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Employer dismissed me, now wants to hear grievance. Please help!

305 replies

Tootiredtosleep · 18/12/2024 16:46

So, I raised a grievance with my employer back in July this year, and a further grievance re a protected characteristic.

They acknowledged the first grievance and invited me to a meeting with the Director (who the grievance was about - it's a small company - no HR). I asked for a reasonable adjustment, could it be held in written form and this was not acknowledged.

The further grievance re the protected characteristic (race), was never acknowledged by the company.

However, they invited me to a disciplinary whilst I was on sick leave, for gross misconduct/fraud. I was subsequently sacked. They were wrong on all counts of what they accused me of. However, for one small thing I had no evidence, and it was upheld as 'reasonable belief'.

The last correspondence from them re my grievances was 27th July 2024.

I have now filed a case at the tribunal for race discrimination, sex discrimination (they contacted my ex husband to find out information) victimisation (raising disciplinary after I done a protected act) and failure to provide an employment contract.

All negotiations with ACAS have failed. They won't communicate.

However, some 5 months since they acknowledged my grievance, they have now written to me to say they would like to hear these grievances and want me to attend a meeting. This is one month after I have been dismissed. It wasn't mentioned in my dismissal letter.

I know I need to show the tribunal that I have exhausted the grievance procedure, but surely contacting me after all this time, when I am no longer an employee is wrong? Can anyone advise?

I have tried to keep it brief, but can provide further details.

OP posts:
Lndnmummy · 24/11/2025 21:14

Proud of you @Tootiredtosleep. You are nearly there, regardless of outcome you should be proud of how you have conducted yourself.

nebular · 24/11/2025 21:26

I’d go, don’t you want to see them squirm under the same kind of questioning.

Beach11 · 24/11/2025 21:27

Well done op. You’ve done brilliantly. Good luck for tomorrow

Topee · 24/11/2025 21:38

Well done, I hope you get the outcome you deserve.

Negroany · 24/11/2025 21:56

The reason the judge is "harsher" is often because they know you have a likely successful case, and they want to be sure there is no chink through which the employer can appeal when you win.

Ineffable23 · 24/11/2025 22:07

Flowers My thoughts are with you OP. I hope you get some sleep tonight and make it through tomorrow okay. FlowersCakeBrew

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 24/11/2025 22:30

Thank goodness it’s over, see what tomorrow brings.

Quitelikeit · 24/11/2025 22:47

You have come so far op keep going

Azandme · 24/11/2025 22:48

Negroany · 24/11/2025 21:56

The reason the judge is "harsher" is often because they know you have a likely successful case, and they want to be sure there is no chink through which the employer can appeal when you win.

This. Good luck!

Tootiredtosleep · 25/11/2025 07:34

Thank you to each and everyone of you.

I actually slept very well, I was exhausted.

I am up and getting ready to go today. My daughter is coming with me for support.

I will let you know later how today goes.

Thank you!

OP posts:
JustAn0therUsername · 25/11/2025 07:37

Good luck again today.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 25/11/2025 07:44

I’m glad you’re supported today!

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 25/11/2025 07:45

Good luck today, OP.
Well done for getting through yesterday, it must have been so hard. But you did it!

BogusBargins · 25/11/2025 07:48

Wishing you strength op

Purplecatshopaholic · 25/11/2025 08:01

Good luck today op. You got this.

amber763 · 25/11/2025 08:02

Good luck today.

WellINeverYesYouDid · 25/11/2025 08:24

I’ve only just found this thread & have no expertise to share but just wanted to wish you luck @TootiredtosleepYour tenacity is fantastic. Sending all best wishes for today & for a brighter future once this is all over 💐

SoftPillow · 25/11/2025 08:30

Sending you best wishes and good luck for today OP.

Darker · 25/11/2025 08:32

Good luck!

letshavetea · 25/11/2025 08:33

You’ve done so well. Good luck for today.

Purpleandredandyellow · 25/11/2025 08:37

Good luck - I am willing you on! Very much admire your tenacity

DivorcedButHappyNow · 25/11/2025 09:03

It’s more helpful to the employer if you don’t attend the grievance hearing.

Depends what outcome you want? Don’t assume threatening a tribunal means you will win, get your name cleared and a large amount of money. Most people don’t win, especially if representing themself. Do you have legal support?

Regardless of whether they have got the process right, tribunals are public and disclosable. Fraud and dishonestly are viewed in a very black and white way.

One of the things you could potentially agree with your employer (if you attend the meeting) is getting a reference.

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 25/11/2025 09:05

Go and watch him squirm! Crossing everything for you, OP

Scampuss · 25/11/2025 09:20

DivorcedButHappyNow · 25/11/2025 09:03

It’s more helpful to the employer if you don’t attend the grievance hearing.

Depends what outcome you want? Don’t assume threatening a tribunal means you will win, get your name cleared and a large amount of money. Most people don’t win, especially if representing themself. Do you have legal support?

Regardless of whether they have got the process right, tribunals are public and disclosable. Fraud and dishonestly are viewed in a very black and white way.

One of the things you could potentially agree with your employer (if you attend the meeting) is getting a reference.

It's a good idea to at least read the OP's posts before commenting - then you'd see that things have moved on and OP is at her employment tribunal right now!

ApolloandDaphne · 25/11/2025 09:38

Good luck.