Leaving Soon to be EX-Husband off BC

[few43453545]

Im due in July. Can I leave the father blank on the BC or will the person registering the birth force me to name STBEXH?

Currently waiting to hear from the courts for amendments I sent in months ago due to them being ridiculously behind. There are copious reasons as to why he's not to be listed.

I think if you’re married he has to go on

As you will be still be married he will automatically gain PR regardless of naming him or not..
A husband is legally the df of a baby born to his dw...

I was made to. I cried through the entire registration process.

@ThisMustBeMyDream I'm so sorry you had to go through that

Worst case I won't rush to register the bairn till it's gone through and hold off as long as I can.

Why wouldn't you put him on there? Are you using this to punish him for something (which if you are it's pretty cruel especially for the child!)

He is 50% responsible for making the child? He isn't some one night stand - you actually married the chap

You need to get legal advice here as even if your next door neighbour was biologically the father in law the child would automatically be assumed to be your husbands.

@ivfgottostaypositive because he raped and abused me. Is that okay with you or would you like more extensive detail as to why? But yes i'm the cruel one.

Why are you trying to keep him off the birth certificate? He's the baby's father, he has rights here. You can't cut him out of his child's life just because you don't want to be married to him anymore!

((((Few))))

It says right there.

I can do as I wish especially in those circumstances thank you very much.

@few43453545

I'm sorry for your troubles and I hope you've pressed charges

But you asking a forum of strangers for their opinion and without giving any facts in your opening post I've given mine

That was a crosspost.

Im so sorry that this happened to you. Unfortunately, the child is still his and he does still have rights as the father, even if he's a bastard. If you think he'd be a danger to the child I'd seek legal advice to see what your options are, but unfortunately i think everything will be pretty slow going at the moment.

@few43453545

If you can do as you wish, why are you asking?

No need to get shitty with people, you didn't state your reasons in your OP, if you had response s would have been different.

Fact remains that your married so he is legally responsible. I'm not sure how long you have to register the birth afterwards, I think it's 6 weeks in England. Though I'm unsure if that matters at all. You need legal advice as it might be DOB not registration date that matters.

Even with the lack of background which makes 0 difference to the question at hand. You automatically assumed I was being "cruel" and couldn't fathom a reason as to why I would not want this thing named.

I wanted to know if I would be forced to name him or if I could leave it blank. There was 0 reason for you to jump to that.

A birth certificate is a statement of facts not a statement of what mum wants on there.

He is the father so should go on it, it would be quite simple for him to get a court order to put his name on.

To answer you, if you are married at the time of registration yes he goes on. If you aren't married he can only go on it if he is present at the registration it can be added at a later date.

When are you due? Birth registrations are suspended at the moment. When do you expect the divorce to be completed?

If you're married at the time of registering the birth, yes.

If he wants to go court he can. (He obviously doesn't and won't. It's not exactly the place most rapists choose to go surprisingly)

@ThisMustBeMyDream Im due in July. So they can be suspended and I have 6 weeks I may have time im not 100% though

No idea when it'll be completed I sent the amendment end of Feb, He like the grade A arsehole he is received the paperwork, refused to sign it and send it back and I've had to amend it so I can go forward without him.

Have you pressed charges? If so you might be able to deny him custody, but if he wants to he can get proof of paternity then assert his rights even if he isn't on the birth certificate. You need a lawyer.

As I said he can go to court if he wants (he doesn't and won't. it's not exactly where rapists go)

OP I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

As far as I’ve been told, if you’re married at the time of registering the baby, your husband is presumed to be the father and he goes on the birth certificate.

I hope it works out for the best for you and your baby.

@frazzledasarock

Thank you.

Im not sure what happens if I just don't register baby till im divorced or refuse to sign it. I've spoken with the divorce centre who are sending my amendment over to be dealt with as urgent as it was the online systems fault and not mine so I'm hoping by the time I register baby I'll be divorced.

I would contact women's aid or citizens advice to be honest.

The short answer is yes they can force you

However, I believe there are exceptions in the cases of rape, even if marital. Maybe contact the registry office and ask the question?

I guess it would depend though surely on whether he had been convicted?

Seeing as the statistics are abhorrently low for reporting let along conviction rate I don't see how t it'd be a deciding factor.