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I bloody hate you, you bastarding disease

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McPhee · 10/10/2012 21:40

Fuck off, do you hear me? Now just fuck the fuck off Angry

Yesterday, we said goodbye to my Uncle after a long fight with Cancer. My wonderful, brave Uncle Sad

Our family friend is also terminally ill with bowel cancer. He had a rupture, and had to have his bowel removed via emergency surgery a few days ago. This is the one thing he never wanted to happen. All he wants is his dignity Sad

Today, I find out that my Best friends MIL has also now been diagnosed as terminal. All she had was a sore hip. Her body is riddled. She's got two grandchildren she cares for due to family reasons. I feel sick to the stomach about what could happen to those wonderful boys Sad

How many more? I'm so angry tonight!

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expatinscotland · 10/10/2012 21:42

My 9-year-old daughter. The light of our lives. She died from complications of treatment for acute myeloid leukaemia, 7 months and 29 days after her diagnosis and 18 days after her 9th birthday.

Tuttutitlookslikerain · 10/10/2012 21:45

I'm so sorry McPhee.xx

I lost both of my Grandmothers to cancer,and DH lost one of his too.

We have recently found out that FIL has stage3 bladder cancer, he had an OP 2 weeks ago and we are awaiting the prognosis and treatment plan.

I have been thinking of my friend who died 6 years ago from breast cancer. It would have been her silver wedding anniversary today.

Too many lovely people are affected by this vile, cruel disease.

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McPhee · 10/10/2012 21:46

Expat, I'm so sorry Sad

There's no words for the loss of a child Sad

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Tuttutitlookslikerain · 10/10/2012 21:46

Hugs to you, too Expat. Your family are never far from my thoughts.xxxx

SecretNutellaFix · 10/10/2012 21:46

Cancer is a bastard.

It takes too many people.

domesticgodless · 10/10/2012 21:47

I am so sorry for everyone's terrible losses. There are no words.

sittinginthesun · 10/10/2012 21:48

Thinking of you, Expat.

My Dad. Four years ago this month. He was 62. Sad

domesticgodless · 10/10/2012 21:49

It does always seem to be the best people too, doesn't it? I am thinking of an uncle of mine who died 10 years ago at 45. The best father I have ever known. He didn't get to see his grandchildren and my aunt never married again as never found a man to match him.

Valpollicella · 10/10/2012 21:50

Bastarding cancer

All my love to you all.

It swept through my beautiful healthy nanna. I weep everytime i think of what it did to her.

Cancer. Fuck OFF

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo · 10/10/2012 21:51

When my brother in law was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer (he lived 5 months after diagnosis) I realised why cancer is called 'malignancy'. Because it's an evil, consuming malignant presence that steals lives.

Expat - Aillidh is dearly remembered by so many on here. We will always remember your girl.

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 10/10/2012 21:51

My Dad has just been told he has terminal cancer in his bowel, liver, and blood - it is fucking SHIT!
It sounds silly but our family doesn't get cancer, we die of heart attacks Confused All these years (since he had the first one in his early 30s) we have waited for the Big One heart attack that would take him from us and now we find out it's not likely going to be that at all.
Too many people, too many times.
There aren't any words to properly express how we feel, but anyone who has or is in the process of losing someone knows :(

ToothbrushThief · 10/10/2012 21:52

I hold you in my thoughts regularly expat.

Terrible loss and pain for all of you x

Littlefish · 10/10/2012 21:52

My beautiful 19 year old cousin.

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McPhee · 10/10/2012 21:53

It scares the shit out of me, and I'm so sorry for everyone whose been hit by this cruel disease.

Too many people, precious people, are affected by it every single day. There's got to be a time soon when this is conquered surely?

Our family friend will probably not see Christmas. His first grandaughter is due to be born at the end of November. I pray he gets to meet her Sad

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wonderingwendy · 10/10/2012 21:54

i agree its a terrible illness
my mum had a massive operation for an oesophagus tumour,they took out the lower part and then moved her stomach into her chest .
it was awful.

LouMacca · 10/10/2012 21:54

Our neighbours lovely and lively 7 year old daughter. She was diagnosed exactly 12 months ago today. She died in August Sad It still feels surreal.

So sorry Expat It's heartbreaking Sad

BehindLockNumberNine · 10/10/2012 21:54

My dad. Nearly a year ago. Within 5 weeks of his diagnosis (a very rare tumour on the outside of his oesophagus and windpipe) He was 65.

Claire2009 · 10/10/2012 21:55

My Mum, 16yrs ago on Sunday, non-hodgkins disease. I was 11, sister 13, brother 17 with sn.

My Dad has pancreatic cancer and is very bad.

Fuck off cancer. I miss my Mum

IamtheZombie · 10/10/2012 21:57

MIL in April - seven weeks from diagnosis.

Godson in September - 5 and half months from diagnosis.

I'm 11 months post diagnosis and have another 9 months of active treatment ahead of me.

CelticPromise · 10/10/2012 21:57

My mum has advanced bowel cancer. It's a brutal, degrading disease. It's taking away everything she enjoys. I hate it. I often find myself raging 'fuck off cancer!' at nobody.

My sympathy to everyone who has lost someone or experienced cancer. It's a bastard.

BlueSuedeWitchesHat · 10/10/2012 21:59

My uncles lovely wife. 5 years fighting breast cancer and died last November at 36 leaving him heartbroken and their 2 DC 6 and 4.

Fuck you cancer, she was lovely.

Sorry foe all of your sad losses Thanks

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McPhee · 10/10/2012 21:59

Reading all these is heartbreaking

I still miss my Nan. She died of breast cancer when I was 7. We've got her voice on cassette, but you can't play cassettes anymore Sad. I'd love to hear her voice.

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scottishmummy · 10/10/2012 21:59

it's so hard and raw
affects so many of us
not right not fuckin fair

PickledMoomin · 10/10/2012 21:59

Thinking of you expat

My FIL died of pancreatic cancer.

And I lost my best friend last year to bowel cancer that had spread to her liver. Her youngest DS was 5 months old.

pointyfangs · 10/10/2012 22:00

My former diving instructor (and very good friend) has prostate cancer. So has one of the founder members of our archery club, who is also a very good friend. It killed my great-aunt. My mum has survived skin cancer and is being monitored. Two days ago one of my colleagues and friends lost her DH to liver cancer - he was 63.

If anger could cure cancer, it would not exist any more.