What can I do to stop misinterpretation of contact order?

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Ex took me to court last year over child contact. It didn't exactly achieve anything different than what he already had so was pretty unsuccessful in my eyes. He however boasts constantly about how it 'sorted me out'. Whatever. He is very manipulative however and both him and his wife are bullies. They are constantly misinterpreting the wording of the order and trying to force whatever new interpretation they've decided on me. Their latest move is to try and enforce something that means I lose a weekend as well as disrupting the rotation of future weekends that I had planned on my calendar.

I feel really worn down by them. Every time a longer holiday or half term comes around I get super lengthy emails composed by his wife (I can tell) that tie me up in knots and basically leave me so confused. I don't know what to do. This order has brought me no peace because he seeks any and every angle in the wording of that will allow him something extra. My sol said we need to try and sort it out because the judge will not want to see us back in court this soon, however he does not know what it's like to co-parent with an emotionally abusive person.

Please help:/

Well you know he is a dick

Never mind what that twat calls it - I call it a result for you, well done. You stood firm, you didn't roll over (as you feared you might have to) and you have made him back down. Simply by sticking to the facts.

As long as it is pointed out to him that this is not a swap, it is simply the continuation of the contact order, you could now set out the weekend contact going forward on this basis. Then he will have even fewer opportunities to dick you around in the future.

Hugs to you - keep going x

Oh don't worry, my sol fired one straight back (before I even had to tell him) to say there was no request for a swap made and that labelling it as such via solicitors was an attempt to cause conflict. Haven't heard anything back yet but I don't care anyway. He won't be showing up at the school and that's all that matters.

I like your solicitor!

Am really glad for you. Enjoy your weekend with your DD.

Cheers guys! Hopefully a week or two of quiet before he starts again. He rarely lets her speak to me during half terms so that will be the next one.

Result! Enjoy your little bit of peace while you can!

I have been through all of this. My grandchildren live with me under an RO and the order is quite clear to anyone normal.

During the summer holidays, we get 2 1/2 weeks holiday as the primary carers where we do not have to make our GS available for contact. The order states clearly these are "free" weeks each year. They still demand we have to pay back the weekends which would mean my poor GS had hardly any weekends at home during the summer holidays.

They draw up schedules (which are invariably wrong, even getting my GS's birthday wrong) and charts and send them to school etc. They have also demanded extra weekends to which they were not entitled and I foolishly gave in to get them off my back.

They don't seem to realise that if this was the case, I would be demanding the weekends back from their holiday time!

The order is also very clear that the last weekend of the summer holidays is to be spent with us in order that the brothers can return to school together from their own home. They insist this should not happen but cannot provide a reason why other than they don't like it.

However, I eventually saw the light. I made one final reply to a ludicrous letter and told them I did not want to receive any more letters, the order was clear and told them that THEY must comply with the order. I would not entertain any more schedules, charts and demands. I also told them THEY must repay the extra weekend they had demanded and that the order worked both ways.

I understand how frustrated and stressed this is making you. You need to take control now and refuse to be drawn into further correspondence. Do not let him bully you into extra contact. If you do, this behaviour will continue.