Anonymous funky pigeon card

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I’ve received a really horrible card from this company but it has no details of who sent it, it’s the second card sent because the wife of my friend received one in the same subject with my contact details on it? Is it a police matter? What can I do?

Funky Pigeon can't share customer information without the customer's permission, but they can ask the sender to contact you.

If you were to report it to the police as misusing communications to harass someone, a criminal offence under the Malicious Communications Act, then the police would have the right to request details of the customer from Funky Pigeon. The threshold for them doing this, though, is far higher than receiving a single communication that you don’t like the content of. Ongoing communications or threats should be reported.

What sort of message is it? Is it suggesting an affair or something if it's been sent to a friend as well?

it literally states that we are and have been having an affair for 13 years! I’m more concerned for my friends wife than anything else, it’s a horrible thing to be sent!

Not sure the police will want to get involved, but no harm in asking them.

These cards are clearly libellous. Funky Pigeon's terms ban users from sending defamatory messages. You should complain to them. That may not tell you who sent the cards, but it should stop any repeat.

IMO it's not that defamatory however it's not my marriage that is being affected, FP are useless really they're just saying that it's against policy but if it's a continuous occurrence, with the police investigating they MAY be able to assist them!

But that is the case. It's against the law for them to tell you who their customer is. Surely you realise that?

100% agree, GDPR is more a part of life now than ever, it's just difficult to comes to grips on the fact that some twisted people think that this is ok!

I think I'd focus less on trying to get some company to tell you something they are not going to tell you and more on the actual situation.

I don't really understand what the message was though.

The card I received called me all the names under the sun, Karma's a b**h but my friends wife's card states we've been having an affair for 13 years and we flaunt our relationship all over the place, then my phone number! We both have grown up kids with grandkids and can't bear to think any of our relationships would be affected by this. ( his wife has already told one of his kids )

Are you having an affair? Or is it someone spreading lies that you're having an affair?

Someone spreading lies, the profession we are in has a lot of jealous people and tbh anything that causes drama is a big thrill for some of them. Even though these people are like this, there still isn't one individual that I can pin point that would do this!

What profession is this? Do you and this woman work at the same company? Are you single? What does your friend (married to your supposed affair partner) think of it all, and do they work at the same company too?

I would let the police know anyway but wouldn’t expect anything to come from it.

It seems such a random thing to do, especially being specific about it being for 13 years.
I would think it is somebody close to home who would do this, if it was out of spite surely they would have sent the cards to your spouses rather than you and the alleged other woman? I don’t know what they think they would gain otherwise. It must be someone close to one of you who thinks they know you are having an affair and it’s more of a “gotcha” card rather than stirring up trouble.

I've never met his wife, our friendship is purely professional, I know all about his private life as does he with mine because we talk about everything, but personally they don't cross over, we live hundreds of miles away from each other so I have no mutual friends with her or anything.

What was on the front of the card, out of interest?

Actually I think I’ve misunderstood - do you mean they are implying you are in a gay relationship with your friend? The person who has received it is the wife of the alleged affair partner? It still seems a very random thing to do though.
It must be somebody you know well though, because I would assume they have used funky pigeon so it could be typed - they must think one of you would recognise their handwriting.

Could it have been him who sent the card? He's pretending he got one too so that you don't suspect him?

On her card it just said sorry on the front, mine said in sympathy of the loss of your partner ( his name )
I'm single, and have been for a long time. I find that what they've sent to me is personal, but what they've sent to her is vicious!

Are you a woman? Is the card claiming you’re having an affair with your friend (a man?), or the friends wife? Sorry it’s really not clear to me.

You say you live hundreds of miles away - how did you meet your friend? Are you at the same company?

If I’m understanding correctly it seems like this is aimed at you, as you got the card saying karmas a bitch, and your friends wife got a card claiming you are having an affair with her husband? Did your friend get a card? How would someone know both yours and their address, if you live so far apart? Is this someone using company details, ie. a colleague?

He's sent me pictures of the card that was sent to her, ( not a gay relationship) I'm female, plus he is much older than me and we don't even look like a couple never mind act like one!

To clarify:

You are female
Your colleague that you're accused of having affair with is male?

The other person who received a card is the female spouse of the above male?

We work as a management team for a sports group, He walked into a hotel I used to manage and we instantly became friends, his profession was my obsession. I finally gave my job up to work for him on his accounts, media etc

There are ways to get his address because it's his company but we've no idea how they have got mine as I'm more behind the scenes than anything else

Yes, that's correct

It would have to be someone who knows your address or has access to it. Can you think of how they would know this, from work maybe? They would also have to know your friends address too so work seems to be the common denominator. Is it worth speaking to HR at work?