Worried for daughter starting high school

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So my 12 year old daughter who is transgender is starting high school on monday and im so worried for her.

She also has a diagnosis of autism.

She doesnt find it easy to make friends and shes left a lot of her younger friends behind in primary school.

She keeps saying she doesnt want to go and shes scared and ive been trying to be really positive for her but deep down im petrified.

She transitioned socially around 3 years ago so all the children moving up with her know she is transgender and im so worried about kids gossiping and her being potentially outed to any new friends she makes.

She is also starting to go through puberty so i know tje next few years wont be easy with that.

Im hoping maybe someone reading can relate or is going through this now also

Thanks

I refused to wear pink from about age 6. Then black too. My mother used to say me and my brother were born the wrong was around. I was a massive TomBoy. Wanted to climb trees, was into 'boy toys' then it was football, then it was being into bands. It was never about fancying any of them.

When I hit my late teens I resented being a girl. It restricted me. And I had my mother in my ear going 'you should have been a boy'.

It did me lasting damage. It took me years to deal with it. The prospect of giving birth distressed me so much I had said I didn't want a child for many many years before finally changing my mind in my late thirties.

It's nothing compared to what happened to my brother though. And the impact that then had.

There is autism in my extended family and the more I look the more I'm convinced it's all about that and associated anxiety responses.

If you think it's possibly autism, then you owe it to your daughter not to validate and to take the easy parenting route but to actually figure out the autism.

Being careful of autism charities who are rife with this harmful sexism too.

It's dreadful.