Leaving Soon to be EX-Husband off BC

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Im due in July. Can I leave the father blank on the BC or will the person registering the birth force me to name STBEXH?

Currently waiting to hear from the courts for amendments I sent in months ago due to them being ridiculously behind. There are copious reasons as to why he's not to be listed.

@SomeoneElseEntirelyNow as I said. I reported it, that have it.

they, not that

Sorry - there is a surplus "not" in my last post. I misunderstood through skimming!

It's fine.

So basically I've got to hope they hurry through my petition on the divorce and get that started and finished albeit there's no way it'll be done in 11 week, refuse to name him and face whatever consequences that may occur or list him.

OP (I have no legal credentials whatsoever), it does seem a travesty of justice if delays mean your divorce is put back. Have you got a lawyer?

No lawyer, It was done online by me in Feb. He received it admitted he has but still refused to acknowledge it and agree/contest with the courts.

Due to the online system letting you select two options but online only putting one down it meant that I couldn't get the courts to deemed it received and proceed without him sending it back. They made me amend me and send it in via email and as such it moved to the postal system from offline and they originally were saying (before Covid) to even get it looked at and amended it wouldn't have been till June. After I spoke to someone yesterday they've marked it as urgent as it wasn't my fault and hoping to get it out within the coming week.

Fingers crossed for you, Few. Glad they have marked it urgent.

I 100% understand why you do not want him on the BC. I would say I wonder if Women’s Aid could help you with a solicitor but I dare say they are rushed off their feet atm.

What difference would him not being named on the birth certificate make?

My understanding is that not being on the bc means he has to prove paternity before he can try for access or any rights. Plus if op wants to change childs name it will be easier. If the father is named then you have to get permission from him. If another man wants to adopt you have to get petmission from him.

Well firstly don't drop feed major info if you want to get accurate answers Nd secondly the birth certificate is a red herring. Doesn't sound like you will be divorced by the birth do what you have to contend with is that he automatically has parental rights and ime total bastards never miss an opportunity to totally screw over the women they've hurt. So you need to lawyer up now and work out how you can keep him away. What you can't do is deny his paternity. That's an unfortunate fact.

@StrictlyAFemaleFemale - As the OP is married to her child's father your understanding is wrong. He will have parental responsibility automatically regardless of whether or not he is named on the birth certificate.

My understanding is that not being on the bc means he has to prove paternity before he can try for access or any rights.

As the OP is married to her child's father your understanding is wrong. He will have parental responsibility automatically regardless of whether or not he is named on the birth certificate.

Exactly. OP, the birth certificate is a legal record of the facts of your child’s birth. Even if your ex is so abusive that a court agrees it is not safe for them to have any contact, your child still has the right to know the identity of their parents. As you are married your ex will have parental responsibility regardless. But even if you weren’t married it would be a straightforward court application for him to prove paternity via a dna test and then it just makes you look hostile and vindictive.

I think you’re worrying about the wrong issue here.

I’m sorry he was abusive. Are you getting support?