Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

Morning all, have decided the following is true:

a watched mn thread never develops
and a watched dating inbox never fills up

this is based on the empirical data of the last 24 hrs when I offline both and here we are with lots of lovely news on this thread and I have 5 emails from nice looking/sounding men in my GSM inbox

so

lets see

GD, Elasta, sounds like you had a fab time. Elasta I am impressed you restrained yourself to a snog phew, were you hot and bothered for some time after?

Lou, DP sounds the business, how's puppy doing?

Supercherry, I have found Singlewithkids disappointing, there are loads of blokes on there with no kids themselves which I find a bit strange tbh. But Guardian soulmates has been better - a slow burn which is now coming to a simmer. Haven't ventured on anywhere else tbh, more of a time issue than anything else

I had such a lovely weekend by the way. Dropped DD2 at a friend's on Sat a.m. and went grown up shopping with DD1 - new jeans which make her look ridiculously tall and grown up
Yesterday we all mucked in with the housework in the morning, rewarding ourselves with a picnic at the park and icecreams at the new icecream parlour. All rounded off with blackberrying in the bridleways near the house with lovely neighbours

and now I am going to go and look properly at my GSM inbox and work out what I am going to say

hello all...lots of dating going on, am most of you all but also v v that everyone is having such a great time!

not much to report here, DS2 is coming home from hols with the Ex today tho so thats something we are v much looking forward to. DS1 has missed him much more than he expected, tho I expect they will be fighting again by tomorrow morning :)

thank you for all the (unwarranted) compliments, feel quite . I struggle with my confidence because although deep down I think actually I'm not that bad, men rarely seem to think so. It's quite rare for men I like to find me attractive, and I was 34 before a man (other than my dad) ever paid me a compliment in relation to my looks. Hence my general angst over wedding man, who is proper fairytale handsome prince material :)

on which subject, he phoned me on friday for no reason (well no reason he couldnt have text me for) but even though I spend hours analysing his every action, I still don't know, and as he's still got stuff to do at my house I don't want to ask just yet. well in truth I dont want to ask at all.

However as a close friend's best mate died at a shockingly young age on saturday, maybe I should be thinking life is too short to waste time wondering what if.....

OK sponge, it might just be time for you to grit your teeth and go for it

Before I met sailor the first time I had said to him on the phone that IMO life was far too short not to meet people you liked the sound of - He said to me that he couldnt belive we had met after just a couple of e mails and one phone converstion he was really amazed at my bravery compared to other women he had dated

Hey sponge, know what you mean re looks. My xh actually used to compliment me but as he has hooked up with someone blonder, younger and with bigger boobs than me.....

I don't know wedding man's background but being bothered to phone in the age of texting is what I would call a good buying sign (sorry, sales background coming out there!) And you should take it on face value or you will go potty

Here endeth the lesson

Ooh, ooh and talking of potty, dd2 had no accidents yesterday which is a first, and she was dry last night which I wasn't expecting at all, so that is another reason I feel ridiculously chipper

Ohh texting as a buying sign!!! Have some very interesting messages in my inbox. They make me feel quite hot and bothered

Sorry I realised you meant telephone calls

by the sound of it those texts are a buying sign too elasta iyswim

elasta I'm with you re meeting on-line people early on. I think otherwise you get to a situation where you're too familiar over the phone/email and yet dont actually know if you would fancy each other face to face, which to me is odd. much better to have a couple of chats, then if you think he's halfway normal, meet and see if the all important spark is there (which in your case it clearly is!)

lol at the good buying sign :) he phones quite a lot actually, for someone i don't know that well that is. was talking to our mutual friend over the weekend who was singing his praises and telling me how good wedding man is with children

Def a spark there sponge - prob his I wont see him for 2 weeks now as I have the kids over BH weekend. He will have to watch out when I do se him though

is he wedding man because you met him at a wedding?

