April/May locals chat

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Other thread full, so hope you all find me

Sushi, sorry I don't know anyone but there is a nanny agency near Kew Bridge. Hope ds is ok, typical of them to get ill at exactly the wrong time, isn't it?!

Foxie, we've sent off our form so am hoping we get our first choice (Weymouth)!

ds's bed is up (and my room looks like an Oxfam shop with all the crap I've moved out of his) - he's napping in it now for the first time, though not without a lot of to-ing and froing between mummy;s bed and DS's bed... until naughty mummy shouted

Off for a swim this arfo aas I'm shlepping off to Greenwich park tomorrow am to meet another kazakh adopter who is staying there. To be fair she nromally comes to me and I guess thats no less of a shlep.

Looking forward to bedtime tonight - thought the swimmning might help.

Hi everyone. Not been around much for the last few days, been busy with the school fair plans, sorting the house, and enjoying the weather. Next week will be equally as hectic (fair is on Saturday, and my parents arrive the following Wednesday to look after the children whilst dh and I swan off to Chicago).

DH has fitted a cabin hook to ds's door, as last night he got up decorated dd's bathroom floor with a tube of toothpaste, the downstairs cloakroom floor with hand cream and the kitchen floor with 2 full cartoons of apple juice. I am at my wits end, he knows its wrong and naughty but he just won't stop. Anyone got any fab ideas of effective discipline techniques, before I resort to drugs/straight jacket (not sure for which one - him or me (weak))

Sorry shouldn't have added my post juszt after yours Kew. However I'm sure you will have no such problems with your ds in a big boy bed!

evening all, dd finally asleep after a late nap in the car coming back down from house hunting.

i think i may have found a house. it's not 100% in fact it's got 2 things i didn't want. stairs of the lounge and a small 2nd bedroom. but, it's a really sweet little house, an excellent location both on a very sought after development and in a lovely position. it's 10 mins walk from a great school and a busy bees nursery which was having an open day so i got to look around. and it's in budget!

i saw quite a few today and would love to mix n match to make the perfect place lol.

am thinking it could be another stepping stone house which i could get at a good price so when prices recover i could afford something a bit larger.

anyways, still waiting on the HA so it's up in the air. am very about neighbour noise again tonight. dd asked me to stay with her because of the monsters waking her up. poor baby.

keep your finger's x'd for me people!

anyone around tomorrow? not sure of forecast but was considering dukes meadow for a picnic lunch.....

kew, hope ds settles in his big boy bed soon. am wondering how dd will go with it tbh, it's so hard to settle her at present. i may try to wait till moving again. bit worried how she'll cope with it all.

CoV, i can't imagine how frustrating it is to have to deal with ds's nocturnal artistic endeavours. i am finding it hard enough to cope with dd's well developed teen attitude.

she was running about at GPs this arvo and my sdad said "careful, you'll slip" and she stopped in her tracks, turned around and said "did I? no I didn't actually!"

it doesn't help when GPs collapse in fits of laughter at her!!!!!

Well the cabin lock didn't fit the door properly (to short) so we have to get a new longer one today. Anyway ds ventured out of his room at 6am and was found sitting in the bath covering himself with shampoo, bubble bath and whoknows what else. DH went ballistic, stripped him off and turned the shower on him, cue much screaming. Dh then banished him to his room until lunch time. I agree it is time for harsh measures, but dh has buggered of to play golf until 2.30pm, so I am playing bad mummy now having to keep marching ds back to his room. Although atm all is quiet so I expect he has fallen asleep.

i've put a link on my FB page to the house for anyone who wants a nosey.

CoV and on your behalf that DH metes out the punishment then buggers off and leaves you to enforce it!

wish i had some ideas on how to get to the bottom of why ds is doing what he's doing.

wishing lots of calm, tolerant, coping vibes!

Well ds slept for a while so I jumped in the shower, whilst dd played on the laptop. DS woke up and is shouting is it lunchtime yet. To which I've obviously siad "no", and remarkably he is staying in his room. Think I will let him out at 12! I feel horrid for such a harsh punishment for a 3 year old, but the situation is getting drastic.

Paddle I can't see your link.

i put it on my wall on my profile.

different situation but i too am at teh end of my tether with dd.

reading all the parenting books on gentle discipline and uconditional parenting isn't helping.

the only thing she seems to understand is rewards & consequences or me just getting so cross with her.

i am permanently exhausted between her behavour, the noise from the neighbours and work. i get about 2 hrs to myself in the evening and even that is permeated with gangsta rap. or worse, james blunt on repeat for just the guitar/piano intro on one of his tracks.

Has everyone enjoyed the glorious barmy weather today then?

We've just had a decadent suppr of fried egg and chips (and a glass of champagne)

Squirral seem to be eating our house!!!

ooohh, foxie, chips and champagne is one of my fave meals

yep, i do think 2-3 can be one of the most fecking nightmarish challenging ages, but such fun, too, as they're so funny (in between driving you bonkers, eh?)

james blunt, paddle that really is grounds for eviction...your house looks lovely, btw,..but i'm still in denial..
COV..hope ds sleeps through the night. has he been through any changes recently you thinkl may be triggering this? but i'm sure you've racked your brains on that already..

kew, how's the boy in his big bed?
toodlepip

foxie, have i enjoyed the glorious weather today?
yes..the paddling pool came out of hibernation

dd was dismayed blades of grass were sullying her paddling pool and insisting on picking them all out

then she went off to her room because there were 'lots and lots and lots and LOTS of big boys (4 actually) in MINE pool.."

i do still vividly remember the heady excitement of the paddling pool coming out from my own (distant) childhood..
still got quite excited today, actually...

