I am being threatened with injunction, can he do that?

[singlelostmama]

Long story short I met a guy online and saw him for 9 months.
During this time he sent me many videos of him touching himself. Nudes etc
He has broken it off with me, which is fine, obviously I am upset.
But he is threatening me if I contact him he will get an injunction against me.
Obviously I feel incredibly intimidated by this. I haven't contact him, for the fear of a legal case. I haven't contact a good job and two children to think of.

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?
Obviously I'm not going to do this but I just wanted to be clear if he could actually carry out this threat?

Thanks for any legal advice.

It could be classed as harassment, so yes, he could get an order that would prevent you from contacting him again.

Why on earth are you contacting him? If you stop there is nothing to be worried about

I feel like there is a huge chunk of the story missing between him breaking it off with you and him threatening you with an injunction. What has happened? If you have been harassing him and he has asked you to stop contact then yes he could report you to the police for harassment or apply for a civil order which may have a power of arrest attached.

Is there a particular reason you need to contact him? Eg. Collection of belongings? In which case, if I were you and he is being difficult, I would contact a solicitor and as their advice and maybe to send a letter on your behalf.

If there is no reason to contact him, then just don’t.

@prh47bridge how? One text isn't harassment. To get an injunction it must be proved the action is repetitive and is intended to cause harm or distress.
OP what have the videos got to do with anything? And I think there must be much more of a back story here.

You need to tell us the rest of the story OP.

How many times have you contacted him since the relationship ended?

What’s the relevance of the videos.

clearly there is something missing here.

I haven't contact him, for the fear of a legal case. I haven't contact a good job and two children to think of

So you do actually want to contact him, it's just fear of legal trouble stopping you.

Why are you wanting to contact him when he's told you clearly to stay away?

Have you said you will share the videos ?
or does he think you might

Of course he can, providing he can make a reasonable case that what you are doing is harassing him.

You have no need to be in touch with him, so won't be contacting him, so this is an utter non-issue.

You need to delete the images he sent you, as they are private and personal, and shared in the context of a relationship that no longer exists. No justification at all for you to hang on to them

If you message him repeatedly after he has asked you not to, then yes, it could be considered harassment and he may be able to get an order to require you to stop.

But, if you haven't contacted him, and aren't going to in the future, then don't worry about it. Delete any images or videos, and block and delete all contacts you have for him.

I didn't say that one text was harassment. He can use any unwanted contact from the OP since breaking off the relationship prior to issuing this threat, as well as any contact after it.

We don't know the full story - whether this threat is completely out of the blue or the result of OP repeatedly contacting him. But OP asked if he could get an injunction if she continues to contact him. As per my post, if she continues to contact him that could be harassment so yes, he may be able to get an order stopping her.

Why would you want to contact him and what do his nudes have to do with it? Have you been harassing him or threatening to share his nudes?

Ditch and block and move on - no issues

He can get an injunction, but it will cost him money, just to send it, and enforcing it if needed will too but take care he will then come back on you for costs.

Just don’t contact him and there isn’t a problem.

There is more here than you are letting on

No one goes straight to injunction - have you threatened him with regards to the images/videos he sent you?
If not, why have you mentioned it?

an injunction is a strange place to start….so there must be more to this.

But ultimately yes if you keep contacting him!

dont send those pics or videos to anyone (not legal) and stop messaging /emailing/ contacting him as this can constitute harassment

donot contact him for any reason. Block Delete and move on…

If you don’t contact him you don’t have to worry about it 🤷🏽‍♀️

Whats the relevance of the nudes? Lots of people do that.

Just do not contact him ever again and block his number problem solved. Is he well off? Any court proceedings cost a fair bit of money.

If he's asked you not to contact him and you do regardless, then theoretically yes, he could get an injunction.

He clearly feels there could potentially be grounds for one so I'm curious how he's reached that conclusion

What is the relevance of the videos? Have you threatened to share them? Did you send them to him and are you worried about him posting them online?

I don’t see why someone would threaten an injunction for contacting them unless you have been excessively messaging him? In which case that would be harrassment.

Just leave him alone unless there is a specific need to contact him ie collecting belongings

If you haven't contacted him since the relationship ended, and you have no plans to do so, his threat is baseless. If you have explicit photos/videos of him then his statement may be an attempt to intimidate you, especially if you’ve not respected his boundaries after the break up.

Like pp's have said - there sounds more to this than you're letting on. But if not, don't initiate any further contact - if you haven’t contacted him since the break up, you’ve nothing to worry about.

It would be worth documenting any further threats. If he continues to do so, save any messages or communications in case you need to demonstrate a pattern of intimidation on his part.

This is very much only one part of a story.

Why do you want to contact him? Does he have nudes of you?

Seems odd to need legal advice about something that won’t happen if you do what you say you will and don’t contact him?

Did you send him any photos of yourself?