A little bit of Kiwi

[Papillon]

hey kiwis or wanna be kiwis

here is a thread for us to chat on

about anything really!

Bummer its not the one
I am putting an offer on the dump on the beach today!!

We all slept like logs last night, we all needed it. Hope KJ is sleeping and settling in the night. My ds seems to finally be sleeping in to almost 7am YAH!!

ooh loads of luck with your offer.

Your Dd has helped our Ds with Potty training, I just say 'her name' and 'doesn't wear nappies, and 'her name' 'goes wee wees on the toilet, it's really helping!! Thanks

Hi there
Am not long back from a fantastic shild free weekend in Sydney. Lots of sun, restaurants, wine, dancing oh and the conference was great too .
Papillon, glad to hear you have found somewhere. I will be in Havelock North for 1 or 2 nights either at the end of the month or after the school holidays. Will let you know the dates once confirmed and see if you are around.

oops child free of course

I am just 10 minutes from Havelock North Sibble Conference / knees up in Sydney sounded great!

KJM, super to hear that peer pressure is paying off in the loo, better tell him she also does number 2's in there!

Still playing real estate table tennis over the price of cottage. Hopefully some good news tonight... fingers crossed. Weather getting abit chilly now at nights, how is your bach doing? You will be extra keen to find a new warmer home.

welcome back Sibble, hmmm sounds like your trip was something I could do with a bit of

hmmm good to be playing a game of table tennis with a player you can trust eh Paps, Hope you score!
We looked at another two houses today, they just weren't it either, I know we are a bit crazy to be so fussy, but to be honest I think it's really important to our three way relationship to find the right house in which to do our child rearing.
That storm yesterday was a er and yee gods it was cold in this house yesterday morning but I pumped the heaters up, we'll pay the bills somehow. The sun was blazing again today and Ds and I were back in the sea, so I feel like we've had a slight reprieve.

Without wanting to dwell on my trip I wish I could send every mumsnetter on something similar it really was fantastic!

Anyway,......back to reality havn't been able to post much we were broken into 2 weeks ago (through padlocked gates and managed to get in and out without triggering the house alarm) hardly took anything excedt my laptop and 3 watches!! So am posting from a dinosaur of a desktop - I can shower both kids while it's starting up in the morning!!! As for opening attachments - forget it.

papillon - I will definately be in Havelock North at the end of April. Will have hire car and be staying 1, maybe 2 nights so hopefully we can catch up. I work at teh Health Centre in Hastings when there but stay in Havelock North.

We are off to our new bach this weekend again so hoping the storms are going to clear. They are expecting 6-8 metre swells apparantly - can't wait to watch. Not sure how bad it;s been down country but up here it's been terrible. Spent alot of today clearing fallen branches et. DH flew to Wellington and back on teh first day - he said landing in Auckland was unreal rather him than me. When we flew back from Sydney on Sunday we flew through teh front but at least we were in a big plane and that was bad enough.

Anyway had better leave it there. Good luck with your house hunting both of you and have great weekends whatever you are up to.

I got the cottage They accepted my offer after a few days of negotiating. 50 days till take over as they have a tenant in there. Feel abit sad for him, he is a lovely poor artist - currently making a sculpture for the Wanganui Museum of John Ballance (Prime Minister of NZ in the late 1800's) so not a great time for him to move. Still I am feeling really happy and fulfilled

Sibble what will you be doing at the Health Centre? Weather here has been alittle wet, a short bit of gusty wind, but otherwise very good. Enjoy watching those waves at the Bach! But bummer about the break in, my sisters husband was broken into in the Auckland area about 1 month ago. He had alot of electronic equipment taken. Hope you can get a replacement laptop soon - the computer you are using atm sounds like a dinosaur!

Papillon! You did it and you went back, you're staying on at your dp's orchard? Wow!
Do you know, after your thread back then, I got to thinking about it a lot too and I'm pretty much decided to go to NZ to Dads at Christmastime and spend a year there with dd attending school and see if I don't just stay. So if I DO get my a into g and do things, I hope to see you all next year!

How are you feeling these days? And how are things with dh? Is he very angry at the way things have worked out and do you think there is much of a chance of him following you out to NZ for good?

well done Papillon, I'm really happy you have your home now.
Things a bit shakey here the last few days, we really need to get out of this bach and have a wee bit of space for us all!
Sorry to hear about your break in Sibble, it happened to me once but it was my house truck, I just felt so invaded. Bad news they got through your security system might be worth upgrading or something, not that I know very much about it, we have very little to steal!!
So we have a few things in common now us three, Mn, Baches, Los, Nz and this thread, not bad eh.

ok ladies, I can feel a rant coming on.... gotta get a job, a life of my own, Ds is nearly three and not having anymore, having emigrated I need to meet some people not kiddie connected and not Dp's friends, sometimes I miss having my old friends around me so badly it hurts, I need to get out there and get on with my life outside my lovely little family, I was on my own for such a long time, perhaps I feeling a little claustrophobic, I love them both so much but......
that is just to get it out of my system...so I can think clearer.....thanks

I think it's pretty normal to feel like that after a while. I did. Everyone needs a bit of a life of their own. Do you have an interest you could follow up in a group without dh maybe? No harm in going round to a couple of employment agencies and seeing if there is anything you could do that would interest you and would tie in with childcare arrangements.

thanks SsshaketheChi, I was feeling pretty dispondent last night to be honest, I was thinking of trying to improve my work skills by doing some studying until Ds goes to school as I would really like to start up a business, I hav3e a few ideas of what I'd like to do. The problem being the course would be a correspondence course which doesn't really get me out there so maybe I need a neew plan.

Which part of the world are you in Shake?

Starting up a business sounds good - but perhaps hard to combine with looking after dc when they're small. Think a lot of correspondance courses do include 2 week residentials so you would have an opportunity to meet other people. The one you're thinking of might. How much time do you think it would take you to complete the course?

I'm in Germany.

Hi kjaysmum
I think most of us can relate to what you are feeling. I love my boys to bits but at 18 months (earlier than you) put DS2 into day care for a few hours/week and went back to work freelance so very part time. DS1 had just started school. I needed some space, having no family here it's been 24/7 for 4 and a half years and needed to have a converstaion that didn't revolve around the boys. As it turned out, even though I am spoilt, I do earn good money and as I dictate my hours don't work school holidays etc...because I am so hardly in the office I havn't made any friends (as such) and rarely take a lunch break as I'm trying to cram so much into the day to get back to pick them up from school etc..... So I set up a business from home and am in the transition period from leaving job to building business. Space and ME time is so important. Don't worry if you make the wrong choice at first give a few things a go and enjoy some time for you.

KJM There is a new thread that Sibble started called A little bit of kiwi - part 2.