4 kids 3 under 5 think i may be pregnant again

[claire103]

Omg what am i going to do. Anyone been in same situation? Any advice?

Do you want him to go with you everywhere, or does he insist? I hope you're ok :(

I go out regularly on my own with three little ones. My DP works away a lot.

yeah he works but only 24 hours and every other moment of the day i'm with him and the kids. i don't have any other life. don't get me wrong i love all my kids, i have a teenage son too. i wouldn't change them for the world but living with my husband is very hard work

Use amazon you could get one in the post by tomorrow?

It's the only way to know, but sounds like your period could well be on the way.

Actually not tomorrow now but Wednesday.

Can you encourage him to get another job? Or get one yourself for when he's not at work?
You sound really unhappy. Do you feel trapped? Is there anyone you can talk to about this in real life?

there's no way he'd work full time. not enough time left for playstation. he's playing gta now online with my 4 year old. no i don't have anyone to talk to. on antidepressants but they dont solve everything

Claire - post in relationships. You'll get some great advice. So you have no life, and he spends his playing games? Things could be so much better than this. Perhaps without him, the depression would lift.

I would do a test as soon as you can especially as you had no period last month. Why do you not go out ever on your own (just being nosey)? Do either of you work?

Sorry, cross posts with lots of people. So there are other issues, I would repost in relationships. It's no wonder you're depressed if you never go anywhere on your own.

Playing GTA online with 4 year old?

yeah i know not my rules. i dont approve but what can i do????

What do you mean 'what can I do'? Is the 4-year old your child?

yes of course he is but he's also my husbands child.

I bulk buy cheap tests and take one every month on cerazate (sp) because otherwise I get anxious about pregnancy. If you aren't then it might be worth doing.

It is ridiculous to be playing such a game with such a young child. But then you know that. What would your husband say if you asked him to stop? Have you asked him to stop?

Do you have access to a local sure start centre? Could you arrange to take the children there to groups without him? Even a church run mum and tots?

Do you mind me asking how old he is? He has three children, he needs to work to support them. I say this from a morale point of view, rather than a hand wringing one.

Please don't have any more children with him. My husband plays on cod. I hate it. But he does at least work full time, take the boys to football and does all the rest of it. I would be so angry if he only worked 24hours a week. Did you work before children?

I agree 're posting in relationships too

My DP is an avid gamer. But he waits till the kids have gone to bed. Simple.

Well he sounds like a catch. 3 kids under 4, controlling behaviour towards his partner and refuses to work more hours because he wants to play hugely inappropriate computer games with a 4 year old. Makes me wonder why you are still with him, never mind sleeping with him?

Oh, claire, whether or not you are pregnant is of course a huge worry, but I think you have an even bigger problem in your life .

Does your H realise that he is an adult, no, actually, he is a parent. He does NOT get to do what he wants, when he wants it. He has signed up for responsibility - amongst many others to not expose a very young child to a very adult game (over my dead body with GTA enter this house - I have 4 boys, I know they can/do play it elsewhere, but I will not tolerate it).
He ought to be your equal partner and friend, not your gaoler .

Goodness, I really hope you are not expecting - everything would get even harder.

… will GTA…

Being livid interferes with my typing, sorry.

Except for clothes, gdiapers and the normal stuff we didn't buy two of everything. We didn't see the point.

We bought 1 swing and 1 bouncer and alternated, and we bought highchairs that attached to the table to save up on space. Not everyone does this and it doesn't always work but let them cot shared (once they grew out of the twin co-sleeper) to save on money and space. Same with other things :)

Oops wrong thread! Urh lack of sleep....

i know. husband is 35 and is like a child but in an adult body with anger problems. i cant ever leave him as have 3 kids with him, no friends and no longer speak to any of my family. im 41 so i reckon i'll be 60 before kids grown up to get away and have my own freedom. my mistakes have cost me dearly

that is a really sad post Claire-I'm sure other people would agree with me that yes, you could leave him if you felt your life would be better without him. Take care