My ex will not return my son

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My ex and I have a son, we both have parental responsibility and my ex has him every weekend, a couple of weeks ago I dropped my son off at his dad's on Friday evening as usual and went away on holiday without him agreeing to have our son for me to go away, I texted him the following day to let him know I was on holiday and would not be returning to the following week now he will not return my son, where do I stand

Why on earth did you bugger off on holiday with zero notice?

No idea where you stand legally.

So you dropped him off at his dad's for a normal weekend visit, then buggered off on holiday texting to let him know he needed to keep him for the week with no warning? I hope I'm reading this wrong

I'm not surprised.

That's mental. Why would you do that ???

Wow. So you effectively abandoned your child.

hoping this is a reverse…

So it's not that your ex won't return your son, it's that you left your son there without any warning or discussion and now you want him back?

Two very different scenarios.

You'll have to go to court as he's within his rights not to hand him to you.

Sounds like he is the better option for your son anyway. Not that I know anything about him but the bar is quite low.

It’s hard to sympathise with this. I think you may have to go to court to work this one out if you both have PR.

Where do you stand?

Oh shit, of course… a reverse.

Particularly stupid to do that on Legal matters

This has to be a reverse, surely

I think it’s fair to say that you abandoned him and he may be worried about it happening in the future.

Utterly idiotic thing to do. And premeditated in the final post on this thread.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/divorce_separation/5357117-can-my-ex-refuse-to-have-our-son-to-prevent-me-going-on-holiday?page=2&reply=145902991

So you abandoned your son to go on a jolly and now want him back? I wouldn't hand him over either. You've proved how irresponsible you can be. Are you going to complain about the incoming CMS claim too?

This must be some sort of reverse, but if not, you went on holiday without making arrangements for DS to be cared for?

I'd imagine (hope) any authority you report this to would support him not returning the child.

No sympathy at all. Why didn't you prior arrange with the father of your child about your holiday arrangements so he could've sorted childcare for your DS, did he have work commitments? Likelyhood is he's probably pretty fed up and your son must've felt abandoned and he's been left picking up the pieces. He is well within his rights to protect his son from someone who can't communicate appropriately. Court sounds like a better idea.

Wow!

Looking at the previous thread she did ask, and he refused, citing that he had to work.

The whole situation sounds dreadful, and maybe he should have agreed in the first place, but you can't just abandon a 2yo and expect.no repercussions.

Did your son know you were leaving him with his part time father for the week, or was it a surprise to them both?

Where are we getting that this is a 2 year old from?

From the previous thread copied above.

Wow, not a reverse. Incredible. I'd hope you lose parental responsibility if you're so flippant about the responsibility aspect.

The OP of that thread is not the same as on this thread, this OP was just the final comment on the thread, no age was mentioned.