April/May locals chat

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Other thread full, so hope you all find me

Sushi, sorry I don't know anyone but there is a nanny agency near Kew Bridge. Hope ds is ok, typical of them to get ill at exactly the wrong time, isn't it?!

Foxie, we've sent off our form so am hoping we get our first choice (Weymouth)!

if DS was told his punishment was staying in his room until lunchtime it seems a bit unfair (and not very consistent) to then extend it to a whole day of not having fun seems a bit hard on a three year old. But I can appreciate the need not to contradict DH - sometimes being the only one is an advantage!

kew, no I am definately not at the moment. my agent is not returning my calls so it is looking ever more likely the HA thing isn't going to happen i still harbour a small flame of hope that it will tho......

CoV I always think it's much harder to enforce someone elses punishment. Either by physical action or by silent endorsement. Much easier to hand out the punishment and then follow it thru.

I am a big supporter of not undermining each other as parents tho so well done for sticking to it. To be fair I think you've both been pushed to the extreme and that can result in over reaction, believe me I've been there on the over reaction front this weekend!

As has been said to me over the last week by a few people, is there anything that you can think of that is at the root of his behaviour?

For us I think dd has been thru so much change recently and then my trip away plus the awful neighbours.

I will heed advice and attempt to take a step backwards with dd's temper. Yesterday I pretty much ignored it bar getting her out of the house and into the car.

We had dinner and a bath together so the day ended on a good note. She was still quite clutchy this morning tho.

KC - sorry to hear about work - you must be feeling awful for your df.

COV - simple though it may seem, stickers were always a good incentive for my LOs (even at the your ds age). Everytime they were good they got a sticker. I only ever reward good behaviour, bad behaviour is ignored (unless it is dangerous to them and then its a "No"). I do positive parenting but then I do have a sadistic dd who enjoys all aspects of punishment (naughty step/time out).

pc - the house is lovely but I echo KC's views, please don't rush this one. I know you want to get out but you need to do your research. Get to know your prospective neighbours (as we did) and see if other people in the street are happy. Sorry to hear about dd's behaviour at the moment, they do try your patience after they've been away. Everytime dd2 went to GPs for a weekend, I swore never would she go again, she was awful afterwards. Obviously the neighbours aren't helping in creating a serene environment though. Glad you had a lovely day yesterday.

Amanda - shame I missed you - if you want to rent a van for a few days, CAT me, we rent ours out at a heavily discounted price.

Had a lovely time on the beach on Saturday (didn't make the picnic as the road through Camber was jammed). Boys are brilliant aren't they? I could never sit still with any of my dds without them running off. Whereas ds happily entertained himself whilst I sunbathed and drank wine with my sis. He loves sand - at one point he couldn't see for sand in his eyes but he still insisted on pouring a bucket full of sand over his head TWICE. Never cried once.

MrsR, can you pop along over here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2414/529024?ts=1210594082744&msgid=10762779

yeah you're right about the house. it is a great location, at the end of a cul-de-sac and very quiet. house next door has 3 kids and other side is a single guy I believe. i really asked some questions about noise etc and altho i'm a cynic i did believe them that the only real noise comes from when the kids next door are in the garden!

Sounds like a lovely time MrsR. DS is the one in this household that runs away, dd has always been good in that repect.

There have been no changes that I can think of to explain ds's behaviour. TBH it isn't new just seems to have escalated recently. Think it is time to try positive reinforcement, will start up a reward chart. Trouble is we are currently running one to try and sort out his toilet training, so not sure more than one at the same time is such a good plan. I just hope he behaves next week for my parents or they will never babysit again!

Don't start a chart - too much for them to take in at such a young age. Just put the stickers on their clothes - they love it.

Do you know what, you may have hit the nail on the head - you've started toilet training - that could be it. The start of his bad behaviour. Maybe he thinks that as he's in big boy pants, he should act like a big boy now.

