Can they take my baby away

[saraheve]

HI i really need some advice, my 9 year old son was taken into care due to depression i was unable to keep on top of housework, I was binge drinking on weekends and I was in a unhappy relationship with childs farther, since my son has been taken into care I have attended therapy, hired a cleaner, attended a parent recovery group, relapse prevention group and took parenting courses. I am 8 months pregnant due to give birth very soon, I was given a prebirth assessment that said social services will go to court if they see that babys needs are not being met, unborn baby is on child protection and on the plan it says the same, yet social services say they want to take me to court? I was told their is no present concerns and I have addressed all previous concerns yet they want to still take it to court based on pre historic. I have so much evidence of significant changes yet they want to keep me in hospital once baby is born and have a discharge planning meeting where they may take baby away. Have they got any grounds since I have made significant changes and their is no present concerns. I am very devastated please can somone advise me? Thanks.

The ex can't come to the home as he hasn't addressed his cannabis use but is allowed contact three times a week in a contact centre.

If the ex comes to the home Sarah is to call police. Is cannabis use reason enough to urge someone to call police if he shows up?

Was the solicitor keen to get a non-mol order earlier in the situation?

Coming late to this but I just wanted to add my congratulations on your beautiful baby girl and on all the fantastic changes you have made! I am not a sw but I do work closely with ss and I have noticed that with the children who end up in care long term their parents completely lack insight into their own behaviour and fail to take ownership of their issues, blaming everyone else and placing themselves in the helpless victim role. You have done exactly the opposite, you have held your hands up to your mistakes and sought out support for yourself rather than expecting everything done for you and you deserve a lot of respect for that. Keep it up! I hope you will have be able to have both children together with you this year.

Hi mathanxiety ex isn't allowed to continue with into home untill he addresses his problems. No molestation order x

Thanks streetch x

But he's allowed to see the baby in a contact centre 3 times a week even though he hasn't addressed his problems...

I don't want anything linked to this name but my DD2's Dad is still allowed supervised after pulling a whole pile of crap. It's shit but nothing surprised me anymore.

Sara I'd really consider thinking hard about whether contacts in the best interests of your DD. I've fucked up big time in regards to my DD and only blind luck meant she hasn't been physically injured.

Ss are coming in twice a day and im going back to court on the 14th so my neck isn't completely out the woods, as they still want to pursue care order. But Im keeping my flat clean and tidy and every time they come round they can see im taking care of babys basic needs and bonding with her. So I hope that in future they will back off a bit as all I want to be is a good mum. X

Hi UnbornMortificado it's the ss decision that ex has supervised contact 3 times a week and right now I don't want to go against anything they say. His binding with baby and doing his best to change. So hopefully this will make him clean up his act. X

Glad to hear your still doing okay Sarah

Two visits a day must be tiring

Is the judge convinced that he is doing his best to change? Why did he make a point of saying the ex is not to come near your home?

Did your solicitor mention the possibility of a non-molestation order a while back?

Is the judge convinced that he is doing his best to change? Why did he make a point of saying the ex is not to come near your home?

Did your solicitor mention the possibility of a non-molestation order a while back?

Does it matter? The fact is the ex sees the baby under supervision and we don't need to know why - unless you want the answer to start off one of your 'like a dog with a bone' replies that are the length of a roll of wallpaper.

Sara I hope he does. Just remember even with SS involvement and all the visits you do have a say in what you think is best for your DD.

I don't mind the visits from ss as its my chance to show ss that im meeting all of babys needs, and my mental health is good and flat is tidy. The ss could of put me in a mother and baby unit. But they wanted to see how I do at home and they said a mother and baby unit will be more intense. I'm doing well at moment and very determined to keep it up x

DigestiveMuncher

Aren't you a fucking delight
Now do fuck off dear.

Op said on page 2 the ex is the dad to both DC

Digestive you created a whole drama in your one post. Ever thought about working for eastenders and work with them to create fantastic story lines.

Ive reported those posts.

Report away. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and mine is that I don't believe a word she has said..

HorridHenryrule never thought of that, it may be worth a try.

digestivemuncher you sound like you need therapy!
Like you've been sat through this thread drumming your brain for mean nasty things to say for a bit of attention.
And tbh you sound quite strange, Id really go get some help you must be so Lonely and fed up.
Maybe start your own thread for what ever issue you've clearly got, get some support.
Op im amazed at your determination and courage you go girl!
You've got this now you've turned it around and I wish you and your babies the brightest happiest future together!
Good luck 💐

Well isn't that a big assumption from one fucking post panda. I do not need therapy and I am definitely not lonely and sorry but I don't need my own thread either, what a waste of a thread that would be But thanks for that it made my day.

DigestiveMuncher I need
Never said I didn't make mistakes with my son is didn't even realise what I was doing wrong until it was to late, ourherwise of course I would of made changes sooner, I'll always live in regret that my son went into care, and I'm very lucky we are still very close and always will be. But I eventually addressed all my problems got the right support and changed for the better, and as to say I enjoy the drama how wrong can you be, you have no idea I've been through months of hell. As I said in previous posts negitive people are usually wrong. Im testament that people can change their behaviour, maybe you need to change yourself because you sound so bitter and seem like you enjoy trying to put outhers down when ur actually so wrong in your negitive opinion.

I haven't enjoyed putting anyone down, or being bitter for that matter. Yes maybe my pp was completely out of order and for that I do apologise, there was no need for it.

I clearly haven't read the post properly or have missed bits out as I didn't see the point you just made about it being too late for you to keep your son and you not realising it was coming to that, I thought you knew it was coming and just didn't bother to do anything until he was gone and you were left with the choice of keeping your new born so decided to change, that's a mistake on my part and therefore have judged the thread completely wrong which I hold my hands up to.

So saraheve I apologise for the horrible comment I made.

Well done Sara for making the changes required to keep your daughter, best of luck with regaining custody of your son.

Somebody I'm in contact with lost her child this week because she didn't/wouldn't comply with the changes required quick enough. Keep progressing and moving forward with your life.