West London chat - christmas & beyond

[tillyfernackerpants]

Hi all, can't believe I have to start the new thread

Slng, lol @ ds2!

Sfx, sparkle sounds nice!

I'm having to bribe ds1 to leave the house atm, that can't be right surely

He had his nativity yesterday, all lines remembered though there was a bit of yawning during it

LOL at being paid for having opinions. I'd be a rich person if this were so. Oh, does the quality of the opinions matter? Keep wanting to type onions instead of opinions. Frozen fingers from walking home ...

I've never had a facial all my life... Had plenty of wine, though ...

Hello!

Can i gatecrash?

Am a Teddington mum to DD, workaholic husband (who has just called to tell me he's going to hand in his notice and i'd better come up with a plan by the time he comes home and still attempting to adapt to life as a SAHM without the reliance of cake and wine.

Have been lurking for a while but started to feel like a stalker so thought best to say hello..

Hello PMP - Also in Teddington and have a workaholic for a husband! Not sure I could face life as SAHM without cake and wine How old is your DD? I have two boys 4 & 1

Sfx - glad you're feeling more upbeat. thought I was going to have to buy you an Edward doll to cheer you up

Copper- LOL, only had 2 facials in my life, both were so relaxing I almost fell asleep

Tesco's just been, so can now watch a bit of Wossy on iplayer

Hello pastmyprime! I have two boys, 6 and nearly 4. North of the river though and not anywhere near Teddington ...

vbus - an Edward doll And what's Wossy?

We've only had one or two don't-want-to-go-to-school moans. Mostly DS1 quite likes going to school.

Taking a break from Lolita (the pervy narrator was getting a bit tedious) and reading stories by Susanna Clarke and enjoying them immensely. Has anyone else read her Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell? Best magic book ever.

hi PMP am in Kew dd is 5 in June

Copper last weeks facial was very nice and I find it hard to relax when people are doing things to me and I am lying down and sort of blindfolded

vbus I can fake sadness a bit longer apparently the real bloke was in M&S buying boxer shorts not the same I grant you

asked the teacher how dd was today, she thought she had been out of sorts today, very subdued
we talked and had chocolate seems better just hope tomorrow morning is not as stressful

and she finally talked to the boy from nursery, now in her class who she kept ignoring since September they giggled and chased each other, sample convo

-boy calls her name
-dd laughs and says you are always calling me

• boy I know we can run around

hello all

copper I read exactly half of that book,right up to when I went into labour, afterwards I just was too scared it would fall and hit the baby have hardback edition
really liked what I saw dh also enjoyed it

anyway how to destabilise a parent in the morning - ask if they give permission for their child to be observed in class by speech and language person
I know it is a typical reaction but I think the problem lies with the school

Sfx -
That is good that Dd now likes the boy, his persistent charm must've paid off

Copper - I was referring to Jonathon Ross! I don't always watch it but I did want to see a particular guest, quite amusing

Right better get on our dancing shoes and head off to dance class soon

Good morning!

sfx - at courting procedure among youngsters. Don't change much I suppose! I read A suitable boy through labour for DS2. Pretty big book too. I really like the Jonathan Strange book. What's so destablising about observation in class?

vbus - dancing?? Wossy is the invention of the devil. I hear he is leaving.

pastmyprime - past my prime too live in kew single parent with 4 year old DS. Don't drink so excluded from most MN meet-ups...

Who was that person sitting next to me in Pizza Express a couple of weeks ago then, if Kew is excluded from MN meetups?

no idea

though occasionally I am allowed to come to prevent too many drunken incidents.

Hi PMP, I'm in Brentford with 2 ds's 4 & 1

sfx, how are you feeling today?

We're full of cold in our house. Ds1 couldn't get to sleep last night because ds2 was v restless, so we put him in our bed & he only went and had an accident. I wouldn't mind but it was on my side of the bed!!

Ds2 came and posted that before I'd finished

Sfx, also meant to ask if dd is any better? I wonder if she's ready for the half term. Also, her and her friend's convo sounds lot like ds1's conversations with friends!