I think if he likes chatting on the phone, that is great - text is a mixed blessing and so open to misinterpretation

Yes but texting is a great flirting tool!! Probably its no1 use IMO

mily - yes I met him at a mutual friend's wedding. I had already given him some advice (via the friend) about some legal stuff, but not met him. since then have given him further advice, but it's also ended up that he is doing some work on my house (as arranged by mutual friend)...

elasta - am sure texting is a good flirting tool. however i am entirely incapable of flirting so is wasted on me!

v true elasta

I was prob thinking of other situations tbh, like 'helpful' messages from my XH where he is avoiding having to speak to me and explain his decisions. Or a previous nanny of mine who used to text me at the last minute (like 5 mins before she was due at my house) to say she couldn't make it to work

but you are so right about flirty texts, they are great

have got 2 GSM possibles for maybe meeting up - 1 local to me and 1 in Surrey but who works in London.....fingers crossed we get somewhere as I would really like to actually meet f2f

and it has stopped raining an the sun has come out so y'konw, maybe that's a sign (I am utterly unsupersticious (sp??) normally but I am being ridiculously so atm)

argh

just checked my online banking and saw quite a large transaction I couldn't account for, didn't recognise the reference. Called the bank, lovely lady on the phone checking it out for me, then I suddenly remembered it was GSM subs
now why that was embarassing I am not exactly sure, but it definitely was

Ooh i am in surrey

Its funny how people feel about internet dating - sailor says he nver mentions it too anyone as he is slightly embarassed about it as are some of my friends.

Have long since ceased to be embarassed at being on dating websites. I now regale the team at work with all sorts of stories - they are all married and find it wildly amusing. If nothing else at least I keep them entertained

wedding man lives in surrey - well surrey/london borders....

I was never 100% into the whole internet dating thing - largely i did it to prove a point that I wouldnt meet anyone suitable, but also because I wasn't inundated with offers sitting at home every night - I did find it a bit embarrassing tbh, and so only my really close friends knew about it (and no-one at work)

I don't find it at all embarassing. I'm stuck in, with my children in bed, 6 nights a week which doesn't leave me much time for meeting new people.

It's just a modern way of meeting people I reckon.

Nowt to be embarassed about.

Now here's hoping that my GSM inbox starts simmering to use mummyilubyou's analogy.

cherry, I think you are right, I was actually surprised by how instantly embarassed I felt earlier on, for no good reason really

my work and local mates, esp the women, will be agog for all the details/gossip as and when I share

the sitting in at home every night is exactly the thing, and where I live is nappy valley so the only single men are 18 or 80

I think its an age thing - I'm 46 and most people of my age find internet dating wierd whereas the younger guys see it as just something single people do.

Have just had one of my male collegues on a teleconference and the moment it finished he said - 'well now thats over, lets do the important stuff - tell me about your date!!' He is my unofficial male dating coach who gives me the blokes perspective on dating. Very helpful when it comes to navigating the minefield of male behaviour

That is true Elastamum- I'm 29 and I think most of my single friends are on dating websites. Before I joined one I used to love hearing my single friend's stories- riveting!

My mum, when she got divorced 20 years ago, would never have dreamed of internet dating. She thinks I'm a bit mad.

I'm on Parents Already and while I haven't seen many people that I'm attracted to, it feels friendly so far. It's very cheap too. I have only registered on GSM-it's a bit pricey for me.

hi all, I'm back, shattered
lot happening on here! hi superc, simpson, green - I think we talked on another thread? anyway you off to good start on this one! - electra great news about a date and mily, all happening
brief message of encouragement to those in the 'rather have a cup of tea' camp with me eve kdk
I met someone lovely while we were away
don't think he's into me and in any case I let myself down by getting stuck in the ankle deep mud and laughing like a drunken banshee - but I thought I'd never feel attracted to anyone ever again, so it was a nice surprise
he was a lovely person as well did I mention
it rained seriously all the darn time
heard mixture of music, v social, met nice single mum on campsite too
monty wassup?
waves to everyone else

hey ninah, good to hear you back on the thread and that your man-antenna haven't completely switched off - bet he thought you looked cute stuck in the mud giggling

remind me where you went, was it a festival?

it def wasn't a cute look mily
yes it was the Green Man festival

Ah Flaming Lips played ... gutted!