Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

ach why has my last post disappeared?!!!

Well done Mummy!! Really pleased your date went well.

Have another date with sailor on Sunday - he is coming over for lunch - has been texting me this morning trying to cheer me up with funny stories

found it - i was looking in wrong place

elasta - am so sorry about your aunt

scl - sounds like a good idea to phoen paed in advance, i'm sorry i can't offer any constructive advice ((((()))))
pmsl at houseboy sorry perhaps i shouldn't.

lou - bugger the banks, they're quick enough to take money off customers but strangely slow in paying out.

mily - i read the word pics worngly thanks to having just read the post from scl about housboy's syndrome hahahaha
ahem. date. yay that he wants to meet again

yep, not sure i will have time today to sort it out either

have sent ds1 off to secondary school for the first time today, taken dora to the vet for her 3 monthly puppy check, gone and done a food shop, come back and had some lunch, and now i have to take eddie and boris to the vet for their jabs (got boris here til tomorrow), before collecting ds1 from his first day, then sort all the kids out for dinner before getting beautified ready to take dp out for dinner tonight

oh and i have washing up and about 4 tons of laundry to put away

oh and exh has not been in touch since he was drunk at a&e

he didnt reply about seeing the kids and he hasnt called or messaged ds1 about his first day at secondary school

cockbag

i did wonder if he may well have drunk himself to death but i am not making the effort to find out this time

You should be so lucky lou!

:( for your DS that he hasn't even called to find out how his first day at school went. XP for all his faults is at least good at that stuff.

I have lots of laundry to put away but am being lazy and not doing it. I figure, it will still be there in a hour or two...

my exh has been stung by a wasp and was feeling unwell last night.

When I asked him if he would be seeing the dcs next sat (11th) he said no I won't be - this weekend he and dp going on a corporate jolly and next weekend she has arranged a birthday surprise for him (his bday tomorrow)

I said is she not aware that you should see dcs every other weekend?

He offered next fri eve but ds1 said what's the point of going down there just to sleep when I could be in my own comfortable bed!!

lou, feel knackered just reading what you have on your plate atm

elasta, yay re sailor

Janos, am with you on the laundry.....ironing on the agenda this eve

scl, words fail me..........

it will be very interesting when I (finally) sit down with XH in a fortnight to go through the terms of our divorce to see where he places the DDs' needs in the priority list. He is very self-centred and I think it will be all about poor old him out there in the big bad world having to make his way and what he needs from me to do so.....

the fact that he is a fit, healthy, intelligent (if not emotionally), well-educated grown man who should be more than capaple of supporting himself and his obligations to his children.........seems to have passed him by

I have emailed prof saying - went out with nice man last night who wants to meet up again, so please let me know if you actually are going to ring me and/or we meet up cos I don't want to be anything but straight.

GMM is really sweet and I need to get prof out of my head if I am going to keep seeing GMM, iyswim. Or meet Prof and find out if there is anything there, in which case let GMM down lightly and early on before anything too heavy

i am looking forward to going out for dinner tonight, if i can stay awake that is

i have spent the grand total of almost £100 at the vet today with dora eddie and boris all needing jabs or worming (said i would get boris done for dp as he is always working and his exw is seemingly incapable of doing it , or indeed paying towards it)

boris ended up costing me over 50 quid alone!

so i have taken all 3 to the vet, done a small food shop until i can get to it tomorrow properly, fed the remaining kids who are not back to school yet,and dropped ds, now i only have to get ds, tidy up put laundry away and get in the mood for dinner

dd1 washed up, which might not be such a good thing as i usually end up having to do it again

Cost of vets is not surprising to me lou - I had to take my crazy cat to the vets in July for what turned out to be cystitis. Total cost £200 or near enough!

Thankfully I have pet insurance so got most of it back but still....

It's a lovely day up here and I'm being thoroughly lazy. DS has just popped over to a friends to play for 1/2 hr - Fridays are 1/2 days up here in Scotland. Just for children at school though, not anyone else!

Keep getting the glad eye from guest @ next door neighbour who I think is there doing some kind of building work with his Dad. Appears to be late teens early 20s (male). At one point I would have flirted back now I just can't be arsed.

Oh where are you planning to go for dinner lou? Could you manage a catch up nap?

