May 2025 FET

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I thought I would start a thread for those scheduled for a FET in May.

Had egg collection in Feb, feels like forever ago now.

I have just started a medicated FET cycle. Started taking norethisterone today. Provisional transfer scheduled for May 27th.

Anyone else on a similar timeline?

How’s everyone feeling today?

I felt like I was due a period most of this morning, then stood up too quickly and got some sharp pains for a few seconds around lunch time, other than that feel the same as normal. Emotionally I feel a bit sad and anxious as anticipating having to tell people it’s not worked and start all over again. Trying to be positive, but finding it hard!

@OneQuirkyPanda it's so emotionally draining, isn't it? And the fact we just have no real idea of what's happening in there. How many days post transfer are you now? Those sharp pains may well be the embryo burrowing further in!

I feel exhausted - i have about 3 good hours between 11 and 2 where I'm raring to go and can concentrate on work and then post 2pm, I feel like a zombie. Also feeling very nauseas and refluxy (but i do tend to feel nauseas in my luteal phase because of the progesterone and the cheese i had at lunch is acidic, so it might just be that!) So hard to know what are the meds and what's 'real'

Quick question for those where this isn't their first rodeo - did you ever get private beta blood tests done? And where did you get them done? my NHS clinic doesn't offer them and i don't think I'd trust a positive HPT after a previous chemical...

@PixieJxoxo I’m three days post transfer today, how about you?

I do hope so, I regret telling people now because if it doesn’t work I really can’t face having to tell them it’s failed and what they will say.

I’m finding it so hard to focus on anything at the moment, I started off feeling really excited and positive and then for some reason I’ve convinced myself it’s not worked and just feel upset and negative.

@camelinastorm good luck!

@OneQuirkyPanda try not to feel negative, as easy as that sounds! There’s nothing you can do now to change the outcome & hopefully your twinges etc are a good sign of your embryo implanting. Sending hugs!

@OneQuirkyPanda 8dp for me, so another 6 days until OTD. Yeah, i feel the same about having told people when the transfer was (but also wanted the time off work, so had to divulge what was going on, so bit of a tricky situation). I also told my mum and my sister and it just feels like a lot of expectation and pressure (on top of my own!)

I kinda had a similar trajectory where i was absolute certain it wouldn't work and i had to really shake myself out of it. I even convinced myself the embryologist was lying to spare my feelings and that actually it wasn't a good grade embryo and was unlikely to implant. Had to have a word with myself about how insane i was being. The clinic wouldn't have transferred if there was no chance - they know what they're doing, so just have to trust in that. I also found therapy quite useful in the lead up and this week post transfer - have you thought about accessing that via your clinic?

I think it's totally normal to feel upset and negative about this process - it is really rubbish to go through. Try not to beat yourself about it and please do vent away here, we're all probably feeling the same way!

@OneQuirkyPandai had the same thing yesterday when I stood up too quick and got the sharpest pain I bent over in pain. I took it as me screwing something up and going to quick though. I’m also so similar with convincing myself it’s failed and already anticipating and feeling sad about going for another round. Mad what we mentally torture ourselves with and it hasn’t even happened yet

I havnt had any symptoms apart from that single sharp pain and when I walk too much get a bit schy but that’s the medication I think so im sad and actually want to feel something to reassure me its doing something

Thanks guys, I’m really grateful for the support in this thread, my friends and family who know are lovely, but I think unless you’ve been through it yourself you can’t really understand.

We have one free counselling session through our clinic, I was saving this for if the transfer didn’t work.

I don’t do well with hormone changes, always been very sensitive to them, so it could be due all the hormones I’m on that I feel this way.

@PixieJxoxo My clinic makes us test on day 10, are you going to wait until OTD or test before then?

@Anniekent1 how strange that we both have had the same pain! Tbh I don’t think there’s a strong correlation between symptoms and outcome from what I’ve read, they could all just be from the hormones we are taking or PMS if not on any, so I wouldn’t worry.

@OneQuirkyPandaisn’t it weird. It was the sharpest pain as well but literally only as I stood up so genuinely got so annoyed at myself but maybe I should take it as something postive

i I promised myself I wouldn’t symptom spot but 3 days in it’s all I’m thinking of. Just want us all the be the lucky ones / right side of statistics for once.

let me know how you are feeling good or bad as @PixieJxoxo said I am sure we are all feeling the exact same so at least we can all be crazy together 🤣

@Anniekent1 yes mine was very sharp, lasted only a few seconds when I stood up to get my lunch out the microwave, then after that all my cramping and aching stopped. I don’t think we’ve done any harm just from standing up, hopefully it was the embryos implanting!

Yes I am looking out for every little sensation, even though I know logically it doesn’t mean anything either way and the only way to know is to test, but at this stage even that won’t tell us anything, its so hard isn’t it.

