Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

sob. Carrot cancelled. Says he had his heart broken before joining and he's not over her and doesn't want to mess me about. I can understand that. Says he wants to call when he is sorted but that i can tell him to sod off. Told him i completely understand and Yup to calling.

deflated and realised how much i like him!

Haven't had chance to catch up but could do with a bit of advice about POF. Had a message a couple of years ago on Speed date from someone who my Dsis knew. He had only just separated from her friend, I don't know the friend. I told him that I knew of him and that was the end of it. He has surfaced again on POF, they are well and truly over now but I know stuff about him, just the sort of moany stuff that people say when they are splitting. Should I reply or forget it?

Hi all

Am just back from a couple of weeks in IOW with the Dcs.

It was lovely but not exactly relaxing iyswim

Flame - on carrot...Is there anyone else in the pipeline??

Really need to get my head around internet dating but not quite sure I am ready for that yet

I do however have my eye on a friend of a friend who I see in local pub (when I can get out ) He is seriously lush and we have had quite a few snogs and the day before I went away he came back to mine (just for a glass of wine you understand!!)

But it is always left very low key ie "hope to see you soon" etc

Dunno whats happening really but its nice to have a bit of male eye candy to be interested in iyswim

H is coming over from Ireland next weekend to see DCs so will have the whole weekend free!!

I'd say it depends what you know eve. Have you got any reason to think he is dodgy?

Hmm, nothing really bad just the usual stuff that most people go through, arguing about money, internet sites etc. Perhaps I know more than I should and should send him a message back to say something subtle again!

God I'm fickle. Last night I thought I would probably try again with DH if he offered, and today I'm all teary about a bloke I've met once .

Right now if they were to both ring, I'd choose carrot.

Not really interested in anyone else tbh. I had that other guy interested in me, but now I have seen how well I can click with someone, I'm not content to settle for "he seems ok"

I am slightly freaked out that he has somehow been reading my thoughts (or posts think that is just my natural paranoia kicking in) as he sounds so much in my position . Meh, we discussed googling people the first night, and I am of the opinion that if people feel the need to google me and find out what I say, it is nothing I wouldn't say in person if asked directly, and if what they read puts them, off, then they clearly aren't right for me.

AE - if you fancy him, you may as well give it a go :)

Hmmm...

I would say eve if you know anything that makes you feel even the teensiest bit uncomfortable about him then just leave well alone.

OTOH if you like him then message back and see where it goes from there?

Hi. Man i am tired. Was kept awake half the night with dora being sick. Not sure why but she is fine now. Managed to haul myself out to get school shoes for ds2 and some bits to eat tho. Just me and the younger 3 here. Dd1 is staying with a friend and dp is not here. Cant wait for bed tbh

I've been in bed since early evening too. Overdid the shop till you drop yesterday. Didn't get home until after 10 and set off at 7.45am!

Janos I did message him back not realising who he was but am deciding whether to send a further message.

Got 2 dates fixed up. One with the guy from away, meeting up for a coffee in a couple of weeks and similar after work next week with someone from POF, bit meh about them both. Wondering why I agree to any of it as I hate internet dating!

I decided to reply and mention it, just said a friend of a friend type of thing so see if he wants to stop contact, no problem if he does. I have had men contact me on dating site who have actually known me before .

eve contacting him is OK, you can make your own decisions then, it isn't as if you are someone who is susceptible for bullshit
one more dc free day
This probably sounds really wrong but i could be child free sooo easily

susceptible to, even
sorry about carrot fs, sounds like you need a break from all of them to get your head together tbh, at least to recover properly from ex

Ninah, lol, we all think like that but then imagine if it was really the case you would fight tooth and nail to get them back and miss them terribly.

Need to check up on this thread but FS sorry about 'Carrot' too but from what you have said you might need to free up some headspace re the ex.

have not missed them all that eve, I know it's awful and would not dare post on a thread where no one 'knew' me
i guess it's just the thought of getting back into routine after the hols

I used to like getting back into a routine after the hols, still do. Look forward to having my weekday off and being able to tidy the house, eat, do, watch what I want and more importantly have total control over the laptop. Guess you have got used to all this, you will soon get used to having them around again, picking stuff up constantly etc.

You're right ..
is also the thought of going back to work, I like the actual job but v bossy and irritating colleague has been made senior to me (she is poorly educated and loves telling me what to do in an ostentatiously patronising manner) and we have a new overall manager too
will really miss the personal autonomy
ah well. only a couple of months til half term
Did you hear back from the blokey with form, eve?

So, headspace would be sensible.

But he text last night saying he was over dramatic and missed me :o (DH didn't miss me when he moved out!!! ).

He's coming over tonight (after kids are in bed) to help paint . Meh. We're gonna have an honest chat I think and work out where our heads are. For last night's conversation I think we're both of the opinion that we may not be entirely ready, but life is too short.

FS, I hope you have a nice evening but be cautious, he shouldn't be messing you around so early on.

I think we're probably in the same mental place, but he is more honest . I will be careful though, can't be doing with heartbreak for no reason

Hey everyone :)

eve - did you hear back from him after that?

Flamesparrow - I would also be cautious and don't push yourself into anything you don't really want, iyswim?

ninah - feel your pain. I am back to work on Tuesday. I don't wanna!!!

Flame - enjoy tonight A chat sounds good.

Another one here not looking forward to normal routine starting again

Spent most of the day labelling DS's new clothes for school for tomorrow....

Am desperately counting down till the weekend when I am child free for 2 and a half days!!

But also not looking forward to weekend as H over and I have to ask him (yet again) why he won't sign divorce papers

:o

FS more info please.

Monday is usually my day off but got to go to my second job in a bit.

Waved DD off into 6th form today, in her new togs, no more uniform!!!

Janos, POF guy replied then I told him how close the connection was but it's unread. Not bothered either way tbh. He's just so handy, lol.

Flame - more info needed

I may be a bit smitten :o

He came round armed with a dvd (original plan was to help me paint, but we couldn't be arsed). Had "talk", and yes, both agreed that it may not be ideal timing, but it just feels right so we're going with it.

Finally got kisses at the end of the night. First "first kiss" in a decade. I feel 16. Probably a good thing that it was the end of the night . He's taking me out for dinner at the weekend.

Its made me realise that my marriage hasn't been right for a bloody long time. I laughed all night. I feel cared about. Yes, I love DH. I probably always will - he is the father of my children. We had been "together" for so long, but not a couple for a very long time. I'd forgotten what it feels like.

Obv I have no idea how long this will last, but it has opened my eyes and I refuse to settle for less now.

I signed up for a laugh and to get out a bit. Spoke to a couple of blokes, and appear to have ended up with a fully fledged boyfriend . He says he has removed himself from POF :)