Husband now terminal

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My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

I'm doing okay. Just trying to plan the funeral now. It's mostly sorted now. Ddog is good. She doesn't mind the cold she just HATES rain.

I had a good couple of hours with my mum. Her birthday present is arriving today for her so I hope she likes it.

You are doing so well Niffler. I don't blame your dog not liking the rain. My cat has refused to go out this morning

Could you get a waterproof fleece lined coat for DDog?

My puppy saw her first umbrella last week and barked her head off.

Hope you have a nice time with your mum.

I have a nice 3 peaks coat for her but it's more the puddles she hates. She avoids them like mad but it's harder when it's raining.

If I fancy a long walk I can take my in laws springer out he's always up for a walk.

This is him

He is seriously cute

Aah, I love Springers - mad as a box of frogs

Awwww I am glad you are bearing up. Do you have friends with you to help you?
Are your PIL helping with arrangements.
You are one heck of a woman.
God bless you. 🙏🏽❤️

He really is cute. He's so loving too. He keeps trying to hump my dog though . He never tried before other than when they first met when he was 10 weeks old. He's now 21 months and neutered at 6 months so I don't think it's hormones.

Seriously cute Springer. Did your mum like her present? What did you get her?

I got her a cheese hamper from the cheeseworks I got my fil one too for our early Christmas and he said it's amazing.

This is the dogs together.

Aw how gorgeous. I have a springer x she loathes the rain or cold. I just tried to get her to go for a walk....we still have snow here =. absolutely no chance!

Lovely to have dogs to walk.

Yum love cheese. The dogs are gorgeous together, they almost look related the colouring is so similar.

Lovely dogs. I have a water dog, who loves the sea (his weekly bath), but runs a mile from the watering hose, as if he was being shot at. Hates a bath, hence the sea cure: throw the stick in the sea = clean dog.

Niffler What beautiful dogs. Your mention of it has prompted me to look at cheeseworks - I know someone who would really enjoy it.

Best wishes over the next difficult days.

Just checking in to say I'm thinking of you.

DDogs look adorable together.

Thinking of you Niffler,

Thinking of you niffler. X

Thinking of you Niffler, I hope you're managing as well as can be. x

Just popping in to say I'm thinking of you.

You're in our thoughts lass.

I've had a busy couple of days. I went to pay for the wake venue today and popped into town. I've struggled the past couple of days with anxiety building up. Staying with my in laws is making it a bit worse. My mil can be quite self centred and only thinks about how she is feeling so everyday there are lots of tears and descriptions about how her anxiety if flaring up and how she is struggling. I don't think she is really speaking to me (she tends to go in random moods and stops speaking to at least one of the immediate family). I think she thinks because I'm not constantly crying and telling everyone how I'm doing in great detail I must be fine.

The lady came today to talk about the service. So we all told her different things about DH and what he was like. I don't think they liked me describing him as introverted (he self identified as introverted) as apparently he wasn't and was always a good laugh at parties (he was forced to go but hated being there). She also said she was going to put some roses in his coffin so I had to say he just wanted one thing in his coffin which she knew. He didn't even particularly like flowers and had hay fever.

I just want the funeral to be here now so I can go home because I'm struggling being around people.

I do feel for you and can understand you wanting to be on your own, sometimes you just need your own space to grieve, must be particularly hard being around MIL. Would BIL have a word with her to ensure your DH wishes about what he wanted in his coffin was adhered to? My children and I wrote letters to put in the coffin.

Unfortunately BIL and FIL have tiptoed around MIL for so long I don't think they would say anything. He just wanted one soft toy in and I'm putting a couple of photos in and MIL had bough DH a card so that's going in. I had to put my foot down as she wanted to buy loads of stuff to put in and it's just not what he wanted and he also would hate the thought of the stuff just being burnt rather than passed on to children/nieces/nephews.

They are just the type of family where if one has a bad back they all do and they compete as to how bad it is (it drove DH mad) and I just don't need to hear how they are struggling worse than everyone else.