3 kids in a garden sounds great assuming they're well behaved and don't scream shout/chuck things over your fence (like balls) and keep on asking for them back when your dd is sleeping. Cynical moi? Non???

lol MrsR, i like your cynical thoughts! i was leaning towards the "ready made playmate & possible MNetter next door!"

i was there about noon-ish and the garden was littered with toys but all was quiet. the youngest is a girl same age as dd.

at least the party wall with the family house would not touch dd's room and she would be at the front rather than the back.

btw, so sorry haven't emailed! will do so shortly.

balls over wall not necessarily a bad thing - we have a good selection of footballs now...

erm kew, i think you're supposed to toss 'em back y'know!

why? Perfectly functioning football at the moment and anyway - I didn't see it come over so no idea whether to throw it back to the family with 4 childrne on one side or the professional American couple on the other side.

Don't go PAddle I'll miss you. COme and live in my shed, DD can share DS's room, we'll get bunk beds.

We only get well-used balls from either the family of a million one side or the family with visiting grandchildren the other side. But only one side ever asks for the balls. Strangely enough nobody ever asked for the cigerette butts, fastfood wrappers, coke cans, or bicycle helmets or the odd assortment of plastic toys back. I don't know why.

Hello all

Hope everyone is enjoying the sun. Wkend was great, had a lovely picnic with friends who live near the Southbank. Also viewed property again - thanks Mrs R & Amanda for emails. Saw it through new eyes so will now have to attempt re-negotiate the price as we weren't aware of the extent of the flaws when we made our original offer. Vendor is not going to like it.

Nice to catch up with your PC on Fri, don't be too hard on yourself, the DC are at a trying but fun age. Will check out your pic later, is it the house you were talking about?

Definitely time to invest in a paddling pool Also have fond memories of ours when little.

COV - any improvement in behaviour after punishment?

Foxie - any news on job?

QC - good luck with transition to big bed

Hope everyone else well

hi again we spent some time at north sheen rec, mostly because of the paddling pool.

we should go swimming tomorrow as I need to grab a few things from Richmond anyway.

tonight it is make or break very late essay 'deadline' why did I do that?

hope everyone is well do let me know if anyone fancies going swimming

i am posting a warning now!

beware of buying skinny cow ice cream!!! it is a serious disappointment

stuff the healthy option, next time i'll take the ben n jerry indulgement and sod the calories!

yes if you must save the calories go for yum sorbet otherwise a nice treat is better that fake stuff the frustration alone is just not worth it

good job i baked a rather delicious banana & pecan loaf today as compensation!

I like skinny cow! Your premise is incorrect however - it is not a substitute for Ben&Jerries, it is a substitute for "I guess I ought to have a lovely healthy apple, oh hullo I'd forgotten I have a skinny cow lolly in the freezer, thats healthy..."

could you post some cake through my letterbox PC - I need cake today.

am planning on cinnamon and raisin bread loaf as soon as the weather cools a bit yours sounds great

dh is having dinner out, he think, I expect I will get a call at around 8/9 saying 'save me some dinner we only had drinks'

Oh I wish I had time for some baking. Spent most of today doing stuff for the fair that someone should have done weeks ago. I have asked/phoned/emailed her and she said she would get it done, but hasn't. Then bumped into her at school, and she handed me all the stuff I had just spent half the day doing, what a waste of time . DS has been pretty good today, although he doesn't "do" hot weather, so is rather cranky.

actually SFX - you are closer. So please post cake through my letter box today. And valium.

oh KC if I had baked I would, don't deal drugs but am guessing not entirely out as earning potential

sfx - how was carrot-parsnip-rosemary bread? I tried the multigrain, which is nice. Today we are having bastardised oats-rosemary-raisin. In fact it's waiting for us now ... Let you know if it's awful.

the rosemary parsnip carrot combo was lovely quite moist and kept well for the following day, had it with a vegetable terrine for our picnic

do report back on the bastard

sfx - bastard bread is heavenly. Like that rosemary-raisin bread at Carluccio's. But better. Must get back to table or none left for me!