Worried for daughter starting high school

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So my 12 year old daughter who is transgender is starting high school on monday and im so worried for her.

She also has a diagnosis of autism.

She doesnt find it easy to make friends and shes left a lot of her younger friends behind in primary school.

She keeps saying she doesnt want to go and shes scared and ive been trying to be really positive for her but deep down im petrified.

She transitioned socially around 3 years ago so all the children moving up with her know she is transgender and im so worried about kids gossiping and her being potentially outed to any new friends she makes.

She is also starting to go through puberty so i know tje next few years wont be easy with that.

Im hoping maybe someone reading can relate or is going through this now also

Thanks

I think this thread is indicative of the sort of opinions your child will have to deal with. Not just at school, but all the way through life. So if your child wants to continue acting like the opposite sex, and you want to support your child's choice, I'd recommend building up resilience, and quickly. You cannot shield them for those who believe in science, biology and genes.

Jesus, age 3 😔

What about the impact on the other kids?

What about puberty?

Oh no. Just 'the school have been nice about it'.

FFS

3 years old. I could literally weep for your daughter. She never stood a chance.

😢

At least that poster still calls her 'her daughter' so knows that she is not really male. So maybe there is some hope for the child.

Please, please, do read this article

www.transgendertrend.com/childhood-social-transition/

Bloody hell 😢 poor child

What do you mean?

I don't understand your comment. This is not my thread and I suggested the OP PM me as I don't want to get into a debate with people like you.

I agree poor child, stuck in no man's land.

Thank you for the link, it's the opposite of what is happening in our household however, so of no relevance to us. Everything led by her and totally reversible at any point.

To reply again, if you think any of this has been engineered by us, you are woefully off the mark so dry your eyes.

Do you have a child with gender dysphoria? If not, it is not helpful to comment on threads like this as you can never understand. Do you think we wanted this for our beautiful feminine daughter?? We hoped she would snap out of it but she hasn't so here we are and all we can do is support her and hope she isn't rejected by her peers.

'people like you'.

You mean ones who understand that cats aren't vegan.

I shall refrain from saying more.

Your child was THREE. Three year olds saying they are boys do not have gender dysphoria. They are displaying age appropriate exploration of the difference between males and females. A 'three year old with gender dysphoria' has parents who don't understand this and are applying their own ideology on a child.

And no one is saying errr hang on a second.

I wouldn't worry OP - other than the normal level of worry that any decent parent has for their child prior to a big move!
Trans is still very 'in'. Not quite as 'in' as it was... I think it peaked just after lockdowns when lots of teens were struggling and had spent too much time online. But even the children slightly moving away from it are still pretty #bekind.
Far harder in most places I think to be a 'nerd', or 'old-fashioned' or not a follower of trends.

What exactly is happening? What is being 'lead by her'? I shared that article in the hope that it would allow you to see that the whole point is that nothing is truly, really, 100% reversible, especially when we are developing as children.

Our childhoods are shaped by everything that is going on around us and if you are not explaining to your mistaken child what sex they are and what that means (in an age appropriate way), including that people can't change sex then you are failing as a parent.

Have you read the Cass Review?

I agree with this.

No, it's with hindsight that I can say it was from 3, we didn't label it as anything at that stage and assumed it was a phase/she wanted to be like her brother. As the years have gone on her character/movement etc is very masculine.

Oh give over, when have I said I have lied to her that she is male?? I haven't, I said she identifies herself as male and has since 3.

Why are you lot even on this thread, it's for parents of LGBT children?

You have allowed her to identify as male.

FGS, Break the narrative and let her be a girl that breaks stereotypes.

What is a masculine character/movement? Isn’t defining a characteristic by sex quite old fashioned and sexist?

Bullshit.

This is YOU placing sexist stereotypes on her.

I've been in the situation of having parents do this. It is not healthy.

And why does that prevent me from posting? There is a huge amount of concern that gay children are being labelled as trans because they don't conform to gender stereotypes and are being medically sterilised as a result.