, only to be told when i presented it that he didnt want it, then i wouldnt have seen red

anyway its all done and dusted now and we have been laughing over what would have happened if i had tipped it into his bath with him etc

we had to have a first proper row eventually , and nearly 11 m isnt bad going

and neither of us are simmering over it which is good

oh and i did make him another one a couple of hours later once he admitted he only said he didnt want it cos he was being silly, and was in fact starving

but it wasnt as good as the original one

WW - I'm not sure whether I've missed something as I've been skimming. Did he tell you he loved you recently or am I getting it wrong?

No. He hasn't told me he loves me. He's told me I am amazing and fabulous :)

Lol @ the fry up scenario :o

i would have taken pics of him bathing in a fry up

if i thought i could have escaped with my life that is

Now, if I had just spent ages preparing a meal for someone and they said they didn't want it, I would be pissed off too.

11m - is it really that long? Wow!

WW that sounds so complex, my head would be spinning! The webs we weave eh.

My problem now is, I want to go and see a film with..lets call him..ummm...Pub Man (PM). Prob is, no spare time this week and DS with me all w/e. What to do?

I know babysitter is obvious solution and I have mates/neighbours who would probably do it but I feel a bit awkward asking, IYSWIM? Plus I'm usually knacked on a work night anyway.

oh - hello everyone - can I join you???

have seen this thread sooooooooo many times in active but never stuck my head round the door before