Can he stop his baby's mother moving away before the birth?

[Sadgie]

His baby mum to be is 5 months pregnant and has told him she plans to move back to her parents home which is rural and 2.5 hours away by car, he doesn't drive. She presented this as a done deal, has had a transfer of office base for her job etc, wants to raise child where she grew up.
She has lived in the same city as him for the decade he has known her.
He is devastated as can't see how he can be an involved dad as he wanted to be now. He has signed up to driving lessons in quite a defeated way, reluctant to get legal advice as doesn't want to start things off badly.
They were in the same friendship group for a long time, never in a relationship. They got together in the wake of them both breaking up with their long term partners. Son thinks she's embarrassed and doesn't really want him in the picture.
Is there anything he can do to prevent her moving? I appreciate she may want more support in new parenthood but as she's planning permanent relocation it's going to mean they have a dad at long distance for the whole of their childhood.

Your posts are so weirdly over the top and aggressive.

You don’t know anything about this girl for god sake, she has consensual sex with an adult man she was not in a relationship with, lives alone and is choosing to move closer to her family now that she is pregnant.

Shes not “in the wrong” she’s making her own decisions for her own life.

You have utterly misunderstood my point. You're clearly very angry and I'm sorry if you're going through something difficult.

There is no 'poison', just a lot of experience of the family court, sadly (for the father incidentally).

I was answering the very specific questions posted here about the possibility of one parent being able to stop the other moving away.

As I said upthread, it would be foolish for either parent to apply for a PSO to prevent this as suggested by a PP, because it almost certainly wouldn't be granted as it is not what a PSO is for.

For avoidance of doubt, I was not suggesting it would be foolish for either parent to want to be involved in the child's life, and to take court action to enable that if necessary - but that is a separate issue and is not the subject of the thread.

Taking ill advised and pointless court action is not going to help either this man or his child and would only result in a lot of money and time wasted and a lot of heartache.

I hope you find peace with whatever is so difficult at the moment and I'm bowing out now.

Except the mother who has carried it for 9 months inside her body.

It knows her voice, her smell and her heartbeat from before birth.

Minimise that if you must.

He can’t stop her and if he tries to, it will cause so many issues.
She sounds like she’s making a sensible choice. He needs to ask her what her view is of his relationship with the child. What can he do to help.

Yes, and this is exactly why men need to always take responsibility for their own contraception and use condoms. To protect themselves against this sort of thing.

What is too much or too little is very individual. That's something they both need to work out between them. It sounds like they are doing well working out details between them, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's going to change over time too. At first, the baby really just needs Mum. His role is to support her. It wouldn't be appropriate for him to be taking baby away. As the child gets older and can be away from Mum more, and as the parents build future relationships, they will no doubt get into a regular rhythm of co-parenting.

None of us can say what is too much or too little. What you suggested earlier (him being there every night after work and doing the fun things and taking the baby way on his non-work days) would be too much for me. It might not be for the baby's mother but they will work that out between them.

@SparklingTurquoiseOcean So bemused by your outraged posts, it’s like you’re reading a different thread to everyone else. I hope that poor bee finds its way out of your bonnet.