Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

morning all, sounds like everyone had busy weekends!

FS - yes, more info required!

Mily - whats the latest re GM man? Or are you still waiting to speak to prof first?

hello to everyone else!

quick question - do you think that a man sending 29 texts in an evening means he is interested? Or just bored and has nothing better to do?

Lol yes, I'd say interested

FS - sorry, x posts

great news re carrot, sounds like you had a good talk and you sound v happy . enjoy it!

and you think my texting man might be interested?!

morning!

sponge - yes i'd say he's interested

Sponge, he must be interested, but (sorry there is a but) if he wants you to get together it's about time he asked. IME if a guy wants to date you he won't be backwards in coming forwards. Hope he suggests something soon.

FS that sounds great, very pleased for you. Just enjoy it.

eve :( is it bad he hasn't made a move yet? I can see many reasons why he wouldnt Although I will admit when we were texting back and forth on Friday, I did wish at one point he would just get on with it and ask me out. Still, patience is a virtual & all that

He might just be nervous. I know I would be.

I am annoyed with myself now. This is the reason I failed my final biology module. I'm floating around not concentrating on anything . I have boxes to pack. I am a grown woman ffs.

evening to all

Ninah, you heard from Monty at all, is she ok?

So, have been up to my eyeballs in skips/freecycle/shed destruction and general decluttering (including selling a car!) for the past couple of days, hence silence

Saturday eve at the 80's night was fab - actually really liberating to dress up like that and not worry at all what i looked like (good job, I looked horrendous )

Have got a date with GMM this coming Saturday - out for dinner, which I am looking forward to

The thing with prof is odd as anything and I have given up. He never called back. I sent him an email Saturday, which he read but didn't respond to so that is that. I have his phone number so I guess I could ring him but that is kinda desperate, even for me (Sponge, I would've scared off WM way before now ). So have decided to ignore him and if he ever rings, well, we shall see. I under-estimated by a lot how nice GMM was on the basis of pics and emails, so I could easily have built Prof up on the same basis

And I know what you mean Flame about wandering around in a daze - I couldn't believe I meissed prof's call on Friday and practically cuddled my phone fo rhte rest of the day ffs

Anyway, am feeling very proud of all that has been achieved in the past couple of days, clearing the house of so much clutter has been cathartic. And I did myself proud negotiating the deal on the car so am chuffed

And I have a nice date to look forward to. And I might even get that snog

Flame, I know what you mean about the 1st '1st kiss' in x years - it really does feel momentous. I also keep wondering about holding hands - may sound odd but to me that is a very intimate thing

Anyway, time to get DD2 to bed

catch you all later

I sat holding his hand after the first kiss Sat there saying "I only signed up for a bit of a laugh, I didn't expect an actual thing to happen" which he seemed to find highly amusing :o

The prof is odd! Weird man.

I know what you mean about the decluttering. I am chucking loads as I pack to move and it feels great :o

Sponge-could u not give him a bit of a kick by telling him someone else has asked you out for a drink but your not sure u want to go and see what his response is? I kinda agree with eve (sorry) that if he really is interested he should be asking you out by now, but then again some men are really slow movers!

mily green man's your man
at least for now lol
and hate, wm is beginning to irritate me goodness knows how confused you must be
no not heard from monty I think she was going away, hope all's well
got dc back and it's lovely
but this is a bit
ex said dd had fallen in the river, I was oh haha, thinking he meant just a bit wet etc
turns out (from ds) she went right in water over the head and a passing stranger rescued her, while ex was unaware
doesn't bear thinking about does it. She's only 4. I think i'll sign her up for swimming lessons, ds had them at this age but it all got so busy I thought it could wait

oh, and for ds's birthday they went to a couple of pubs ...

ninah-glad dd is ok that must have been worrying to hear about! My 2 have both had swimming lessons since 4 and glad they can both swim now, but you must have been at ur ex!

yes, I took ds since he was 2 but he really went off it and the local sessions were such hell on stilts I never took dd
just shows you, these things happen and is a good reminder for me
no chance to be at ex as by the time the full story emerged he'd long gone
it could just as well have happened with me I suppose

Bloody hell ninah your poor dd - sounds scary. And at your xh not noticing.

FFS.

Feeling sooo stressed tonight. First day back at5 work tomorrow. On my 'normal' hours for the next two weeks and not looking forward to it..

Also DS had hideous screeching, hitting, kicking meltdown tantrum today.

Would it possible to go back on holiday for a couple of weeks, do you think?

Nothing on the man front either, except for CM who keeps messaging me. He just wants a shag and I truly can't be bothered.

I feel oild, decrepit and unlovely atm.

Waaah!

Hi everybody

Still catching up with old posts but on a quick read -
Flame - well done!

Sponge, I think he likes you .... but feel he may be stringing you along/enjoying the knowledge that you like him iykwim - I just feel if he wanted he'd ask you out or make it absolutely clear what his feelings were. However I very much hope that I"m completely wrong and that he really fancies you like mad and is just too worried by the thought of you rejecting him to make a move. Failing that, shall I go round and give him a kick up the jacksie?

Mummy - go for it - bird in hand worth any number out in the bush.

Ninah - definitely get swimming lessons for DD - and at their dad! My kids can swim pretty well but i still watch them like a hawk when they're in water.

Everyone else - hope you're all well.

