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Employer dismissed me, now wants to hear grievance. Please help!

305 replies

Tootiredtosleep · 18/12/2024 16:46

So, I raised a grievance with my employer back in July this year, and a further grievance re a protected characteristic.

They acknowledged the first grievance and invited me to a meeting with the Director (who the grievance was about - it's a small company - no HR). I asked for a reasonable adjustment, could it be held in written form and this was not acknowledged.

The further grievance re the protected characteristic (race), was never acknowledged by the company.

However, they invited me to a disciplinary whilst I was on sick leave, for gross misconduct/fraud. I was subsequently sacked. They were wrong on all counts of what they accused me of. However, for one small thing I had no evidence, and it was upheld as 'reasonable belief'.

The last correspondence from them re my grievances was 27th July 2024.

I have now filed a case at the tribunal for race discrimination, sex discrimination (they contacted my ex husband to find out information) victimisation (raising disciplinary after I done a protected act) and failure to provide an employment contract.

All negotiations with ACAS have failed. They won't communicate.

However, some 5 months since they acknowledged my grievance, they have now written to me to say they would like to hear these grievances and want me to attend a meeting. This is one month after I have been dismissed. It wasn't mentioned in my dismissal letter.

I know I need to show the tribunal that I have exhausted the grievance procedure, but surely contacting me after all this time, when I am no longer an employee is wrong? Can anyone advise?

I have tried to keep it brief, but can provide further details.

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Lndnmummy · 26/11/2025 12:14

Tootiredtosleep · 26/11/2025 11:57

The judge allowed the barrister to deliver remedy. I’m wondering if this is a good sign? Very nervous and overthinking!

It might very well be. I am praying that it is!

Topee · 26/11/2025 12:24

I would think that’s a good sign, fingers crossed for you!

FeatheryFlorence · 26/11/2025 13:19

You have everyone on this thread rooting for you! Not long until it’s all over.

Billybagpuss · 26/11/2025 13:26

FeatheryFlorence · 26/11/2025 13:19

You have everyone on this thread rooting for you! Not long until it’s all over.

You really do, how has the job interview gone

Tootiredtosleep · 26/11/2025 14:09

Thank you so much everyone. The job interview is at 330pm. The decision is being delivered right now, but I chose not to go to. I should find out by 5.

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FusionChefGeoff · 26/11/2025 14:19

Do you have the means to plan a great big treat for yourself to celebrate the incredible effort you’ve put in to get through this?? No matter what the result I feel like you deserve a slap up meal / night away / holiday either way in recognition of the Herculean efforts you have put in.

Livingthedream1978 · 26/11/2025 14:20

Good luck for your interview! I hope you get good news today on both counts.

Lndnmummy · 26/11/2025 15:12

Good luck for your interview! Today is your day!

Topee · 26/11/2025 16:41

Good luck, hoping for two positive outcomes!

Daffydoll · 26/11/2025 16:44

Good luck!!

Tootiredtosleep · 26/11/2025 16:54

I’ve still not heard anything. I did call the tribunal office, but they said they could only confirm the decision has been passed down, not what the decision was. So frustrating.

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GargoylesofBeelzebub · 26/11/2025 16:56

Tootiredtosleep · 26/11/2025 16:54

I’ve still not heard anything. I did call the tribunal office, but they said they could only confirm the decision has been passed down, not what the decision was. So frustrating.

Oh that’s awful that you know the decision’s been made but you can’t find out. Good luck!

ickky · 26/11/2025 16:58

Can you speak to your Barrister? They should know the outcome.

Good luck.

Notsurewhatisnormalanymore · 26/11/2025 17:17

Tootiredtosleep · 26/11/2025 16:54

I’ve still not heard anything. I did call the tribunal office, but they said they could only confirm the decision has been passed down, not what the decision was. So frustrating.

I’m so fucking proud of a stranger on the internet it’s unreal! Regardless of the outcome you should hold your head high, what a warrior you’ve been having read through all your responses on here.

I feel like you’ve claimed a victory by having the guts to sit opposite a liar in a place so intimidating. I feel like it’s a victory for women and for women of colour (I hope that’s the most up to date term - massive apologises if it isn’t and I’ll change it if needs be) I fell to pieces in family court I was so intimidated so I know how difficult this is. Taking your daughter was an absolute boss move and I’m proud of her too for supporting you.

I hope this is a victory in terms of getting the right verdict as well, I really really am wishing that for you.

Scampuss · 26/11/2025 17:54

Notsurewhatisnormalanymore · 26/11/2025 17:17

I’m so fucking proud of a stranger on the internet it’s unreal! Regardless of the outcome you should hold your head high, what a warrior you’ve been having read through all your responses on here.

I feel like you’ve claimed a victory by having the guts to sit opposite a liar in a place so intimidating. I feel like it’s a victory for women and for women of colour (I hope that’s the most up to date term - massive apologises if it isn’t and I’ll change it if needs be) I fell to pieces in family court I was so intimidated so I know how difficult this is. Taking your daughter was an absolute boss move and I’m proud of her too for supporting you.

I hope this is a victory in terms of getting the right verdict as well, I really really am wishing that for you.

Exactly this.

It's a big thing to go to tribunal, so whatever the outcome, @Tootiredtosleep you've shown how brave and tenacious you are. Standing up for what's right matters.

DwarfBeans · 26/11/2025 18:04

The is the first time I’ve seen this thread. I’m keeping everything crossed for you. Be proud of yourself no matter what the outcome is!

Billybagpuss · 26/11/2025 18:21

Oh my god they can’t leave you hanging overnight.

Hope the interview went well.

JustAn0therUsername · 26/11/2025 18:36

Oh goodness. The wait will be interminable. But you’ve come this more you can go until tomorrow.

how was the interview?

Beach11 · 26/11/2025 18:44

How was the interview? 🤞

Tootiredtosleep · 27/11/2025 09:13

I WON ON ALL COUNTS 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

The judge said I was consistent and reliable throughout. Whilst the respondents were not.

So pleased, relieved and downright exhausted. I may sleep for a week.

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PrizedPickledPopcorn · 27/11/2025 09:15

Hooray! What will that mean in practice? I’m not knowledgeable. Will the employer pay your costs, and compensation? When will you find out?

But mainly, hooray!

justthecat · 27/11/2025 09:20

Well done for seeing this through and winning!

cozyandwarmish · 27/11/2025 09:21

Edited as I’ve now read the whole thread! Congratulations OP!

Tootiredtosleep · 27/11/2025 09:21

@PrizedPickledPopcorn
Yes, I’ve been awarded compensation, and the judgement will be made public.

There are no cost applications in Employment Tribunal, but mine were paid by my insurance company, so I haven’t had to pay personally.

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Tootiredtosleep · 27/11/2025 09:21

cozyandwarmish · 27/11/2025 09:21

Edited as I’ve now read the whole thread! Congratulations OP!

Edited

I’ve just won at tribunal.

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