@OneQuirkyPanda ah, i'm jealous that your clinic has a sooner OTD, mine makes us wait until day 15 which seems excessive. I feel like I'll probably cave before OTD, but I'm going to try to hold out for as long as possible. I think by 10 days, it should be pretty definitive on an early test, but equally don't want the guessing game in case it's an ambiguous result

@Anniekent1 keeping my fingers crossed for you! really hoping this is a lucky FET thread!

@PixieJxoxo my clinic is 13DPT but I’m going to do 11 as that’s the Saturday and that should be pretty definitive. Don’t know why clinics make you wait so long as if it’s negative your taking all th de hormones for the sake of it.

have a good feeling about this thread. All the luck to you too!!

13 and 14 days otd is very long. The two clinics I’ve been in were 10 and 11 but I think sensitives tests from day 7 are generally pretty conclusive.

Wow sounds like there have been quite a few transfers this week, good luck to you all ❤️

Hi all,
I am a little late to the chat but am currently 3DP5DT and am starting to drive myself crazy so would really appreciate knowing what others are feeling at the moment?

I haven’t had any symptoms other than a sharp cramp that only lasted a few seconds yesterday and then today I’ve just been so anxious and moody. I feel like this could be because of the additional progesterone injections that I had to start on Wednesday after the transfer. Has anyone else felt like this?

thanks in advance and good luck to everyone ❤️

I’m 3dpt too - I think I’ve been feeling extra emotional (hormones) - I started crying at a Sam Fender song for no reason

apart from that I don’t feel any different, except a bit bloated and fat (but that’s likely all the chocolate and comfort eating be been doing 🐖!)

when will you test?

my clinic says day 11 - it seems cruel to make anyone wait long that that.
I reckon I’ll test at say 9
maybe 8 if I just can’t…..

I’m glad I’m not going mad then! I almost cried because I’d forgotten bananas off the online shop 🫣

I really don’t feel any different either so starting to Google everything and taking myself down some unhelpful rabbit holes.

My OTD is on the 19th (12 days after). I was going to test on maybe day 10 but when I mentioned it to my husband he’s asked me to wait for the OTD as he wouldn’t be able to cope with a negative before then so I’m going to have to try and hold out.

I think if I start to feel a different I might test earlier. I promised myself to not over think and over analyse but it’s just impossible isn’t it

@Impatientlywaiting321
I'm 2dp5dt and I've had weird cramps but I dunno if it's just from me constantly thinking about it because I'm hoping for the positive result. I've been super tired aswell and emotional, it's just a crazy rollercoaster. I cried randomly at work and my husband asked me what was wrong and I didn't know why I was crying 😅
Also feeling super positive one minute then the next I'm doubting everything

I’m also 3dpt and I feel very emotional today, I almost started crying watching race across the world just now! I’ve felt quite strange emotionally since the transfer tbh, it’s on my mind constantly and I’m finding it hard to focus on anything else.

I’ve had a lot of symptoms, but I think they’re all due to the progesterone and estrogen I’m on as I had a lot of them before the transfer.

That’s exactly what I’m doing - any weird twinges I think is it real or am I just convincing myself as I want to feel something so badly!

Thats the perfect way to sum it up - absolute rollercoaster. I just want the next week to hurry past now!

@OneQuirkyPanda I am finding it really hard to think about anything else too. Are you still taking it easy? Or have you gone back to normal activity?

@Impatientlywaiting321 I had the day of the transfer and two days after off work, but I didn’t rest as my clinic told me to walk, so we went on some day trips and I visited my friend and her baby (which was nice, but also made me sad), today was my first day back to work, but I’m finding it very hard to focus. How about you?

@OneQuirkyPanda that must have been difficult to see your friends baby ❤️ I relaxed on the first two days and just did some life admin but did still go walking with the dogs. But today I have gone back to pretty much normal as I was going a bit stir crazy but have just been so irritable and tired.

I’m so confused, is day one day of the transfer or day one post transfer? So technically it’s only been 48 hours but it’s considered as day 3?

I keep trying to see if I have any symptoms but nothing whatsoever other than a sharp pain last night from how I was sleeping but I think it’s because of all the follicle that as part of the medicated cycle.

I’ve been doing my normal routine and doing take any time off other than the afternoon of the transfer as really need to stay busy as otherwise I spiral. I must admit, I did test this evening to make sure that the trigger was out so that if I test early I know for sure it has left my system.

it’s amazing that there seems to be about 5 of
us that had our transfer on Wednesday ❤️🙌🏻

does anyone have any nice plans for the weekend.

Got my answer, so if you had a transfer on Wednesday it would make today 2dp5dt. This always confuses me but day one is the next day, an extra day to add to the waiting game

I caved and tested this evening as well, it was a stark white negative, which I know at 3dpt is very common even if it is successful, but it still made me sad to see. I don’t know whether to test again tomorrow or just wait a bit longer. Not sure what’s worse though, waiting days and days just to end up seeing a negative or seeing a negative every day.