August Chat

[mellow2]

New thread for August.

that is sweet

what is this talk of you ;lot all going to Latitude

oh silly what a lovely lovely thing for ds2 to do. Makes me realise how much I'm missing my 3. Week 2 of them being away and its a struggle - not that they miss me, they've been to Camber today. Talking of which, slng texted me and is having lots of fun.

pc - sorry to hear about the viewing, how annoying for you but at least you didn't hang around for them. As Asbo-boy has to work, does this mean some early nights for him?

Was talking to dh about camping yesterday and he said he'd had enough of it when he was in the army for 6 years but he might be tempted as the new tents look a lot more modern then his ever did.

Steppie - don't worry about the builder, he's my bro's mate so I don't see him that much (unfortunately )..Do you still need boxes? I could look in the garage for you.

Hi all, just popping in quickly, must get some studying done!

Paddle, sorry you're not feeling great, hope you feel better soon

Sfx, did you go swimming in the end? Ds is also a fan of 'washing up'!

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I need a builder !!!!

SFX - you and SJ made Latitude sound so good and that linkmade it look amazing, plus all this talk of it being so child frindly and fairy lights etc

So anyway, where doe one apply ones lip gloss at Latitude?

what kind of builder are you after? and why do you make it sound dirty?

MrsR sisters there too and hoping for good weather

Latitude is in fact lovely

Ros I did not but will tomorrow Mondays after a grumpy weekend are always bad

paddle how are thing today are ASBO family behaving? my locals have been extremely noisy for the last hour while I tried to settle dd

she told me she was procrastinating sleep
I can't really tell this to people who don't know her because I would not be believed

dh spent the weekend saying he was procrastinating writing his essay so she put the new word to good, if irritating, use

lol @ procrastinating sleep

LOL at "procrastinating" - I didn't learn that word until I was 35!!!

Dirty - moi?????

Must be in yer mind Missus

Eveining all. Chdren drove me crazy today, I guess they were bored at it just being back to normal (no staying at other people's houses and no house guests). When dh arrived home I was standing at the door, cycle helmet and water bottle in hand, told him children were ready for bed, supper cooing, he was to tae over from here and I would be bac in 3/4 of an hour!

COV I sincerely felt like doing the same today, hope it had the required therapeutic effect.

must run tomorrow morning

Indeed it did sfx. I felt the tension ease from my shoulders within minutes of escaping.

Evening all. Put me down for a dishy builder aswell please, might aswell give something real for the out laws to rant about!

God my head hurts. Saw an expert in dealing with child contact cases and basically I'm in for a very very tough, expensive (+£10,000) emotional rollercoaster. He gave me a "slight taste" of cross examination and I couldn't even speak I got so stressed. To top it all off, despite making every effort not to let DS find out what's happening, he knows something's going on and has gone back to being too scared to be home saying "I know that bad people are coming back mummy". We're at my parents now. I am so angry and upset that he is having to go through this yet again. FFS isn't he going through enough already?! Anyways, I told the solicitor that I am prepared to go as far as take the fine/imprisonment for contempt IF the court awards access rights because I would rather suffer that than force DS to face the heartache of having to see them again.

Kew - Any recommendations on welfare/social services? I was thinking if its worth seeing if they can help protect me and DS.

I should write a soap opera when all this is done!

oh no 2cute sorry to hear, did you say cafcass would be visiting? did I get it wrong is it not just an assessment type visit? for recommendation purposes?

I hope they are just bluffing poor ds really beyond not fair

2cute,
Sorry that you have more sh*t to deal with. Did your solicitor advise any counter measures?

I seem to know a few dishy builders (must attract them!), [goes off to check the orderly queue outside MrsR's door]

Oh 2Cute how awful for you and poor poor ds. Unfortunately, I can only offer support - if you need character references, all of us would gladly speak up for you. Why don't you start a thread, you will get lots of advice from others who have been through it? Is there any chance you could take ds for a initial phsycological assessment - my dsis knows of one I can get the number for you? Obviously ILs will ask for their own but at least you'll have a record of his distress before proceedings have even started (and before they can start saying that you have brainwashed him).

Good advice from MrsR - get DS in to see a child psychoilogist and its good that you have an expert on your case. You froze under cross examination becasue it was the first time - practice repeatedly in your head - get someone to practice with you then keep doing it. SS are diffcult to get involved on your behalf in my experience. They will only get involved if they think a child is at risk which at the moment he isn't. You are doing exactly the right thing, just try to keep it going. Good to be back at your parents.

I would imagine that the even if they get contact arrangements that you can insist that it is supervised by your parents and no more than once a month. My guess is that they would lose interest pretty quickly. What does your lawyer say about the likelihood they will succeed?

Dishy builders? Forget dear bro - line me up for a dishy builder please.

Morning all. 2cute I am lost for words at ILs. I don't now the whole history behind all of this and I'm sure they are suffering at the los of their son, but there is no excuse whatsoever for what they are putting ds and you through, especially when you are trying to get on with your lives. No pratical help from this end either but loads of love and support, we are all here to help in any way we can.

Well another rainy day here. Have decided to brave Kingston with the children today as we need some bits and pieces for our holiday and may as well do it when it is bad weather. - in order to (hopefully) mae it as painfree as possible I am bribing them with that rare "treat" (COV whispers and shudders) McDonalds . (thyy were dancing around and shouting like christmas had ome early.

They're all married KC .

2Cute - I personally think that they are doing this out of spite. I reckon it'll get to the hearing and they won't turn up but, in the meantime they have caused you and ds unending distress. So you need to do a counter-claim, just in case - if they drop the case, you can still continue in your claim for damages - this is important so you are not out of pocket.

good morning all

2cute hope you are bearing up lots of good advice KC is right lots of practice will get you calm and collected which is a really good thing, excellent point about a psychologist appointment and references
his school should be able to vouch for your dedication and ds's progress

dh pushed me encouraged me to go running this morning despite ignoring the alarm and him being late for work
very nice short jog in the rain hope you are all well

might revise the days plans and go for baking and splash about in muddy puddles later

sfx nominates mrsR as west london bunch defender

cov Macdonalds? that will be your MN membership rescinded enjoy I am all for bribery

Enjoy? You don't think I am going to eat it do you! (only because I am on a diet pre-holiday, have managed to lose 5 lbs in 8 days!!!!)

oh very good COV am trying to loose 7lbs and seems hard to shift certainly will not go if I don't exercise

paddle your emails are going funny I keep getting notification of late delivery
but nothing urgent so ignore

hello all

2cute...remember you'll be telling the truth and no-one loves ds more than you do or wants the best for him more than you do. that'll shine out under any cross-examination.

kew, am around next week - was getting mixed up thinking you were on hols next week. doh!

dh staggered home from work yesterday afternoon in agony saying he was in the worst pain of his life. 'ah, kidney stone" dr steppie said. (coupled with other symptoms he'd ignored..grrrrrrrrrrr..and i'd packed him off to doc that day anyway)

so after five hours at kingston hosp, they reckon he's "passed" the stone, but got to go back for scan to see what damage (if any) it caused on the way out.
dh keeps telling me 'more painful than childbirth, you know!"

supposed to have a meeting 'in town" this arvo (if don't have to reschedule due to dh's scan). soooooooo not in the mood to scrub up and engage brain.
have a good day everyone
toodlepip

hi all

2cute, as everyone else has said, we're all here for you & will do anything we can to help.

Not sure what to do today, ds in nursery this morning so need to tidy up but wondering about the afternoon. Might just slob out and build some dens!