Have bought some fresh sardines but now can't find a simple recipe to cook. Had the idea of grilling them and putting them on toast, with a tomato-based sauce. Does that sound ok?

tilly - too late now, I suppose, but I had some fresh sardines the other day, just plainly grilled, eaten with rice. Was yummy. In fact left them under the too-hot grill for a bit too long, which made them nicer - I tend to be a bit wimpy about "caramelising" things ...

Just been on the phone with friend. Like talking to the f**king Daily Mail. Must get caller-id.

Copper, not too late, am doing them for tea tonight. Yours sound yummy but think I will need a sauce to disguise them otherwise ds1 will not eat them!

tilly all fine thanks had Pilates this morning and a spot of browsing, birthday vouchers to spend but think will head to Kingston for that one
hope the colds improve down your end
as for sardines best grilled and I love a good escabeche yum

copper they think dd might have a problem for lack of interaction with peers
this child has been speaking in full sentences since before she was 2, has quite a wide vocabulary, granted she has little experience with other children prefers adults and does not initiate much interaction with peers in class

but then again outside class she looks liberated and interacts just fine, I don't fully trust SALT practitioners it can be quite patchy, seems early to be labelling

and btw Kew goes to meet ups so that she can make sure Sushi and I get home safely

too true sfx

why if school think minisfx has socialising issues that it is within remit of SALT? Why would that be (even if you did agree with them)?

kew one of the causes for lack of social interaction is speech delays, I think we agree that is not the case

she just talked to me when I dropped dd off, bearing in mind I have been in the class room my feeling is dd feels a bit lost and stays on the sides, she seems a bit intimidated when there is 'misbehaving' in the class room, I could see her flinch when the teacher was quite quite strictly firm with a boy telling him one more and he would be in the warnings book, a couple of minutes later she asked dd a question and dd answered very very softly

when you say "we agree" do you mean the school agree? If so why nother with a SALT. If they don;t agree then I'm surprised they haven't spotted that her language skills are fine. Perhpas its just a standard procedure?

LOL at the idea of minisfx suffering from speech delay. Some people have been in class rooms too long to remember that it must be quite intimidating. (Perhaps we were lucky to get a newly qualified teacher for DS1 in reception.)

sfx- Do you think there is a problem? DS1 was very quiet for a long time. He claimed that he only wanted to observe for a while before he did anything. I advised him that if you wait too long some people might get impatient and not want to befriend you any more, but it's up to him to decide when he wanted to be "proactive". Also told him that if you didn't want to talk you should still be polite and smile and give a little wave. That's his strategy these days. He still watches and smiles but not join in when I'm there in the playground ("because I don't want to") but he has his little group of friends and seems happy. Will ask teacher next parent's evening.

I was very worried and also voiced the concern when visiting schools, that everyone would be expected to be vociferous and "outgoing" and "speak out" etc etc. They all said "Oh we don't have students like that". Know what I mean about f**king institutions?

(Sorry still in bad mood.)

Just in case anyone is interested - we are planning to go to Shambala festival for August bank holiday

kew that festival looks good am looking for a replacement for Latitude this year much to dd's dismay

and when I say 'we agree' I meant people who know her,the teacher started the conversation with 'do you know when we were talking about her listening yesterday?' we had no such conversation
then I asked what her concern was and she said that dd does not mix much

personally I have no great concerns

I did mention to the TA that dd was quiet and stayed around the edge when in a classroom situation and asked what they were doing to help her, the TA was quite positive about this
her nursery teacher as well felt it was more to do with her personality and that otherwise dd was happy and learning

am not signing any papers

sfx - sometimes TAs can be more helpful. DS1's reception teacher did observe that DS1 was very quiet but also observed that it did not hinder him learning and socialising when he wanted to. Friend's DS in the same class was much more attached to TA and the TA did help him more probably because she did dinner duties and such like and had more contact.

Can't they give her some time and space FFS. Don't sign anything!

Must go and check upstairs - playing pirates can't be so quiet.