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I bloody hate you, you bastarding disease

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McPhee · 10/10/2012 21:40

Fuck off, do you hear me? Now just fuck the fuck off Angry

Yesterday, we said goodbye to my Uncle after a long fight with Cancer. My wonderful, brave Uncle Sad

Our family friend is also terminally ill with bowel cancer. He had a rupture, and had to have his bowel removed via emergency surgery a few days ago. This is the one thing he never wanted to happen. All he wants is his dignity Sad

Today, I find out that my Best friends MIL has also now been diagnosed as terminal. All she had was a sore hip. Her body is riddled. She's got two grandchildren she cares for due to family reasons. I feel sick to the stomach about what could happen to those wonderful boys Sad

How many more? I'm so angry tonight!

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McPhee · 12/10/2012 09:12

I'll send an email.

I did it again this morning and it's still saying no because of my age

I don't understand Confused

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McPhee · 12/10/2012 09:16

change of criteria Sad

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hugandroll · 12/10/2012 10:49

Just joined the register.

JustinBoobie · 12/10/2012 11:32

lost both of my nannas; it completely ruined them both Sad it took them so slowly...

it took my mil, who I was closer too than my own dm... We stayed with her at home until she took her last breath - 3 months after diagnosis.

Some of my best friends have lost parents and have parents still fighting and one who's been in remission for 8 years. Just so many... My friends little girl, is fighting too - she is so brave. They are all so brave.

Fucking Bastard cancer.

Love to everyone on this thread. Love and strength.

libelulle · 12/10/2012 14:49

McPhee, you don't have to sign up with Anthony Nolan - these guys accept donors until aged 49 - www.nhsbt.nhs.uk/bonemarrow/

It'll work just as well in terms of reaching those who need it I think - my mum's been told they actually do a worldwide search for suitable matches.

I find the AN policy just bizarre. They actually state that there's no reason to go with under 30s except that you are statistically more likely to be in poorer health over 30 - so why not just exclude those in poor health! 30 seems amazingly young as an exclusion point.

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McPhee · 12/10/2012 16:12

Thank you for that.

Sadly I won't be able to do that either for a while as I've not long ago had a baby.

But once Dd is old enough, I'll make it a top priority!

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McPhee · 12/10/2012 16:17

I've just registered

It just means it'll be a few months until I can actually do it

But...tiz done!

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GColdtimer · 12/10/2012 22:34

Good for you McPhee.

CelticPromise · 16/10/2012 21:16

We have learned today that there is nothing more to be done for my lovely mum and she has months.

Bastard evil disease.

TessCorpseDissect · 16/10/2012 21:30

I lost my nan to bowel cancer.

I lost my dad to lung cancer.

I lost two of my dearest friends to breast cancer.

My close friend lost her niece to bone cancer after battling the disease for 10 years. She was only 21 when she died.

A friend from work lost his wife to breast cancer. They had been married a year and had a tiny baby.

Another work colleague is currently battling bowel cancer - he is only 28.

DS's girlfriend was only 16 when she lost her mum to breast cancer.

I cannot find the words to say how much I hate this evil disease.

My love to everybody on this thread who has experienced so much heartache. x

Trazzletoes · 16/10/2012 21:50

Celtic oh god I'm so sorry to hear that.

CelticPromise · 16/10/2012 22:08

Thankyou Trazzle. You're so kind to say that when you're going through such a shitty time yourself.

CelticPromise · 16/10/2012 22:09
Flowers
CelticPromise · 16/10/2012 22:09

I meant Thanks

neverquitesure · 16/10/2012 22:18

I can't read the rest of this thread Sad but wanted to add my own FUCK OFF YOU BASTARD, BASTARD DISEASE

I just cannot believe we still have something so cruel, horrific and utterly wicked in our shiny modern lives. And as for what it does to children Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry well it can just fucking fuck off and burn, slowly and painfully in a specially fiery and awful hell of its very own for all eternity for what it does to children Sad

Trazzletoes · 16/10/2012 22:37

Celtic don't be so silly. Just because I'm having a shit time doesn't make your news any less hideously shittily awful.

I'm so sorry x

CelticPromise · 16/10/2012 23:01

You're right of course. Plenty enough shit to go around! Thankyou for your thoughts. Think of your DS every day, mine is the same age x

Popumpkin · 18/10/2012 20:33

I lost my grandma to breast cancer 21 years ago (her twin sister died of cervical cancer at the age of 41).

I lost my dad to prostate cancer 9 years ago.

I lost my mum to bowel cancer 3 weeks ago.

One of my best friends is going through intense and very nasty chemotherapy for non-hodgkins lymphoma.

My deepest sympathies to ExPat and anyone else who has lost a child to the bastard that is cancer, that remains (and always will remain) my single greatest fear in life Sad.

CelticPromise · 21/10/2012 23:50

PoPumpkin I'm so sorry. How are you doing? My amazing mum died on Thursday, also of bowel cancer. It turned out she only had days, not months.

I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Popumpkin · 22/10/2012 00:11

Hi Celtic. We had the same, mum had was admitted to hospital with a pain in her abdomen & a CT scan showed that the cancer had spread to her liver & would be inoperable. We thought she had months left & were distraught enough at that. She was looking forward to just coming home & enjoying whatever time she had left as much as possible. However, she never left the ward. She developed a chest infection which very quickly became pneumonia & passed away just days later.

It was a huge shock but I suppose we should be glad for her that she didn't have the months of agony & illness that our dear dad had at the end of his life. Still heartbroken though nonetheless Sad.

Popumpkin · 22/10/2012 00:12

not sure where the "had" in the 1st sentence comes from Confused.

CelticPromise · 22/10/2012 00:22

Oh Pumpkin. My heart goes out to you having lost your dad too.

My mum didn't tell us she was dying, just my dad and her sister. she wanted life to go on. I knew it was coming but I thought we had longer.

Would you mind if I PM you sometime? It feels too raw and personal to discuss on a public board.

Trazzletoes · 22/10/2012 05:59

Oh celtic , and more

CelticPromise · 22/10/2012 08:20

Thankyou Trazzle.

Popumpkin · 22/10/2012 12:59

Yes of course you can Celtic. Your mum sounds like a very brave lady Sad.