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I'm hoping this is in the right place - ds and contact with h - - - - URGENT

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dizzymare · 21/08/2009 22:19

Recent history - seperated from my H after a long history of problems, then me discovering he was shagging someone else was the last straw. He left, I've stayed in the house with ds. Joint named morgage, which he is still paying at the moment, what will happen in the future I don't know.

Anyway, H has been totally shit at seeing ds for quite a few weeks, crap excuses, or not turning up with not even a text Ds is only 20 months, so isn't totally aware if daddy doesn't turn up yet, plus I've stopped mentioning him coming incase he doesn't come.

H has said he wants to take ds away for a weeks holiday, won't say where or who with. Except I know who it'll be with, I'm far from stupid . I've got ds passport and documents here, so at least I know he can't take him abroad.

Ok, now for the immediate problem. Tomorrow, he's due to pick up ds for contact day, as arranged between ourselves. What I need to know is can he take ds away without my permission? And if he is intent on being a bastard and takes him without my permission or even knowing, where do I stand legally? I've got an appointment with a solicitor but not until friday, which isn't much use tbh.

If anyone can help, or give me some info that would be really helpful.

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dizzymare · 28/09/2009 22:34

help is coming

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curiositykilled · 28/09/2009 22:36

good help? Your mum and dad?

dizzymare · 28/09/2009 22:40

yes just dad I feela prat

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curiositykilled · 28/09/2009 22:56

don't feel a prat. I hope your dad can calm you down a bit. I do think you should try and look for some counselling support, either through the GP or women's aid?

xxxxxxx

almondfinger · 28/09/2009 23:00

Listen, with all you have going on that last thing you are is a prat. Have a good hug and cry with your dad. It's great you have such support from your parents and just know that they would do anything to keep you safe.

Remember the breathing too.

curiositykilled · 28/09/2009 23:00

Hope you can get some sleep or at least some rest tonight. Talk to your lovely dad. x

shabbapinkfrog · 28/09/2009 23:04

I think you are probably around the same age as my eldest DS Dizzy - if he needed my help with something as difficult as the situation you are in I WOULD NOT HESITATE TO FIGHT TO THE DEATH FOR HIM - your Dad, and your Mum will always, always be there for you. Let them help you in any way they can. You are their baby - you always will be. Dont feel a prat - you are not a prat - you are going through a bloody awful patch and you need the help of the people who love you un-conditionally and more than anybody else - YOUR PARENTS.

Your ex is trying to control...he will regret his actions and words in the future. Never forget 'what goes around comes around.'

Please tell your Dad I think he is great and...dont forget to tell him you love him. YOU CAN DO THIS, I KNOW YOU CAN xxxxxx

Sending much love and my thoughts from Lancashire xxxxxxxx

curiositykilled · 28/09/2009 23:09

off to bed dizzy. E-mail if you need it, will be back tomorrow eve. x

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