Anonymous funky pigeon card

[Spuggz]

I’ve received a really horrible card from this company but it has no details of who sent it, it’s the second card sent because the wife of my friend received one in the same subject with my contact details on it? Is it a police matter? What can I do?

‘Window shopping’? He sounds like a real prince, OP. ‘Loud and comical’, works in pro darts, and visibly checks out other women?

I think OP is saying the previous situation was not with the man in question but with another person they both know.

Then it could be anyone behind the cards, couldn’t it?
It all sounds very childish, and to be quite honest you sound like you are enjoying the drama.

Are you sure you haven't had an affair with this man OP? You seem rather incredulous that anyone would have picked up on your totally innocent relationship with a man you definitely don't fancy (in this life)....
You appear to be well aware that the level of contact between would bother his wife. Is there a reason you have never met the spouse of a close friend you spend so much time with?

So you’re calling the darts players wives and girlfriends ugly? On a public forum? Where we can google the darts sports management companies?

Ri…gh…..t……

I presumed she meant ‘the looks the wives and girlfriends gave to other women on the circuit’

But who are these people — darts players, supporters, people who work for or represent players? How would they know your address or your colleague’s? Why would they bother? I mean there’s a big leap between ‘bitchy’ and ‘doing detective work to find home addresses, ordering cards, writing and posting them’. Though the key point for me is knowing exactly how long you’ve worked together. Surely that’s not common knowledge? A lucky guess?

This is getting worse than Wagatha Christie

Bullseye Bergerac?

Who knows?

I think you're clutching at straws and it is something personal and I would guess a woman rather than a man. The only reason to make me think it might not be the wife is why now after all these years?
"So you’re calling the darts players wives and girlfriends ugly? On a public forum? Where we can google the darts sports management companies?
Ri…gh…..t……"
She didn't call anyone ugly? I think she implied the looks the women give people /each other is enough - they don't need to be bitchy.
Anyone who has done this is likely to know the police are not going to get involved because 2 people got a card about an alleged affair. They barely have the resources or manpower for serious crime - so telling anyone you're going to the police is unlikely to strike any real fear into someone.
It maybe worth going to the police just to ask them to log it - so if it continues and if you were to find out who it was - there is a record of it.

I’d watch that. Also, Richard Osman, who adores darts, and documentaries about darts, would drool over it on The Rest is Entertainment.

😂😂

@FurzeNotGorse Enjoying the drama? Couldn't think of anything worse!

Obviously FunkyPigeon can't share data, but if you escalated, would they convey to the customer themselves that you have reported these cards to the police and that further similar cards could lead to FunkyPigeon having to disclose their identity?

Did you reply to the wrong person?

@FurzeNotGorse yes sorry,

@Spuggz

I agree with a PP that you shouldn't give much more time to this card wrt your own feelings about it. Chances are you'll never know who sent it. You know the truth, let it go 'on your own behalf'.

As far as your friend's wife goes, make the offer to speak to her, either directly or through him. Don't wait until she asks. I think you offering first could go a long way in reassuring her and putting any fears to rest. Because yes, I agree with you that this is very upsetting for her, even if she's never had cause to 'suspect' anything and trusts him completely.

My husband had female friends through sport, but I knew all of them. I wasn't 'friends' with them per se, but I'd met them and had socialized at events with them a bit. If I'd gotten such a card, because I knew them and trusted him I probably would have been able to brush it off. But if I hadn't known them, it would have bothered me. Not that I don't trust DH, but there's always a tiny spot in any person's brain that says "Hmmmm, what's this about then?". To have an 'unknown' friend of DH's express willingness to speak to me would have been very helpful.

13 years working very closely together in a very small team

and never once met his wife?

I have friends who work in a similar line of work and there is so much socialising that I can’t believe you’ve never met his wife in 13 years, despite being such close friends. My friends husband is involved in the business but his wife is always attending events and things with him.

And…. The Op has made a name change and is back

this time with slightly different version

what a fruitcake

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5294956-im-sleeping-with-the-boss-apparently?reply=142872516

Ask them if they know the identity of the sender (or email address or something). If they do, ask them to withhold any requests from them. The King’s mail cannot be withheld without the recipient asking for this. It might be a starting point? They wouldn’t have to disclose any info to you for this to happen 🤞🤞

This

That's not particularly strange though?
I worked somewhere for 12 years, where I built good working relations with colleagues over the years. Some of them men, and some who would occasionally call or message outside of work.
Didn't meet many of the wives, and never shagged any of them either.
Mutually respectful working relationships are possible. This thread has taken a really odd turn.