Nonbinary Lesbian Answering Questions

[ash2301]

Hi- I'm a nonbinary lesbian teen, and I want to help answer parents' questions about their LGBT+ kids/any other questions you have. Please be respectful, but there's no such thing as a stupid question

this isn't a science

No kidding.

Do you not think this is all attention seeking bollocks and you're just a common old garden lesbian?

What's the difference between you and a 'Gender non confirming cis' person?

Female, although this doesn't really have any impact on my gender identity- I could just as easily be biologically male and identify the same way.

Because you are a woman - you’re a gender non-conforming gay woman - and please be proud to be the woman you are.

The world has gone crazy

I'm not gender non-conforming.

Cis is a prohibited word on here and many of us find it offensive. Please do not use it.

You are only not allowed to call someone else Cis (for obvious reasons). OP is fine to describe herself as not Cis.

I personally identify as about 2/3rds female to 1/3 neutral

Can you give some examples of things/feelings/whatever it is exactly, that make you identify as 2/3rds female...

And things/feelings, etc, that make you identify as 1/3 neutral.

I am a woman not a cis anything. Please don't use that label.

No? So you support gender stereotypes?

Vampires don't exist. Nonbinary and trans people do.

Which sex were you observed to be, at birth?

In what ways do you see gender as being related to sex?

In what way/s are you 2/3 female and 1/3 nb?

If you were born female then you are female. Feelings don’t define biological sex, biology wins every time.

You said there were no stupid questions and you still haven't answered the biological sex one.

I'm still none the wiser.

Hi OP

Interesting thread :)

I am a lesbian aged 38. Never once questioned my gender. Things seem to have changed since my youth - lesbians were generally butch or femme there was none of this 2/3 identifying as female business.

So my questions are:

1. Are there still young butch / femme lesbians or do people now tend to identify somewhere on a gender spectrum?

1. I have heard a lot of insistence on Mumsnet that lesbians are getting pressure from trans women to sleep with them and their penises. As far as I'm concerned this is absolute rubbish - never heard of this IRL and I know a lot of lesbians. Is pressure to sleep with trans women an issue for you and your friends?

Still waiting for you to define female.

You’re a woman - the identity play is just sophistry which supports really noxious patriarchal ideas.

I realise that the 2/3rds thing isn't the best way to phrase things, but it's the best I have for the moment. I am admittedly lucky with gendered terms- I like "girlfriend" but not "woman" for instance. The biggest thing I am uncomfortable with are she/her pronouns.

Do you think 'identifying' as something overrides reality? You do realise you are wholly female, not just 2/3, yes?

I am completely biologically female if that's what you mean. I'm not in denial of that.

That feeling you have in your head that you consider non-female - how do you know that it isn't just a personality existing in a female body? I'm quite puzzled by all this as I've never felt a gender, I just refer to myself as female because my body is female.

If I identified with a frog, would that make me a frog? Genuine question?

I want everyone to use they/them, which isn't always a plural pronoun and never has been.

So you acknowledge you're female and you fancy/ date other females. So...just a lesbian then?