I bloody hate you, you bastarding disease

[McPhee]

Fuck off, do you hear me? Now just fuck the fuck off

Yesterday, we said goodbye to my Uncle after a long fight with Cancer. My wonderful, brave Uncle

Our family friend is also terminally ill with bowel cancer. He had a rupture, and had to have his bowel removed via emergency surgery a few days ago. This is the one thing he never wanted to happen. All he wants is his dignity

Today, I find out that my Best friends MIL has also now been diagnosed as terminal. All she had was a sore hip. Her body is riddled. She's got two grandchildren she cares for due to family reasons. I feel sick to the stomach about what could happen to those wonderful boys

How many more? I'm so angry tonight!

My wonderful dad, to stomach cancer, at the age of 50, nearly 12 years ago. He beat a brain tumour, he then beat stomach cancer the first time round but then the bastarding disease came back and took him. He would have made the most amazing grandad and it breaks my heart that he never met my dc's.

My mum, bless her, coped amazingly well after losing the love of her life and met a fantastic man and re-married. He made her so happy and was a wonderful grandad to DS. 6 years in bastarding cancer took him as well, within 6 weeks of diagnosis. Telling DS was the most heartbreaking conversation I have ever had to have and it nearly broke my mum.

My sister, who beat cancer of the womb at 30, but had to have a full hysterectomy before her and Dbil had any children.

For all of you who have lost children (expat whatevertheweather and anyone else I have missed) I cannot even begin to imagine what you have been through.

My mum :( who has intense chemo again today and bas been battling for 3 years. We know its terminal but appreciate every second you fight to stay with us.

My mum to kidney cancer - loved her grandson but never met her granddaughter (who may very well be her reincarnated)
Dad had throat cancer - survived but been ravaged by the treatment
FIL survivied bladder cancer - had to have bladder removed.
Uncle currently fighting pancreatic cancer - not looking good
Great Uncle died in the 60s from leukaemia

Bastard cancer!

I sang a few weeks ago at the funeral of a former choir member who died of leukaemia a few weeks short of his 58th birthday. One of his dds was heavily pregnant.

I have several friends fighting this shitty disease.

Much love to all of you who are grieving.

My mum died of ovarian cancer in March. At least she was 70 so arguably she had had her life. So sad to read about all those young people. Cancer is awful, but somehow so much worse in the young. :(

My nan.

And my mum, 2 weeks before DS was born.

Cancer is the vilest, cruelest thing. :(

It is hideous - I've lost both parents to this fucker, and several friends. One day we'll nail the bastard.

My childhood best friend was diagnosed with bowel cancer a month ago. My step dad died aged 56 of pancreatic cancer - non smoker and limited alcohol. My next door neighbours daughter in her 40s has cancer spread throughout her body starting in her cervix.

Hugs and tissues to everyone on this thread. Cancer doesn't worry about age/class/gender

I can't list them, it's too painful.

Fuck you cancer.

So sorry for everyone who has had to deal with this.

My darling brother, killed by a rare sarcoma after two years of agonising and degrading treatment. He was 34. He never got to meet my DC or have his own; my lovely SIL was a widow at 32.

I hate it.

Oh, and my little cousin who has had to have a full hysterectomy in her early twenties thanks to this bastard disease.

Solidarity hugs to you all.

My lovely mum. Finishing her first round of chemo this week for a relapse of acute myeloid leukaemia, after 6 months of gruelling treatment last year. Her only chance is a bone marrow transplant, and the odds are, frankly, fucking slim. She's 65 and is fantastic. I can't bear it.

dp's dad who died when dp was 18 barely 6 months after his mum had passed. dp will never learn to live with it. A little boy my youngest dc went to play group with not long had his 6th birthday he is terminal and facing the last few months. When I saw his mum she seemed so strong but she has been through hell these past 3 years fighting it. Fucking cancer

My beautiful mum in 2010 4 weeks to the day of diagnosis of lung cancer

My FIL in 2004 of bile duct cancer

Them my MIL died last year from dementia - my poor DS only has one GP now at the age of 10, I feel very cheated :(

Trazzle - I will say prayers for your brave beautiful boy and for you too.

