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4 kids 3 under 5 think i may be pregnant again

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claire103 · 16/08/2014 09:43

Omg what am i going to do. Anyone been in same situation? Any advice?

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claire103 · 20/08/2014 10:09

pourquoitugachestavie as for your comment 'its not really that hard to understand why you were reported not everyone tells the truth or is who they say they are' That could be said about anybody!!!!!!!!!!!!!! is everyone going to be reported??????? i am shocked and saddened to learn there are people like you out there who are quick to judge. all i came on here for was some advice about my situation and all it does is cause more trouble. i thought mumsnet was supposed to cheer you up and make things easier not make you feel like you've done yet another thing wrongSad

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 20/08/2014 10:42

Hahaha I'm not judging anyone - just explaining why you were reported.

Threads are reported all the time so don't feel singled out. It's in the guidelines, we're supposed to report threads if we have concerns. No one, including you, has done anything wrong on this thread.

Hope you can sort out your problems and you get the pregnancy test result you want. Smile

NoArmaniNoPunani · 20/08/2014 10:47

Can you link to the thread in site stuff re naming posters? Thanks

SugarSkully · 20/08/2014 11:12

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KateSMumsnet · 20/08/2014 11:26

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all your reports - we're really sorry about all this. Just to make it clear, we NEVER disclose the name of reporters. We've recently switched over to a new report system, and to be honest we're still getting to grips with a bit. There was a technical blip resulting in report mail being accidentally included when we mailed the OP.

As far as we know this has never happened before, and we're looking into things and are going to make very sure it doesn't happen again. This was a human error on our part, and we apologies to everyone involved.

Maryz · 20/08/2014 11:37

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claire103 · 20/08/2014 11:42

yes i am a new user but all this grief has made me not want to comment any more. i have enough worries in my life without all this crap.

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KateSMumsnet · 20/08/2014 12:06

@claire103

yes i am a new user but all this grief has made me not want to comment any more. i have enough worries in my life without all this crap.

Sorry about all of this Claire. We owe everyone a huge apology.

We've recently switched over to a new report system, and we're still getting to grips with aspects of it. On this occasion, we mailed you off the back of a report we'd received, and forgot to hide the report part of it, which unfortunately included the email address of the reporter.

We'd like to ask, Claire, you to delete from your contacts the email address that was contained in our mail to you, and not use it again.

Mumsnet is a post moderated site, and we actively encourage our posters to report anything they're not sure about. It happens all the time, and it's just how the site works.

We do take our posters' privacy and data security really seriously, we are so sorry that this happened, and we're taking steps to make sure it doesn't happen again.

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claire103 · 20/08/2014 13:30

all details have been deleted

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Owllady · 20/08/2014 13:40

So you even emailed her the posters email? Shock
Deary me!

PeterParkerSays · 20/08/2014 13:49

Christ, the data protection implications of that are interesting. Poor Bertie.

PisforPeter · 20/08/2014 13:49

Claire, try to take control of your life rather than just seeing yourself as a victim of other peoples actions.
Your 4yr old should not be playing these games.
You know it's wrong, you just seem a little passive about these things.
Get advice from women's aid, CAB etc.
Best of luck

MultipleMama · 20/08/2014 14:31

claire my offer still stands if you want to talk. PM whenever you want to xx

I've been here over a year and I've never been told to report more...

People get emotional and reply how they're feeling and others confide on MN because it's the only place they can. I think the OP can decide for herself if the thread is too upsetting and ask for it to be deleted herself, she doesn't need people doing it for her. I understand people have concerns and looking out for those who are trying to antagonise (wow I can't spell today!) but if you read the rest of the thread the OP has replied further; with no "bun fight" material...

And wow... I really hope MN sort the problem out soon because if people report and one person is an antogniser things could get messy!

HaroldLloyd · 20/08/2014 16:13

We have repeatedly been told to report more, there is nothing wrong with reporting the thread. OP was sent the wrong email, which is not the posters fault and for which MNHQ have apologised.

There are many reasons why a thread might get reported and I am sure no upset was intended.

Figster · 20/08/2014 16:20

Op thread reporting issues aside are you pg?

MultipleMama · 20/08/2014 16:22

Where have people been told to report more? Because honestly, this is news to me! Hmm

Anyway, this is all off topic. So back to the OP. I hope you're doing okay? claire. :)

HaroldLloyd · 20/08/2014 16:29

They are constantly asking, I'm surprised you haven't noticed.

It's unfair to complain about a thread being reported, when this an error at HQ.

MultipleMama · 20/08/2014 16:36

I wasn't complaining, I was giving my opinion on the subject as a whole.

Honestly, I've never seen anywhere where we've been told to report more. Saying that, I stay on a few forums and have never been on "MN stuff" if they news to report more has been repeatedly told on there. But now I know even though I hardly report threads to start with. :)

Maryz · 20/08/2014 17:35

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Misfitless · 20/08/2014 18:34

MultipleMama I wasn't aware of being asked to report more, either.

Why are we supposed to report more?

Misfitless · 20/08/2014 18:35

Claire, please don't feel the need to leave. It seems as if, all this aside, mn would be a good place to get advice, vent and confide in people who are ready to listen.

ellenjames · 20/08/2014 18:48

Wow bad form on mumsnets part that is awful!!! But Claire for Gods sake stop your 4 year old playing abusive games if you do only one thing recommended here!!! Poor kids and their dad can't be arsed to work full time too!!Shock

MultipleMama · 20/08/2014 19:22

Well, I'm sorry that I don't browse every single forum and I have read the guildlines; once, when I signed up. Don't call me naive. It's patronising and uncalled for.

I don't go on AIBU either. It's not a forum that interests me and neither does "MN stuff" and it's not a topic I find myself bothered or wound up enough to search posts and threads for.

HaroldLloyd · 20/08/2014 19:29

Mumsnet confirmed on this very thread that they actively encourage people to report anything they are unsure about so you don't have to dig far.

PacificDogwood · 20/08/2014 19:30

claire, I too would like to know whether or not you are pregnant? I hope you get the result you are hoping for.

Re reporting: many, many thread get reported for MNHQ to look at. Don't take it personal. As you are genuine, nothing further will happen.
MNHQ are clearly aware that they have vast amounts of egg on their faces re the passing on of reporter's details - dearie me…

After a huge influx of quite nasty trolls there was much discussion on various topics here and reporting of anything that had the potential to not be genuine was encouraged rather than 'troll hunting' on the thread. So the reporter here did absolutely the right thing - report, don't engage (I wish there was more of that).

I hope you are ok, claire, and that this has not put you off MN which I've found a great source of support and laughter (and sometimes honest home truths).