I've had an interesting couple of weeks - had a cold and wet few days in northern France and when we got back my mum went in to hospital for a coronary bypass so just been a bit anxious and not in the mood for posting. However, all is okay and she's doing pretty well for someone who's had a quadruple bypass!

Dating-wise - usual bunch of fuglies and weirdoes - including a dom guy who seems to have convinced himself that I have sub tendencies - in your dreams sweetheart! Also just had a message on GSM from a bloke who in the days I knew him was the partner of an old friend ... think we are both overcome by embarrassment!

yeah suppose whats done is done isnt it, poor you tho finding out from ds!

thank goodness for the passing stranger, eh
he got right in, soaked apparently
hope ex bought him a beer ...
hi kdk good to see you, must have been v anxious time re your mum glad she's doing so well
janos you are neither old nor decrepid
quite the reverse
know what you mean about work though. Dd's first day at school, back at work and it all starts again ...
another couple of weeks would be amazing!

kdk-sorry to hear about your mum, glad she's ok now tho

janos-know what u mean about work, I had 2 weeks off and made the mistake on going back to work the day after getting back from spain!

Havent really said much about me, things still good with bf. Have the odd wobble now and then, only as he's been working away a bit and I get a bit huffy about not seeing him but all ok now we've spent some proper time together. We even had a conversation about living together this wkend have both said we've thought about it but it'll be a long time yet, he needs to get his divorce and house sorted first.

Oh kdk good to see you back - sorry to hear about your mum,but very glad to hear the outcome of the op was good.

You've had more joy dating wise than me too! Get in

ninah - my decrepit-ness feeling has been provoked by all 'that'. I can't help feeling that all the time I was with exbf he was sneering at my ageing body and wishing for something better.

Yes I realise that is stoopid really but my confidence has taken a BIG knock.

Anyway blah blah self indulgent waffle over.

Warm congratulations and good wishes btw to those who are loved up or just plain old out there and enjoying themselves anyhoo :)

And also to everyone else on the thread cos you're smashing and lovely.

hey, update update on the odd (yet v sexy looking ) Prof

So, I was showing my mum pics of GMM on GSM (she is a very cool granny as DD1 announced today) and I went to my inbox and there was a message from Prof! Also, somewhat distractingly I have to say, there was a message from a...........woman

so I didn't read either of them with DM looking over my shoulder (there are limits) but dashed off as soon as was polite to do so

Woman wants to make new friends but have to say not sure what she saw in my profile....

Meanwhile, Prof has said massive cold feet - horrible situation with XW and access to DCs and just feels too early to be back in the dating game. Which may or may not be true. If he carries on being on the site then I'll know it's a line. But I did say 'call me if you change your mind'

however, I now feel like I can concentrate on GMM and y'know he has sent me some lovely emails the last couple of days so I am cautiously optimistic

What's the etiquette folks about logging off GSM?

By the way, Ninah re DD and thank heavens for the lovely passing stranger

Sponge, call WM out, go on, it's time - ask him out yourself

hi all, Have just been catching up on everything here, seems a lot been happening.

ninah. really shocked about your ds, hope she is ok.

Have been down to arrange Aunts funeral so thats all sorted but now my mum has been taken ill, so spent yesterday in Dorset seeing her in hospital. Not good, she is really frail, cant eat and nobody seems to know what is wrong with her.

Had a date on sunday lunchtime with sailor, which went way further than it should of done . It was fun and I felt quite happy about it at the time, but am feeling slightly strange about it all now, on the one hand he is very sexy, incredibly fit and a whole lot of fun, but he is acting way too smooth for my comfort and I am left with the distinct feeling that he may be a bit of a player and I am his latest - and I suspect not the only - project. Its just a gut feeling, but its bothering me.

Have spoken to him since, he has been very nice about mum, but I am not sure I want to let things go on further as I suspect I will be in for a load of grief and it might be better to bail now. I suppose that is the problem with the internet in that you never really know who you are dating.

I also feel I should be spending my free weekends with Mum, who may not be around a whole lot longer, not dating some man off the internet, so I am probably going to pull my profiles and concentrate on my family for a bit. This weekend has been a bit of a wake up call for me.

Omg Ninah - how awful for your daughter and you. I would have to discuss something like this with my exh.

KDK - sorry to hear about your mum

MILU - Prof prob wouldn't have bothered to explain if he wasn't genuine - ime they just don't contact again if not.

Elasta and KDK family must always come first.

Ninah, I hope you had a massive go at Exh. Children this age need to be watched like hawks around water, glad she is OK.

Sponge, I do get the impression he is stringing you along. I hope not, is he still working for you? See how it goes once he is finished.

Betty, sounds promising and going in the right direction. No need to rush into anything.

FS and Mummy you both seem to have struck lucky with your dates. That never happens to me so [jealous].

I've got a first meeting with someone tomorrow after work, so long as I don't bottle it. Also interest from someone very local, and will meet him too if he suggests it. Janos it's the guy I know stuff about!

elasta - glad you had a nice time with sailor on Sunday, however I say we have instincts for a reason and if he makes you feel uncomfortable then just leave it. As you say, you don;t need the hassle right now.

I don't blame you for a second, if pulling your profile feels like the right thing to do then do it and spend the time with your mum. I know I would feel like you in the same circs.