ExPat I think of your gorgeous daughter everyday and she is the reason I am on the Bone Marrow Donor register now.

Whatever - so sorry for the loss of your precious baby - big hugs to you.

So :( for all of us - it' fucking shit shit shit!!!

I am so sorry for everyone on this thread who has lost someone to this fucker of a disease

My lovely aunt, only 44, has probablya week or so left. She is in a hospice because of a very aggressive brain tumour that has slowly and painfully deteriorated her to such a state that she doesn't even look like her anymore. It is awful and so, so wrong. She has two grown-up girls that she will never see get married or meet their babies. How is that fair? How can nothing be done?

There do seem to be glimmers of hope on the horizon though. I read in the Independent the other week that cancer deaths are predicted to fall by 45% by 2035, the biggest reduction in deaths is thought to be in ovarian cancer which would be amazing as it is such a difficult cancer. 45% would be wonderful. I really do think that we are getting ever closer to cures for cancer. Hopefully our children won't have to watch loved ones slowly picked off by it when they are adults. Thank you to the people working tirelessly to find cures and answers

Oopsy - thinking of you and your DH too

Just took dd1 in to the hospice to see
my lovely mil. Heartbreaking.

And my friend who left her 2 girls earlier this year. And another friend who is having a bone marrow transplant for his leakeamia that has recurred. And my friend who has lost her mum, her step mum and her sister to this horrible disease. Dd1's teacher who lost her 18 month old to AML. And my own darling grandparents.

Much love and strength to you all.

It's heartbreaking, it really is.

My beloved aunt. 25 fucking years after beating breast cancer it came back and spread all over her body.

Trazzle, Expat, Whatever so sorry for your losses
Oopsy sorry to hear about your DH

Paternal grandmother (never met her) Liver cancer died aged 32
My Mum first breast cancer then adrenal cancer died aged 52
My stepmum - pancreatic cancer
and 10 months later
My Dad - bowel cancer

(My Dad and my stepmum were pensioners so it doesn't feel quite so bad because they were reaching the age where their health was likely to deteriorate)

Its how many people have lost loved ones too young.

So for all on this thread. It is a bastard evil, vile fucking disease. My lovely FIL died last December, 3 weeks after second diagnosis of liver cancer. My dear friend's DS who is 5 and has now had cancer for over 2 years.

My gran had breast cancer twice in her forties, survived that, then just before her 78th birthday, died of a stroke. 24 years ago.

My step great aunt died from lung cancer, never smoked a day in her life, but was a district nurse, I was in my early teens.

A very dear friend, as a result of smoking, even though he hadn't for 30 odd years.

My dad 3 days after going into hospital, we found out what his cancer was when they did a postmortem. He died 3 months after my 2nd son was born, he met him once and got a smile, he was the only grandchild to do this and it made him happy, this is one positive memory I keep close to my heart. He had gastric cancer.

My heart goes out to ALL of you who have lost someone to this crap disease.

My Dad died in October 2005 by the way.

McPhee thanks for starting this thread. It's making me cry but also feel less alone. Whoever said you don't know how evil cancer is til you see it up close hit thenail onthe head. I had no idea how brutal it really was until it hit my mum. I just wish there was more they could do for her. She's spent her whole life caring for others and she's only 64.

Bupcakes your post is so hopeful. I hope you are right.

Fuck you cancer.

I'm hoping if nothing else, that this thread be be cathartic for us all.

Shout, swear as much as you need to

For some of us, the outcomes can't be changed, but by fuck it doesn't mean we have to accept it!

So fuck you cancer!!

definatly, my mums is 44, shes lost her job,her independace, her house (had to move to bungalow), she cant get in and out of the bath without my help or put her socks on :( more chemo today, am so sad today :(

i am scared for my stepdad. he has lost his mum, dad and sister to cancer, and his brother has now been diagnosed with it too. he is heartbroken at potentially loosing yet another family member.