MILY - I am being VERY lazy!

i doubt i can get a nap in tbh, it is almost 5 now and i still have to sort dinner for the kids

we were going to a place v close to me, but after the cost of the vets today he has told me to cancel that and we will go somewhere a couple of miles away which is cheaper

the vet stuff was all the kind of thing the insurance wont cover sadly, general worming and vaccination stuff

lou - agree with mily, I don't know how you maange all the stuff you have to do, and with useless Exh as well! Hope your DS1 enjoyed first day at secondary tho :) and yes if you can squeeze in a 10 min power nap before dinner go for it (although I am crap at power napping, i would be asleep all night!)

mily - sounds as though date with GMM went really well (see, it ias hard to tell what people are like from just a photo!), and think your msg to prof is good - should clear things up one way or the other, and you'll know how keen or not he is. good for you enjoying date though! most of mine were a bit of a disappointment

janos - re neighbours' guest. could you not be tempted to even a little flirting? :)

have been texting WM today, which has kept me entertained, plus guy at work (who I had a v brief thing with last year - in essence we had a big snog following office party last summer, and he told me he really liked me but had been single for years and was scared of getting involved. to which I was a bit and that was that!) has been emailing me all afternoon, which is nice, but odd as I havent heard much from him for ages. Although we did have a meeting together this week and he was quite smily and friendly so that might explain it....

hope everyone has a great weekend, will catch up next week (or even over the weekend if I ever get round to sorting out a new laptop!)

sorry lou, x post...and I cant type manage! would DD1 to make dinner for the others, or is that a silly question?

Glad you're still getting your night out lou. After everything that's gone on over the last couple of weeks you deserve a treat.

hatesponge - I just can't be bothered at the moment, truly! Still smarting a bit from revelations of last week really.

sorry about your aunt elasta
Good news about Green Man mily and a thumbs up for the way you are sorting matters with prof
on this thread's form GM has my vote for mily
although I am intrigued by scl's priapic houseboy

I agree, you deserve a night out.

:( SCL

I've crumbled. Moving in a fortnight and packing up stuff. It is the proper dividing up that we haven't bothered to do until now. Sat sobbing over Terry Pratchett books. God I miss the Boy I met and fell in love with. I hate seeing him start to emerge again now he has left me :( Did I do that to him? Did I kill the old him?

I had been getting so excited about date tomorrow, and had it in my head that even if DH were to turn round and want to try again (what with ?OW being relocated/murdered/abducted by aliens etc), I wouldn't know what I would say. Now I am angry with myself as I know I would say yes.

I click so well with Carrot. I hate to think of him as "the rebound guy". Can the rebound guy ever turn into just "the guy"?. Am I messing him about. I feel like I could really fall for him. At the same time I feel "woah, you've had one date". He was muttering about NYE though the other day, so he is clearly planning us out too .

Overthinking as always. I am behind on my ADs which doesn't help.

Thanks I have had a frank chat with him this afternoon outlining my thoughts! He will see them in three weeks and then is possibly overseas for ds1s birthday for ds 1.

Also asked him why he feels the need to come to paed dietician given he doesn't see them much.

Turns out he is worried that ds2 will be picked on when he goes to secondayr school in two years time because he is a bit overweight and also has a hesitation in his speech. I don't think this is a particular problem and in two years anything could happen eg ds2 could shoot up in height (he is tall) and his speech tends to vary from fluent to bad hesitation.

Flame sounds promising to me - one day at a time esp with all you've got going on

hey

I swear I am beginning to wonder if I am in a parallel universe where the laws of physics will not allow prof and I to ever do more than email

He rang

I missed his call

he emailed to say he had rung and that he would try again in 5 mins.....4 hrs ago!!

I rang him and left a vm

and my house is a tip again after XH day with dds

GAH!

on the plus side, am going to a friend's 40th tomorrow, 80s fancy dress.....pics of my girls trying on the possible clothes (leant by nanny, not long out of uni therefore well-endowed with fancy dress outfits.....do I feel old or what?!) on my mn profile

ooh 80's thats my era that is

we went for a meal , not out long but had a lovely peaceful time together, and now have full bellies

plus we came back to NO DRAMAS!!

except a few hundred yards from home we nearly had heart failure as we saw a springer spaniel on the road on its own, and we thought it was dora, but it turned out to belong to someone walking their dogs , and it had got a bit ahead of itself

phew

oops i meant to say that your girls are v sweet and look great in their get up

Mummy they are very cute - sounds a lovely party. I like social events that we can all attend (me and dcs)

Interestingly the topic of conversation at my girls night in tonight was how we would all like to escape the UK because we don't feel it holds much promise for us and dcs (this was a mixture of married and single parents)

This topic has never come up before (over a period of 4-5 years)

Anyway for the purpose of research I have relogged into POF and Smooch and knocked five years off my age to see if it makes any difference (sneaky emoticon)

Ps anyone on POF could look up priapic he is called Bootmaker (evil grin)

haha scl, poor lad

i would love to emigrate

unfortunately nowhere would have us, aside form me having no coveted skills, ds2 is called " a burden on the state" for most countries so that would be another knock back, unless we were filthy rich of course then it wouldnt matter