Hello everyone,
I've been really busy with my online shop. I've expanded into quite a few new product lines, hence no time for MN.

I hope you're all well.

It certainly is glorious weather! Better enjoy it while I can. It's forecasted to rain coming weekend. Is anyone going to be in Kew today? SJ? sfx?

PC,
Good luck with the HA.

Steppie,
You're right. Dd is trying (especially in public) but she's also the cutest when she's not.

COV,
Sympathies with having to deal with ds' behaviour.

good morning all

I hope everyone enjoyed the weekend, lovely weather

mellow we might pop over at around 11 I guess but it depends on HRH

steppie paddling pool how goes work?

KC how is the bed going, we have the bed still in boxes in the corner I feel dd will loose patience with us
she already says 'come on I need a bath and go to bed I am tired' GF eat your heart out

paddle - hope the HA step up they are notoriously slow and often need prodding, if memory serves
and about dd I am sure you are doing fine, they are little monsters push push push and we need saintly patience and plenty of support to deal with it.

cov how goes the one boy guerilla movement?
no wise words but often I feel the less made about it the better, they get bored quickly and move on.

hope everyone else is well today

paddle meant to say the house looks good but I guess another viewing will make a difference.

mellow had a look at your shop last night and noticed the new stuff, very nice

morning all

thanks for comments re: house. it is really cute. i can definately see myself living there. it's a very very good price as the owners want a quick sale. a 3 bed on the same street is about 40k more expensive

of course in this climate everything is negotiable......

had a mixed day yesterday. dd had the biggest tantrum i have ever experienced. i have never seen her lose it like that before. she seems very clingy at the moment and ended up soothing herself with thumb sucking which is also a recently acquired thing

she is always asking me when will I come back or telling me she misses me and she worries about me when i am gone. breaks my heart

the monsters make a daily appearance these days too......

we spent the afternoon at dukes meadow tho and it was fabulous. busy but not mobbed and dd had a great time. managed to lose my newly bought sunblock . jeez that stuff is expensive!

please please please can this weather continue until winter now?

please?

ps: squirrels foxie? can't remember the HA, it's north london i think....

steppie, we had a fabulous paddling pool when i was younger. i remember being totally in love with it!

tis the night of the long knives here today... will post more later...

oh lordy kew, good luck.......

Well I still have a job.

Sadly two of our directors are going (one doesn't know yet as he is on hols) and one this morning which was very sad for me as I count him as a friend

One of my staff went too and a couple of other staff.

DS is having mixed success with his big boys bed though not too bad I suppose for the first two nights.

Sat night he eventually went to sleep at 9.30pm and appeared in my bed at 4.30am. Last night despite being tired he just couldn;t settle and fidgeted and squirmed until 9.30 again and insisted I sat next to him (Mummum sit, sit!) It's almost like the bed was too big for him and he didn't know where to put himself. Then he fell out of bed at 11pm - despite me putting a chair along side his bed and there was no more than about a foot which he could fall out off - how the hell did he manage that! Luckily he went off to sleep OK and stayed there until 6.15am.

Staying with him until 9.30pm is doing my head in though as I just about have time for a quick sandwich and off to bed and I have piles of washing up to do (bloody dishwasher )

paddle presumably DD is clingy becasue of your week away - she'll settle down soon enough I'm sure (not that that makes it any easier to deal with).

On the rare occasions when DS has a complete meltdown I find "holding" therapy (a slightly discredited previopus therapy for attacfhment problems) has a good effect. DS gets a bit scared of himself when he's having a major tantrum and a big firm hug with lots of Shush shushes is the only thing which works or alternatively just leaving them to it (depending on your own state of mind).

Hi all.

Been v busy at home/work. Not even time to lunch at times.

QC - oh, sounds v grim

Paddle - the house sounds lovely. Hope you hear from HA soon with good news.

Sorry if I missed any important news or announcements.

Have a lovely day/week!

KC sorry about the work troubles, can't be easy.
hope ds settles in bed soon, dd will definitely need the bed guard she is seriously fidgety during the night

paddle I would say what KC said really, dd can just really blow and needs help settling when I just want to go 'ffs stop' never a helpful response, I end up saying that in my head and move on to being calm (ish) depending on how tired I am.

am still waiting for postman as I guess parcel arriving and he is quite unpredictable on what he does with it, must go out soon.
dh will be out until late today so am planning on taking it easy otherwise we will be cranky by dinner time

Sushi - how are the spots?

Paddle - don;t mean to be the spectre at the feast but you're not really in a position to offer a fast sale, are you? Fwhat its worth second bedroom is about the size of DS's room.

Morning all. Well hook was a sucess last night. Yesterday was a tough day. Kept ds in his room unitl 12, then had a bit and took dd to party and ds to B+Q. DH got home and isnsisted ds wasn't aloud to do anything fun, took ddd out on her bike, played PS2 game etc. DS was allowed to watch but not join in. I personally thought it was to harsh (but kept my mouth closed). DS seems to realise that we mean business over his behaviour so hopefully we will see signs of improvement.

Kew, sorry to here about work . Hope ds settles into his bed, I know what you mean about there seeming to be too much space when they move out of a cot.

I guess I should have seen these nocturnal problems coming with ds. We had it so easy with dd, never climbed out her cot, stayed in her bed until we came to her in the morning for the first 6 months. Tis pay back time